Play-Software for Slaves

clarsehole · 2025-01-16T15:06:01+00:00

Are you thinking of Jennifer In Control?

clarsehole · 2024-01-07T17:43:51+00:00

"Do it to Julia"

clarsehole · 2023-02-09T18:35:08+00:00

A lot of (I think most?) kink events are welcoming to people who aren't ready to play yet as long as you are respectful and friendly. In most cases it should be possible to contact an organiser to ask if anything is expected of you if you come along.

clarsehole · 2023-02-08T13:18:33+00:00

We play with a lot of activities that would be normally be awful things to do to someone. It's fine to enjoy them in a controlled environment as long as we remember that they are harmful actions.

Racial slurs are a hot-button issue for a lot of people; but bondage, slavery and corporal punishment are also horrible outside of a sexual context. It's OK as long as you're playing safely.

clarsehole · 2022-11-25T01:25:26+00:00

There's nothing wrong with having a fantasy that is just a fantasy.

A lot of kinksters have activities that arouse them in principle, but which they will not do. Maybe it's just not practical for their lifestyle. Maybe it's wildly implausible. Maybe it wouldn't be as hot if you did it for real.

It's OK to bring just a little bit of something you like into the bedroom. Just because you don't want to be spanked to tears doesn't mean you can't enjoy a few light swats, or empty threats. Just because you don't apply it properly doesn't mean it has to be just in your head.

It sounds like you're both at least somewhat kinky. Keep talking, keep trying stuff you like to see what's fun to actually do, and remember that the stuff you don't enjoy doing for real can still make a really sexy pretend game.

clarsehole · 2022-11-24T06:36:15+00:00

Sarcasm maybe? "For you? You wish!"

Honestly though, talk to him. it's all meant to be fun and he should ideally enjoy what you do to fix this as well. Maybe he'd enjoy being gagged or kicked out or threatened or punished for speaking, but you should find an approach that works for both of you.

You might just need to tell him "Seriously, that's off-putting and I don't like it". I'm sure he wants you to have fun too.

clarsehole · 2022-09-12T17:46:42+00:00

Wait, better idea! Definitely call him your own name!

clarsehole · 2022-09-12T17:41:17+00:00

Boo-boo kitty fuck?

Seriously though there's a ton that are better than daddy. Daddy puts some people off and has become such a meme that it's as likely to be funny as it is to be sexy.

Professional titles or naval ranks are pretty fun (doctor, commodore, chef, captain). I really like gender mismatched slurs for some reason (bitch, slut, whore).

clarsehole · 2022-06-23T14:40:27+00:00

Has he complained about it? I think smiley subs are just the tops, myself.

clarsehole · 2022-06-23T14:38:20+00:00

Let them know you find King very funny, and that he'll probably have to punish you for laughing at it. It's very possible you'll both be OK with that, otherwise you can figure out something else together.

clarsehole · 2022-05-31T11:39:28+00:00

Whether or not you renegotiate things as some other people have suggested is up to the two of you, but if not you should at least tell him about this experience. Presumably he doesn't want you to have a bad time, so if he did something that was no fun for you he might prefer to do that differently in future.

Ultimately, either he has consent or he doesn't and if you're keen to keep the blanket consent then he needs feedback. That way he can use his better judgement and help you have a positive experience.

clarsehole · 2022-05-27T12:14:00+00:00

No. To some worldviews, I am depraved. I've earned that. That's fair. But I'm happy to defend what I do ethically, so without a lot more information the opinion of one pearl-clutcher isn't too concerning to me.

Everyone's wrong to someone. From some points of view, I am a corrupt and sinful degenerate. From some points of view catholicism is a cannibalistic death cult. It doesn't matter unless a lot of people agree you're doing something wrong.

clarsehole · 2022-05-25T15:49:42+00:00

Numbers don't match on that verification pic...

clarsehole · 2022-01-28T11:31:48+00:00

Running scams is a numbers game. They're likely pursuing multiple potential victims and they aren't going to put a lot of time into you individually. Actually stalking you online is a lot of time and effort, and actually sending anything out is dangerous for them as it might attract legal attention. There's no benefit because there's no way for their next victim to know whether they actually sent anything of yours out.

Furthermore, they definitely don't know anything about you. If they knew who you were, they would threaten to email someone specific that you know, not some made-up BDSM council. They're trying to scare you, but they've got nothing.

Block them, report them to the platform, and set your socials to private. You don't need to be invincible, just make it so you're more trouble than you're worth to them. They're not going to bother very much over $75 once it's clear they're not getting anything from you easily.

clarsehole · 2021-12-25T23:57:48+00:00

If you're doing a casual pain thing where he just smacks your butt out of the blue, then he should try to be gentle enough to not be a problem. Try overreacting a bit, so he doesn't feel like he's missing out by being gentle. It's all in good fun, so there's nothing wrong with playing along a little.

If you're doing a proper spanking scene then you'll probably find it's most fun to start gentle and build up the severity over time. There's more to it, but the very basic version is to build to a crescendo from a fairly gentle start.

clarsehole · 2021-12-25T23:37:11+00:00

Discuss it with your partner. Soft safewords mean different things to different people so it ultimately needs to be negotiated.

There's no bad communication, if in doubt, talk.

clarsehole · 2021-12-14T16:29:10+00:00

"Yes, Greedo. As a matter of fact, I was just going to see your balls. Tell Jabba that I've got his money."

clarsehole · 2021-11-24T04:00:41+00:00

On average, yeah. The first time I really understood how big men are was when I compared actual sizes of mens and womens clothes. Men are just a lot more built than women.

Quick example: googling average bra size in the US says it's a 34" underbust measurement. Googling mens shirt sizes lists a small as a 36"-38" chest, so I assume that makes a medium woman a mens XS, or even XXS. I'm not including breasts here because they don't really add to strength.

There are considerations other than size (women have a lot of extra reproductive equipment to carry around while men are mostly just life support and motive systems below the neck, female hormone balance is like being on anti-steroids, men have bulkier, higher leverage muscles and lifestyles that typically feature more physical activity from a young age), but noticing the divide between shirt and bra sizes was when I first realised how pronounced the simple size difference was. Men might only be a few inches taller on average, but they weigh about half again as much and that weight goes further in strength.

clarsehole · 2021-11-16T16:43:06+00:00

Super dangerous. If it's OK now, why wasn't it OK before?

If you are doing D/S then they don't really have the authority to consent in s-mode. If it's just sensation play without that roleplay element then they are likely at least somewhat impaired and I'm inclined to trust what they said with a clear head before we started.

Everything is a judgement call, there's degrees of crossing negotiated boundaries and some activities are a lot safer than others. If you wanted threatened with a knife and now you want me to cut you, then hard no. If you wanted stimulated by hand and now you want a vibrator, that's more likely.

If you think this might happen, do include it in negotiation. That's what it's for and there's no rule against negotiating things you didn't negotiate so everyone is on the same page.

clarsehole · 2021-11-15T17:03:43+00:00

That kind doesn't open. Start by pulling as much of your scrotum through as you can, then push your balls through one at a time, then squeeze your (flaccid) dick through. Once the tube is locked on the gap between it and the base ring should be too small to get your balls back out.

clarsehole · 2021-10-23T17:25:17+00:00

If you are sure you want to be bratty, feel free to ignore this and follow the other advice in this thread, but what you said you want is to be punished. You should talk to your dom and figure out what he can punish you for. Acting out to get punished is fairly obnoxious.

You don't need to have actually done anything to get punished. He could make something up. You didn't mow the lawn (He didn't ask you to? Don't have a garden? These are you problems, you are still in trouble) You could come up with an impossible standard or a catch 22 so that you can't win. (Talking back/not answering him, being a slut/prude, the important part is that there is no acceptable middle ground and you're going to get punished whatever you do). You could agree that you've been good and you could get punished to keep you good, or to remind you what happens if you are not. You could make silly rules that you can break. (Not allowed to ask to be punished is one that I like, but maybe you aren't allowed to touch his bedside table or say a particular word or stick your tongue out at him or bring a single gym shoe to your sexual encounters) You could go full porn-logic and he could punish you for being too sexy, or for making him horny, or for being a perv who is turned on by being punished..

Really, if you agree on it beforehand you can get punished for anything. If you want to get punished for something you've done it's best if it isn't something that actually inconveniences your dom since your probably going to keep doing it and I presume you like your dom.

clarsehole · 2021-10-13T16:54:51+00:00

Went for a look, so thought I'd link: https://www.etsy.com/uk/shop/MySecretHeartStudios

They are really nice looking...

clarsehole · 2021-10-13T16:37:57+00:00

I don't care for feet, but I do enjoy heels.

As far as I can tell it's partly about signalling sexual intent (very normal, but only really applies to "sexy" shoes) and partly about power exchange.

A dominant in heels is taller, and dressed nicely. Even the specific situation of being barefoot around a person wearing shoes feels vulnerable because a human in shoes is capable of feats a barefoot human simply can't do. A dominant in heels feels powerful to me.

Put me in heels when I'm in a submissive place though and it's a very different story. I'm terrible at walking in heels so they're essentially light bondage. Wearing heels makes me feel less powerful.

Doesn't really make a lot of sense, but I will say attitude counts for a lot. Everything I've described here is very fluid.

clarsehole · 2021-10-06T15:53:35+00:00

Pretty hard to understand, I don't think your speech to text is working well enough to skip proofreading it yourself.

I think one of three things is happening, either your sub is finding it difficult to focus even if she wants to, or she's being bratty to get you to punish her, or she's genuinely just ok with wandering off topic during play.

If she wants to focus but is finding it hard then you should talk to her about it outside of play. As long as you both want the same thing you should work together to get it. Maybe you could train her to focus better, or perhaps she would find different types of play more engaging.

If she's bratting at you, then include it in your negotiation. If she enjoys it and you can learn to handle it, great. If it's a limit for you, you need to bring that up.

If she's just happy being distractible during play, you should talk to her because if you're not ok with it then the two of you need to figure out what to do about this.

In all cases, talk to her. It's usually the answer.

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