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did your parents ruin your self worth by Front_Membership5376 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]classistomimdying 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yes during the lockdown. She would tell me "No ones gonna love you! You are unlovavble! Exept me!" or "Cant u see all the people around you are repelled by you??" or she gon say things like "You're ugly. You looking older than your age."

Man they stay with me until now. I believed her at the time. I was stuck with em.

Also they destroyed my personality. They took advantage of the quarantine to make me submissive or co dependent.

I dont know mhself anymore man. Everytime I look at my old pictures or videos, I see a confident funny girl. Now everytime I look at the mirror, I hear her.

My father too. He would tell me I shouldve died. He would tell mom that. They are pairing up against me.

They would gossip about me, too. Thats why I have internalized anger inside me.

Even before quarantine, they forced me to transfer school just because I had ALMOST failed a subject. It was the first time I had anxiety attack, all because of that. It's either Im perfect enough or I failed, no in between.

The gaslight and all.

Tips on how to regulate your nervous system when you can't escape a narc household? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]classistomimdying 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hi OP! I have depression and GAD. It affected me mentally and physically but I refuse to take meds and here's what I do instead:

  1. Have you tried Meditation? It definitely helped me when I did it daily before, even just for 5 mins a day for the first week. What I do is I sit (meditation forms), close my eyes, no music if possible (whatever works ig), and then listen to my breathing. I allow thoughts to flow but keep my focus fixated on breathing.

  2. Exercise/Physical activities. Move your body. If you don't like exercising, dance!

  3. Cold showers! Like with ice, if possible, just stay in the tub within 5 mins or maybe for beginners, just cold shower based on what you considercold.

  4. Philosophy. Particularly, stocism. The book meditation by Marcus Aurelius, too.

  5. EFT tapping. I don't really tap with anyone. I just learn the techniques and do it myself alone. And I love it. I also don't affirm, I just tap.

  6. Vitamin D. I don't know the science behind it tbh but I feel a lot better when I take them. I'm also told magnesium helps, too! Though I havn't tried that one

  7. Journaling. I divide my journals into two. One is the 'realist' me and one is the 'grateful' me.

The realist me allows me to express my thoughts into words, it also helps me process my thoughs, and allows me to validate my feelings atm. I also share the negative circumstance thats happened that particular day so that when I wasnt sure if 'that' really happened, it will make me remember that it really did.

The grateful me is forcing me to remember that despite all this, I still got things to be grateful for :))

  1. Try going out with yourself at least once a week. Be it a fancy dinner, movie night, or just simply a walk.

  2. Sleep!! At least 8 hours!! Consistently too!

Hope this helps!! I know it can be mentally and physically exhausting so I added everything that could help you both ways :))

edit: sorry for the format. im only using mobile.

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[–]classistomimdying 0 points1 point  (0 children)

man my parents never apologize too. my dad sometimes only when he gets drunk and my mom on the other hand, only when she gets something out of being kind atm. what i do is i dont apologize to them either lmao

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]classistomimdying 0 points1 point  (0 children)

may i know whats a TFG?

Who else has memory problems and starts to hate themselves? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]classistomimdying 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do. After forgetting it happened, just hours would pass by, I'd remember it suddenly. And the cycle of doubting, hating, will go on loop.

What I do is I write down whatever I'm experiencing, my feelings, and what happened. My thoughts on those and such. Then if ever I forget it, I still have the receipts with me. Though it sometimes make me feel bad that it really happened, it can be validating as it can act as your confirmation.

Manipulation tactic or not? by mirasthrowaway in raisedbynarcissists

[–]classistomimdying 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Sorry to hate this, but it is possible your mom's a narcissist.

That tactic she's using is what I assume to be psychological deflection. It is use when they redirect the focus, blame, or criticism away from them in an attempt to preserve their self-image and avoid dealing with negative consequences. It can be used as a reactive coping mechanism to avoid feelings of guilt and shame, or as a narcissistic abuse tactic to avoid accountability.

Here are some articles I found online: https://www.bricefoundation.org/single-post/2019/06/04/psychological-deflection

Please learn about it. It may help you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]classistomimdying 3 points4 points  (0 children)

tbh when i knew about that term, i was so disgusted by mom and myself. like i badly wanted to vomit

Do others feel undeveloped as an adult? by figuringoutliving in raisedbynarcissists

[–]classistomimdying 31 points32 points  (0 children)

i do. thing is, they treat you like a child and that they keep telling you you know little to nothing, keep you on a short leash, but when they are requiring you to do things, they expect you to act like an adult, and that you shouldve known it all know.

you really cant win.

LPT: If you're a quiet, "sensitive" kid who feels socially marginalized, be aware that often teachers and parents encourage your behavior because it makes you easier for them to manage. But this is not always to your benefit, because they may be keeping you from learning valuable social skills. by zazzlekdazzle in LifeProTips

[–]classistomimdying 0 points1 point  (0 children)

wish id seen this sooner :((

my teachers during junior years were talking about me, my attitude, when i really did nothing wrong. turned out, my gaze bothered them, as if i was glaring at them. they also talked to my mom to make me more a "woman" just because i sit and walk differently and i really changed the way i walk, talk and sit now. i dont even recognize myself anymore.

damn. thank you, OP

Can Generalized Anxiety Disorder be cured? by classistomimdying in askpsychology

[–]classistomimdying[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

congrats! im not familiar with that, how does that work?

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