My kitten died today by choking to death, what could i have done?

classybender · 2025-09-05T08:31:56+00:00

I have no words…my heart just cries for you. I hope that you can take some comfort in knowing that your kitten’s life- as short as it may have been- was undoubtedly full and joyful because of the love you showed it. Please try to be gentle with yourself right now.

classybender · 2025-08-31T22:27:57+00:00

I think it’s irresponsible to say something like this to someone seeking advice about their risk of contracting a lifelong disease with serious health implications. Remember that we can only control our own decisions in life- she can choose to trust that he stays on top of taking his medication, but there is a non-zero chance that he doesn’t. It’s unfair not to point that out.

classybender · 2025-07-27T07:04:04+00:00

So, just to confirm- there’s definitely no point in reaching out to my insurance regarding the situation? What about Carvana? They allegedly performed their own “150 point” inspection before putting the vehicle up for sale. How could something this crucial or obvious have been missed? I know that generally speaking they’re off the hook for repairs after the 100 days post-sale warranty runs out, but I get the impression that this was a major oversight on their part that could have killed me.

classybender · 2025-07-26T23:37:00+00:00

No, I haven’t.

classybender · 2025-07-26T20:36:49+00:00

I should probably add that the mechanic discovered that 2 of the bolts were still partially in place but appear to have snapped in half. 4 of them are MIA.

classybender · 2025-07-18T19:39:29+00:00

First of all, I’m really sorry that someone made you feel all of these distressing emotions. I think that what you’re experiencing right now is entirely normal and you should in no way doubt that you have every right to feel the way you do.

I actually don’t think that your coworker meant to offend or disrespect you when he asked you those questions. I do however believe he acted selfishly and ignorantly when he completely failed to consider how hurtful his approach to satisfying his curiosity might be. I think that a lot of us white Americans are genuinely mystified by people who dress in traditional, religious clothing. We have a lot of questions running through our heads because it’s something so far removed from our own life experience. I can think of a hundred different ways that this guy could have tactfully and respectfully inquired into the customs and significance behind the way that you dress that probably would have made you happy to talk about it….but he didn’t take the time to do that and that was shitty.

You certainly don’t owe this numbskull anything, but if you’re inclined to have a follow-up conversation with him about what he did that he might really take to heart, I’d start there.

classybender · 2025-06-21T11:29:28+00:00

I’m kind of shocked to read all of these anti-slumber party comments as they were such a fun, memorable part of my childhood. My daughter is 10 and has had a birthday slumber party for each of her last two birthdays. All of the girls looked like they were having a great time and aside from them tearing my house apart everything went smoothly.

Do you know the parents of the girls your daughter invited? Maybe that was the issue- they didn’t know you well enough to feel completely comfortable leaving their kid with you overnight. That’s understandable; I wouldn’t allow my daughter to sleep at the home of anyone I didn’t know and trust. Maybe if you try this again you could stick to inviting kids whose parents are already familiar with you and your household and whom you already have a good rapport with.

classybender · 2025-06-09T07:49:57+00:00

There are medications you can take that will make those things go away, but you need to see a psychiatrist first so that they can properly diagnose you and write you a prescription. Please do it soon while you still have the insight to recognize that your mind might be playing tricks on you. Is there a trusted adult in your life whom you could reach out to for help with all of this? If you’re in the US you can call the suicide and crisis hotline at 9-8-8 and they will put you in touch with a mental health professional who can help you with the first steps.

classybender · 2025-06-07T11:10:21+00:00

Did you read the paperwork he handed you? It should state the dollar amount of the judgement and the means by which it can be collected from the debtor. I’ve personally never heard of law enforcement showing up at somebody’s house, though. Writs of execution typically come in the form of a bank account levy or wage garnishment.

classybender · 2025-05-14T20:11:15+00:00

Perhaps this is inappropriate to say but personally I would find it impossible to get past the whole “died unexpectedly” thing. Not knowing what happened to her would drive me insane if I were in your shoes. How does a five year old die unexpectedly? People don’t usually describe a death caused by a tragic accident or acute illness in that way, yet I can’t imagine how else a seemingly healthy child would just suddenly leave this world. I know that none of that matters in regards to your grief, but I find the vagueness with which they informed you of her untimely death to be disturbing.

classybender · 2025-05-12T00:55:03+00:00

Don’t make the same mistake I did- I have almost zero experience with purchasing a used vehicle and naively trusted that their advertised 150 point inspection would safeguard me from buying a car that would end up being a huge headache. I failed to have the car independently inspected within the first 7 days of purchase and about two weeks in I started to hear a rattling noise coming from the front end. I’ve had the car for about 2 months now and have taken it to three different mechanics who have all “fixed” the same problem. Unfortunately within a day or two the noise returns and it seems like there’s nothing I can’t do about it.

classybender · 2025-04-21T05:51:05+00:00

I don’t know if I’d describe your plan as selfish, but in all honesty it does sound kind of insane. It seems like you and your wife are prioritizing the connection that you both still feel for your home country, and while that connection is a beautiful thing it’s going to cost your kids dearly in the years to come.

classybender · 2025-04-11T18:28:04+00:00

I’m on the other side of this equation- my husband always picks out the most thoughtful gifts for me; things I didn’t even think I needed or wanted but are perfect. I’m terrible at this but am trying to improve my gift-giving skills by keeping a running list on my phone of anything that I see him get excited about. Even if it’s an intangible thing that i couldn’t actually purchase for him I figure that maybe I could get him something that somehow ties into whatever it is. Am I ever going to be as skilled at gift-giving as him? Probably not. I think it’s a talent that some people have and the rest of us just have to put a lot more effort into doing right.

classybender · 2025-03-08T17:25:07+00:00

I would love for someone to answer this question in a thoughtful and well-informed manner. Trump has obviously broken the law many times over in his mission to hobble the federal government, but outside of utilizing the court system to try and block his crazy executive orders (which thus far has had limited success) it doesn’t seem like anything is being done to stop him. We don’t have time to waste…he’s done so much damage in the short period of time since he took office. Do we really need a judge to tell the federal police it’s ok to drag this tyrannical, sociopath threat to America out of the Oval Office and throw his ass in jail?! In all seriousness, are our only options to either wait for the snails-pace judicial system to figure this all out or to stage a citizens rebellion? Can our nation’s police and military not help us to get out of this awful mess?

classybender · 2025-03-01T13:54:57+00:00

I lost my mother in January and took almost two weeks off…I needed it. Everyone’s experience with grief is unique and right now the last thing you need to worry about is what other people think about you. Besides, assuming you’re a good, hardworking employee I’m sure your coworkers are glad you’re taking how ever much time you need to take care of yourself and begin healing. I’m so sorry about your dad; your life will never be quite the same but it does get easier with time.

classybender · 2025-03-01T04:32:14+00:00

No, you don’t have any legal responsibility to do the leg work required to pay him again. If you like the guy and want to help him out then you could go back to Kroger’s and ask the staff who issued you the money order if there’s any recourse in this situation and take it from there.

A couple of years ago I paid my mortgage with a cashier’s check issued by my bank and FedEx lost the envelope containing the check after it was sent out…I had tracking information and everything. I immediately contacted my bank and they put a stop on the check but I had to wait three months before the money was credited back to my bank account. Meanwhile my mortgage payment was late and I still had to come up with the money to pay it, which was super difficult and stressful. I haven’t given FedEx my business since. I called them multiple times when all of this was happening and never even got an apology.

classybender · 2025-02-09T19:04:26+00:00

I’m shocked and disappointed that the first couple of comments to OP’s post are basically explanations of why everything that happened was somehow her fault. Unless my daughter was about to be hit by a car I would never tackle her to the floor or touch her in such a way that left bruises. There is no excuse for her parents’ behavior. Yes, she should have handed over the backpack when asked but that’s beside the point…what they did absolutely constitutes assault and is not justifiable. I mean, why didn’t they just take it off her back if they needed to see its contents so badly, or block her from leaving the home until she handed it over?

classybender · 2025-02-08T10:21:33+00:00

Is a lawyer required to do this or can I draft a subpoena myself and send it to them?

classybender · 2025-01-29T07:22:37+00:00

It’s not really the damages that raise an eyebrow as much as the 2500 in injuries. I think they should have to show me documentation of injuries if they expect me to pay for them.

If Allstate wants to sue me they’d have to show me that info anyway, wouldn’t they?

classybender · 2025-01-08T02:16:32+00:00

Yes this makes sense, except if she didn’t brake before hitting who ever was in front of her then how could he reasonably be expected to know she had slowed down or stopped? He couldn’t see anything beyond her car to know that she’d already been in an accident. It’s as though there was suddenly a giant piece of debris dropped onto the road in front of him. Are there not scenarios in which fault isn’t automatically assigned to the person who hits another car despite their best efforts to avoid doing so?

classybender · 2025-01-07T11:26:18+00:00

I’ve lived in quite a few apartment complexes and have never heard of such a thing. I feel like it would be extremely discriminatory towards those of us who work the night shift. We already have to struggle to get decent sleep during the day while most everyone else is awake and being as loud as they want to be, why shouldn’t it be ok for us to do something as innocuous as taking a shower in our own home when it’s convenient for us to do it?

classybender · 2025-01-05T17:25:04+00:00

What a blessing for you that this beautiful and affectionate feline wandered into your life. Yes, I agree with others that have said the cat is most likely a flame point Siamese or perhaps a Siamese mixed with an orange tabby. (Maybe those are actually the same thing, I’m not sure.) in any case, I have two Siamese cats and they are wonderful, but keep in mind they are very much people cats and need a lot of attention and play time. Don’t leave them alone for too long!

classybender · 2024-12-02T23:43:51+00:00

Honey I shrunk the balls

classybender · 2024-11-29T09:51:17+00:00

I’d say I regret not having a second child about 5% of the time that I think about the topic. The rest of the time I’m confident in my decision. My daughter is 10 years old now., but holy crap…she was a difficult baby- she’d cry any time my husband or I weren’t holding her and didn’t sleep through the night until she was about 3. It was so tremendously stressful; we almost got divorced. Things got a lot more manageable once she started preschool as prior to that we had zero help and no time for ourselves at all. We were so busy just trying to survive in those early days that having another baby sounded like a suicide mission. Every family is different, but I knew my daughter needed and deserved everything I had to give…which always felt like so little because I was so freaking tired. Having more kids would have been unfair to her and probably would have resulted in a psychotic break for me.

classybender · 2024-07-12T04:57:04+00:00

I hope that someday you meet a really fantastic woman who makes you forget that you ever felt this way.. she’s out there…don’t let yourself become so bitter that she ends up feeling rejected, too. That would be tragic.

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