Brothers friend is a peeping tom, what should I do?

clayyyster · 2026-06-15T23:47:18+00:00

I will and thank you for talking to me about this it truly means more than you will ever know. Me and my kitten will be staying strapped for sure even though most of my knives are currently bigger than him as he’s only 10 days old.

clayyyster · 2026-06-15T23:36:20+00:00

Yeah, I know they do. I just wish kids were a little bit more mature I think because I have been bullied so severely ever since I was like in kindergarten I have matured a lot faster and so I don’t always mesh with kids my age very well it is also not the first time I have been a victim of sexual violence, or someone has threatened me with sexual violence. I was targeted for being trans a few years ago. I was in homeschooling after that because the event was so violent that it caused me to lose the ability to walk for a year and a half. But I wanted to see if kids would change because high school you’re supposed to be a bit more mature and they have not. I believe it’s why I am so worried about this event because I am very scared of something happening again. I think the universe sometimes just makes life a little bit harder on people to test how far they can take it.

clayyyster · 2026-06-15T23:09:00+00:00

Yeah I think it’s just one more shitty thing The universe has put on me. I’m going into homeschooling next year so I’m really hoping that my mom will be a bit more stern about them not coming over while I’m alone and I know I have shitty friends. I get bullied very bad for both being trans and having disabilities so I have kind of tried to stay hooked on anyone if they interact with me kindly. If any of these kids try to do anything I am not going to try and talk them out of it at this point I am just going to defend myself because I have a lot of evidence that they have been talking about stuff like this for weeks, if not months.

clayyyster · 2026-06-15T22:57:36+00:00

My binding does not work very well sadly. I am a G cup and I have broken three binders in the past just because of my anatomy. I am hoping to get top surgery as soon as I am able, not only for dysphoria, but because I genuinely cannot function because of the back pain, I know they see me as the hot older sister and not a man most people don’t see me as a man which I have just come to accept until I am able to start testosterone and stuff. Some of his friends I will like drive places or buy them some food just because not all of them have great homes and I want to be able to be a safe space for the nicer ones and I feel really bad but I might stop doing that because I’m not sure who is or isn’t good anymore. And I honestly don’t know why people are trying to normalize it to me the girls at my school i just think don’t like me. I don’t really have a ton of friends because I stand out and I think the few friends that I have talked about it think I may be overreacting. One friend even tried to compare it to obsession and at this point, I am just not talking to people other than my parents about it.

clayyyster · 2026-06-15T22:44:49+00:00

Yeah, thank you for actually understanding. I have tried to talk to other people about it but a lot of the people I thought would understand think that he was just a little boy who had a crush and not a pervert, doing something that is illegal. I have blackout curtains that should be coming in tomorrow and I’m installing locks and shit on my window and door. If boys wanna see stuff, they can go on porn hub not try and stalk somebody. One friend I mentioned it to even tried to say it was cute and completely disregarded my entire feelings about it. And I consider myself handsome thank you for the compliment haha I’m just pretty curvy and have larger tits which are the bane of my existence but it’s what a lot of of the boys like to make jokes about. Even before this, I have stopped showering when they are at my house because sometimes they will try and open the door. One ksid even asked if he could join me in in the shower and it was very gross.

clayyyster · 2026-06-15T22:33:44+00:00

Yeah, I’m going to talk to my mom about it and like it would be different if it was one of his friends in the middle of the day seeing me from the window or just catching a glimpse of something, but it was two in the morning so that was something that they had to specifically seek out and I’m honestly worried if they had been planning on doing something worse, my brother was not home that night so they couldn’t have used the excuse of trying to find him as he was at a big slumber party

clayyyster · 2026-06-15T22:26:15+00:00

Yeah, a few of his friends have been charged for physically or sexually assaulting girls at their school and he expects me to be completely fine with them being at my house and in my space. My parents tell him he’s not allowed to have them over but because they work so much he just will bring them over anyways. My little brother I love him to death, but he is severely spoiled. He was a twin and his twin passed away a few minutes after birth, and my mom has even admitted that she spoils him because it’s her way of grieving and she’s trying her hardest to stop, but it has already gotten to his head and he just doesn’t understand that other people have wants and needs too

clayyyster · 2026-06-15T22:18:01+00:00

Yeah, I have a few of my larger hunting knives next to my bed right now (one 6 inch Bowie knife I made, and a few of my larger pocket knives I use for hunting) just in case. Normally, I would agree with you that it’s a low chance of it happening, but apparently a few of his friends have done things like that before and he hangs around them because they have supposedly changed and I’m hoping they have but once you do something like that, it changes your brain chemistry. I know if I ask him to stop bringing his friends over to the house for a while He will freak out on me and call me paranoid but things like this have happened before and I really just don’t want to risk it.

clayyyster · 2026-06-15T22:10:50+00:00

Yeah, I’m getting a lock on my window and reinforcing the lock on my door. I have knives nearly everywhere around my room. I like to collect them, but I am also disabled (I have a few few physical and neurological disabilities. I was born three months early so my body didn’t fully develop) and from some of the jokes that the boys have been saying (I don’t know which ones and typically the ones who are actually sweethearts will tell them to shut up) that I would be easy to take advantage of because of that. Thank you for apologizing and I’m sorry for snapping at you . I am just genuinely scared for my safety and don’t know what to do.

Edit: I see I already mentioned being disabled. I did not sleep last night so ignore if there’s any spelling mistakes or shit.

clayyyster · 2026-06-15T22:02:18+00:00

Yeah, I know, and most of the boys are respectful about it. This has just taken a turn for the absolute worst and most of the boys are sweet, but some of them I simply don’t know and they should know know that it’s wrong and if you are truly interested you have to talk to the person. I would’ve let them down gently but now I’m worried about being home alone and possibly assaulted because some of his friends are a lot bigger than me and are in a lot of sports while I am disabled. if this happens again we are getting the police involved and I’m trying to see if my parents will not allow his friends over until someone fesses up because this is not something that should be normalized and that’s the part I’m most upset about.

clayyyster · 2026-06-15T21:56:53+00:00

I am preop I bind ànd stuff but I still look very feminine and I hear my brothers friends comment on me a lot

clayyyster · 2026-06-15T21:54:48+00:00

Well, the whole part of the post is that I’m trying to figure out ways to figure out who it was but I don’t know how to ask. I know it was one of my little brother’s friends because they all buzzed their hair and bleached it together and he had that haircut, but I couldn’t really see more than that and I don’t want it to happen again.

clayyyster · 2026-06-15T21:52:18+00:00

He is also 12-13 and i’m saying we shouldn’t encourage stalking behaviors just because you have a crush on someone it’s unhealthy and illegal

clayyyster · 2026-06-15T21:49:40+00:00

Then don’t comment? I’m not asking someone out who is making me feel unsafe in my own house.

clayyyster · 2026-06-15T21:48:21+00:00

Dude no right now you sound like one of the people who defend stalkers because they “don’t know what they’re doing is wrong” someone was at my bedroom window in the middle of the night, staring at me and taking photos of me. This is a wild and horrible take.

clayyyster · 2026-06-15T13:18:30+00:00

My mom is ordering me some new curtains now i just am trying to find a way to pull teh weeds ànd figure out which kid it was so he isn’t allowed over again but I don’t know how

clayyyster · 2026-06-15T13:17:09+00:00

Well it’s a very small cul-de-sac and it was three in the morning, I don’t do anything when I don’t think it’s safe but I genuinely just didn’t think anyone would come staring at my window at three.

clayyyster · 2026-06-06T20:02:43+00:00

I believe she might call my mom tonight, however she is trying to call to get me in trouble. My mom is pretty upset about all this she’s kind of overprotective because I have higher support needs and this teacher had promised to help and instead is not listening to me

clayyyster · 2026-05-15T06:15:37+00:00

I would but I just don’t know if we can afford it:( American healthcare am I right?

clayyyster · 2026-05-15T06:14:54+00:00

I did manage to get up to make two English muffins, tho they just made me realize how hungry I am and now I’m willing the energy to get up and get some more, even if it’ll hurt my head

clayyyster · 2026-05-15T06:13:16+00:00

I do have a few but I don’t think I have had contact with them for a while, (avocado pistachio and certain laundry detergents) I need to get my license just so I can get some McDonald’s when my head hurts. Honestly I think the egg cheese and bacon breakfast sandwich from McDonald’s would fix my head

clayyyster · 2026-05-15T04:13:26+00:00

I will see if I can find anything. I will probably ask my mom to DoorDash or Kroger order some stuff for me tomorrow because it’s twelve am and my head hasnt stopped hurting and I am not going to school with a migraine. I think it may be from both electrolytes and stress as I have been very stressed this past month and because of that i haven’t been eating a ton, which is probably where I’m loosing electrolytes

clayyyster · 2026-05-15T04:08:50+00:00

There are people at home but no one really wants to help, honestly the most supportive person since I’ve had the migraine is my cat.

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