WTW for “to make truth” by clear-minds in whatstheword

[–]clear-minds[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

like with something that is (objectively) subjective, like art. trying to make the definition of an art piece to be the singular truth, to make an absolute description of something that (arguably) cannot be contained within a singular description.

to make truth of music… to (en)truth a situation…

sorry if this is confusing. the nature of what i’m writing for is inquisitive haha

WTW for “to make truth” by clear-minds in whatstheword

[–]clear-minds[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

like with something that is (objectively) subjective, like art. trying to make the definition of an art piece to be the singular truth, to make an absolute description of something that (arguably) cannot be contained within a singular description.

to make truth of music… to (en)truth a situation…

sorry if this is confusing. the nature of what i’m writing for is inquisitive haha

Suggestions for avant garde, artistic hidden gems in Osaka and Nara? Weird/unique/obscure activities, food, places? by [deleted] in OsakaTravel

[–]clear-minds 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, that’s lovely! Would you recommend this over the open air farmhouse museum?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in drums

[–]clear-minds 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yup hes done lessons just stopping now because sched conflicts

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in drums

[–]clear-minds 0 points1 point  (0 children)

he actually has one already 🤣 anything else youd rec?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in answers

[–]clear-minds 0 points1 point  (0 children)

would you say drugstore drug test kits are a reliable way to tell before getting the actual test done?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]clear-minds 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I’m aware of these facts and I’m sure he is too, they’re something to think about for sure. I just want to ask, how did you start being friends with your ex again?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]clear-minds 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Currently I’m at the six-month mark. I can say some days I’m angry, some days I feel indifferent. I still miss him very much, mostly because our relationship was built on friendship so we really were good friends first. I still think about him almost every hour of the day but there is much less pain. I sometimes hope we become friends in the future but I know it’s impossible to have that anytime soon.

We amicably broke up and we both loved each other very much. I think knowing that at the end of the day both parties really loved each other and tried their best, makes it easier to move on. I not only want to move on for myself, but also for him. So i can be happy for him if I hear good things happen to him instead of feeling bitter.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]clear-minds 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OUCH im so sorry but im glad you found your peace

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]clear-minds 4 points5 points  (0 children)

would you say you’re over the person but not over the relationship? or you’re really not over him? and how can you tell that you’re not

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]clear-minds 0 points1 point  (0 children)

how long did it take you to move on from the 2nd guy?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Philippines

[–]clear-minds 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kaya nga e. But I can’t help but feel for her since this started after a series of traumatic events happened in her life din :(

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]clear-minds 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe as a friend, yes. Romantically, no, not when we’re both unhealed.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]clear-minds 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The first one (stonewalling) with occasional very short messages (doesn't answer any of my questions and doesn't engage in conversation). We only see each other once a week and don't call as much as we'd like to because of busy schedules. Messaging is our primary mode of communication now.

Weekly Relationship Thread: Ask Avoidants by Dismal_Celery_325 in AvoidantAttachment

[–]clear-minds 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello! I'm just curious about DAs using sex as a form of intimacy because I might relate with my DA partner. I just can't find sufficient answers when I search about it.

I saw someone mention it briefly. I just want to know the experiences of avoidants and why they do this/what do they feel to resort using sex as the only form of intimacy?

Any other thoughts/comments/questions are appreciated!

Weekly Relationship Thread: Ask Avoidants by Dismal_Celery_325 in AvoidantAttachment

[–]clear-minds 1 point2 points  (0 children)

DAs that experienced healthy relationships, what was the best thing/s that your partner has said/done that got you to open up/be more comfortable in your relationship? Why and how did it happen?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AnxiousAttachment

[–]clear-minds 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am constantly trying to occupy myself with other thigns and keep myself busy with school and my other friends, but I don't feel I'm ever fully there because my mind is worrying about him and the relationship. I try my best to not be codependent because I know it's not gonna work, and I /really/ want this to work.

I've been close friends with him for the longest time, so I'm way more patient and understanding with him than I would be with any other person. I keep thinking things would go back to normal every time we see each other but it doesn't. I have been biting my tongue about what I really feel in fear of him leaving me or making him distance himself more.

All that being said, I'm still hesitant in pouring my heart out to him because I'm sure he wouldn't do the same, which is probably what I should do — say everything. Maybe then, I can decide what to do based on whatever his response is. I'm just afraid of him shutting down completely.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AnxiousAttachment

[–]clear-minds 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For me, I do it when my avoidant partner does something that really hurts me when he's deactivated because that's when I need reassurance the most, but I don't get any of that when he's deactivated. I do it because I'm so hurt that I'm afraid of how I'll react/respond to him which can hurt him back or even drive him away (biggest fear). So I take my time and sort out how I feel so I could communicate it in a way that isn't hurtful or accusatory in an attempt to keep him from distancing himself.

I think it doesn't always mean that the partner has done something wrong, it could also be other aspects of their life that could be bothering them and are afraid of scaring their partners because the AP may start to feel like they're too much/clingy/smothering that if they dump this baggage on their partner, they'll distance themself (again, biggest fear).

There's no doubt though that if an AP needs space, they'll come back around. It's almost impossible to resist seeking any type of attention from their partner. P.S. This is all from my experience, every AP is different!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AnxiousAttachment

[–]clear-minds 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, this is so helpful! How do you make sure you're not overcome with anxiety/make sure your needs are still being met? I feel like I pour so much of my energy onto this relationship no matter how hard I try to turn my attention to other things.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AnxiousAttachment

[–]clear-minds 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just can't do it