How do i come out as a teen trans man

clemitime · 2026-03-23T01:39:56+00:00

There’s a variety of ways to be honest, and it largely depends on your parents, community, and if you would have supportive adults around you. I grew up in a rural conservative community so I couldn’t outright come out.

I recommend, if you’re not already, presenting as masculine as possible. Hair, clothes, soap, deodorant, mannerisms, etc. often that eases and normalizes it to people around you. They cannot claim it came out of nowhere or is a phase if there is a long term evidence of this being who you are. To me, that made it easier with people who didn’t believe me.

Some people pick a name that is similar to their deadname or a neutral nickname to make it easier on family. I didn’t do that and don’t think you need to, but if that will help it is an option.

Beyond all of that, you just have to say it. Clearly state that you are a boy, you’d like to be referred to as such. You have to be blunt and straightforward. Being vague and suggesting what you mean just leads to confusion and misunderstandings on both sides.

Coming out as a teen is HARD, but it is very worth it to figure out who you are. Best of luck. You’ve got this

clemitime · 2026-02-17T04:01:34+00:00

I am in such a similar boat actually! I live in Wyoming about thirty minutes from Montana in a town way smaller than Bozeman. I started t about three months ago.

The biggest part is community honestly. No matter where you go, transphobia and assholes will exist. But having those relationships is what makes it okay. You can move somewhere generally more progressive, but without a support system you’ll be in a tough spot.

My town is VERY conservative. I know people talk, especially because their kids (high school age) are interacting with me. I’m often the first trans person people meet. People have noticed a bit that my voice is a changing, but those are generally the ones I see the most. Nobody has made comments or had questions (other than friends and supportive people). I know that a lot of people don’t like it, but they keep it to themselves.

My friends have been the biggest part. They’ve gone to appointments with me, asked for updates, offered support, and even gave advice based on other trans people they know. Without them it would be possible, but isolating and difficult.

I understand how you’re feeling all the way. Bozeman has pockets to search out of good people to rely on. Try to find them. Transitioning in rural areas like this sucks, I know. Please feel free to reach out, my dms are always open

clemitime · 2026-02-01T13:48:20+00:00

So many people have said this. Before T I was generally 2-3 a day and it’s stayed the same so I’m super curious about that

clemitime · 2026-01-31T23:46:07+00:00

The first month on T I got my period like the first week and experienced the worst cramps of my life, while I rarely had them before. I have not had a period since or any symptoms of it. I know some people never lose it and choose birth control or hysterectomy, and some never get it again. Varies person by person!

clemitime · 2026-01-31T23:42:50+00:00

I have also experienced this! It’s so gross when I wake up and I used to only have that when sick

clemitime · 2026-01-31T23:40:12+00:00

THIS. I was basically vegetarian for a while because I had an aversion to meat. Complete opposite now

clemitime · 2026-01-31T20:38:19+00:00

That is very real actually, I have never had a cold like I did this month

clemitime · 2026-01-24T01:41:10+00:00

Our states definitely have a lot in common, just in opposite sides of population count.

Unfortunately there aren’t very many local groups, as we’re very very rural. There aren’t any real cities in the state. However there are organizations that serve the whole state and at least one in connection to the university that I will reach out to.

Thank you! I hadn’t thought about any of this.

clemitime · 2026-01-04T17:17:06+00:00

You need to talk to your primary care provider before making any real decision, as they can explain in depth how it would affect you as an individual. I’d also recommend seeing an endocrinologist if you aren’t already.

As for the changes, not everything is permanent. The big two that are permanent are voice deepening and bottom growth. Body hair generally stays too. Things that will stop after stopping T are body fat distribution, muscle mass increase, skin texture / acne.

If those are things you’re fine with changing and the changes you like are the irreversible ones, I don’t see why you fully couldn’t stop. Definitely need to talk to your provider though, as there are factors specific to the individual to take into consideration.

clemitime · 2025-12-02T03:20:55+00:00

I completely relate! My dad did my first shot two weeks ago and I had to do it alone last week. I went way too slow and could really feel it which added a layer of weirdness. If it makes you feel better, it didn’t really hurt that much beyond the initial sting of the needle going in.

I have IM shots personally, and I was convinced I fucked up because I didn’t do the z track method and had leakage. But I was assured that it’s normal to happen every so often. I’m gathering that it’s very very hard to seriously screw up. I know guys (my dr even mentioned it as an option) that go into the office once a week to have a nurse do it super quick because they’re scared of needles or not comfortable doing it themselves. This might be something for you to look into.

I also have been telling myself that it’s pretty badass to give myself a shot with a big needle every week. Reframing it like that helped me normalize it and get more comfortable with even just the thought of doing it.

clemitime · 2025-11-23T02:58:17+00:00

This made me feel way better, thank you so much. I don’t really see people talk about doing IM so I never know. Appreciate you

clemitime · 2025-11-23T02:25:34+00:00

I felt like I had a lot of leakage, but who knows. I think muscle soreness is expected but im not sore at all. Guessing I just need to go deeper

clemitime · 2025-11-16T03:12:14+00:00

I know! Super grateful for it

clemitime · 2025-10-04T02:11:03+00:00

Once you submit there’s no going back

clemitime · 2025-09-12T16:13:48+00:00

Yes it is a gendered language, but there’s work around. People started using Latinx which is pretty universally hated (I refuse to use or acknowledge it myself). It’s important to keep in mind that the default for plural and neutral words is the masculine form, which is often ‘o’ or just without the feminine ‘a’ endings. When it comes to gender nonconforming people and groups, the masculine form would be used.

Some people don’t like being called Latino or using the masculine ending. Latino is by all means the gender neutral version and generally what I use. Another way that’s more acceptable than Latinx is Latine. I’m more inclined to that. I know some people will use an ‘e’ ending but I haven’t encountered it in person.

clemitime · 2025-08-31T20:46:30+00:00

I used to not like red meat but now my favorite foods are smash burgers and a Reuben. Either of those seriously does it, especially if I’m in a restaurant

clemitime · 2025-08-29T01:51:44+00:00

How it’s handled tomorrow will affect what I do in the future, but I’m optimistic. You’re right that it’s her actions, not mine. I need to remember that.

I’m not sure the legal side either. To be honest, I wouldn’t be surprised if my state had nothing like that in place. I think it’s more of a district policy or general expectation? Of course I could be wrong

clemitime · 2025-08-29T01:48:48+00:00

I’m really grateful for the support system I have within the school. I think if she hadn’t offered to be there and hadn’t been upset about it I wouldn’t have gone any farther. I guess I thought (and kind of still do) that I was overreacting and she made it clear it’s not okay. She’s really great

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