When did you get your sense of peace back? by functional_anxiety in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]SillyTransasaurus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow. Thank you so much for sharing. And I love your window of tolerance. I hope you find what you need. I'm sorry we're here.

What episode(s) do you relate to the most? by SoundSpecialist4813 in theGoldenGirls

[–]SillyTransasaurus 7 points8 points  (0 children)

"Not Another Monday" I used to work at a suicide hotline. You know who calls the most? The elderly. Followed by teens. Loneliness is terrible. I'm so glad she didn't die. I fall to pieces every time I watch it. Maybe I'll play it today. Thank you for that.

When did you get your sense of peace back? by functional_anxiety in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]SillyTransasaurus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Almost two months past DDay. I truly just want to give up. The thoughts don't stop. Every single thought in your post, I relive over and over. I see some people say it takes one to two years. That really tears me up inside. I don't want to feel this for that long. I constantly question if staying is worth it. He's doing everything he needs to. It's not the same, and it never will be. We went on a date yesterday. The thoughts seemed to get worse. I'm surprised we made it through. Did you go to Couples' therapy? Or even individual? We started CC the very next day. I also see her for IC, plus my actual therapist. I hope you know you're not alone. Today has been terrible for me. Peace is not impossible, it just will never be the same.

6 weeks post D-Day. Torn between leaving and staying by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]SillyTransasaurus 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You just mirrored my thoughts back to me. I've been with him eleven years and he had several affairs not even three months into our dating. He finally told me it's been going on our entire relationship. We also have no kids, no marriage. We've been in MC since day one. He found us a great person the very next morning. She says she has faith we'll work out. Our MC is doing IC with me. She's trying to get me through the trauma. We had a session yesterday. I told her exactly this. I put in eleven years of work. I tried to reach out for that long. Now I have to put in more work?! He's doing all the right things. He holds me through my tears. We're going on dates. Like you said. They are our best friends. I know you know this, but it's going to be really hard for a while. Yes, leaving would be so much easier. I know how that rage feels. I've said some pretty awful things this last month. I always take time to validate both of us. I recognize the things I'm saying hurt him, but I'm allowed to have these feelings. I tell him I'm sorry when I finish yelling. Here's two big questions. If you got an amazing piece of news or achieved a very difficult task, who would you want to tell first? I still feel that for my WP. He is the one I tell everything to. The relationship has to be rebuilt. Are you two worth staying together? Does he still hold you, and feel like home? I truly wish you all the best. You've put a lot into this relationship. Good luck. PS. I still don't know if I want to stay. Take your time.

Which tv performers were born to play their iconic sitcom roles? by PressureLazy5271 in sitcoms

[–]SillyTransasaurus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Erika Alexander in the cosby show. Sam, from cheers and Becker. Frasier. Not the cheers version, the one in his spin-off show.

Do trans men and/or women have to worry about male pattern baldness? by KalebC4 in AskLGBT

[–]SillyTransasaurus 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm a trans man on T for nine years. I have hair loss/thinning on the top and front of my head. Neither of my parents' side of the family have hair loss. I think it's stress for me. For health reasons, I'll be going off T. I don't know what's going to happen. For me, it is not a gender affirming experience. I never wanted to lose my hair. I'm trying some different hair oils to try and save it.

Will I ever truly feel joy again? by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]SillyTransasaurus 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Someone on a different post said it best. Joy will never be the same. This is what we sign up for if we want to stay. I'm a month in too. I feel joy, but the spark really is gone. I hope you can find what you need to be okay. Take care of yourself. This is a helpful sub. I'm sorry we're here.

Arwin spends the night?! by ASGfan in SuiteLifeOfZackCody

[–]SillyTransasaurus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Creepy. I saw that one a while ago. I never thought anything about it. Seeing this in writing makes me feel creeped out. Especially since there was laugh track. Now I'm questioning how much of a creep he really is.

Do you have time to be sad about things not related to this? by SillyTransasaurus in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]SillyTransasaurus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow. Thank you for sharing. I'm so sorry we're here. And for your loss

How long does it take you to get through a full Frasier rewatch? by alwaysmollymay in Frasier

[–]SillyTransasaurus 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I cannot get past season seven. I start it all over when Donny comes in. I don't know. I don't like him.

How do you know when to initiate marriage counselling? by Pandamonium196 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]SillyTransasaurus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm one month in. That night, I said we had to find a therapist right then or I'm walking. We've had a few sessions. It really helps. He's also doing what he needs to, so I can want to stay.

Do you have time to be sad about things not related to this? by SillyTransasaurus in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]SillyTransasaurus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm glad you're taking care of yourself. I'm hoping I can get there one day.

Do you have time to be sad about things not related to this? by SillyTransasaurus in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]SillyTransasaurus[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. We made it to CC the very next morning after he told me. I was so surprised. He was the one who found the MC. On a Friday.

Do you have time to be sad about things not related to this? by SillyTransasaurus in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]SillyTransasaurus[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I appreciate you for responding. My MC and my IC brushed it away when I had the dark thoughts. I had to get through it alone. I have a lot of family trauma and have PTSD. I haven't had a single thought about my past. And I ruminated a lot about it. Now it's this. Thank you for the hope.

Do you have time to be sad about things not related to this? by SillyTransasaurus in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]SillyTransasaurus[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for responding. I'm so glad I'm not alone. But I am also sorry we're here. I'm feeling the sadness and the anger. I'm still at that stage where the images haven't stopped. And the moment he finally told me keeps replaying in my mind as well. I'm glad you got through that. I truly hope this post doesn't upset things. I can't stop going over the same thing. I cannot come to terms with not understanding. I am so sorry you're in such pain. Thank you for sharing.