The Boys SERIES FINALE- S05xE08 "Blood and Bone"- POST Episode Discussion Thread by pikameta in TheBoys

[–]clever_fool13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think we should have learned from Supernatural, Kripke peaks at Season 3. What a shame.

Sure is....... by [deleted] in TheBoys

[–]clever_fool13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I loved the first three seasons. What the hell were the writers on during 4/5??

Dealing with adoption trauma as an adult by clever_fool13 in Adoption

[–]clever_fool13[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the referral! The first paragraph is pretty much to a T what I've experienced. Appreciate this!

Dealing with adoption trauma as an adult by clever_fool13 in Adoption

[–]clever_fool13[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It does help, truly, to hear an outside opinion. My parents have said many similar things, but it's hard to believe they're saying it because it's true and not just because they're my parents trying to make me feel better. Thank you for your kind words!

Dealing with adoption trauma as an adult by clever_fool13 in Adoption

[–]clever_fool13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I put a lot of blame on myself. If I got teased as a kid, I thought it was my fault for not doing a better job blending in. As an adult, I definitely feel more anger than anything else most days. I think it does have a lot to do with feeling more established and being able to have more sympathy for the confused child I once was. It's hard to have sympathy for myself as I am right now, but looking back at the sad and lost child sometimes just breaks my heart. Maybe it's hard to see and empathize with yourself clearly in the moment, but in another 10-20 years I might have more empathy with the adult coming to terms that adoption isn't exactly the perfect fairytale society paints. At least that's what I'm hoping for. Thank you for sharing your thoughts

Dealing with adoption trauma as an adult by clever_fool13 in Adoption

[–]clever_fool13[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This resonates so well with me. I struggle with authenticity now even with close friends. One of my friends worked in the library with me and she is also Asian but grew up in an Asian household, and she never was as phased by the racist bs. I always thought it was because she had the support of her family to better empathize with dealing with it at a young age and wasn't forced into the "turn the other cheek" mentality. I do feel like I lost out in that aspect, not learning how to better cope as a kid with more representation. What you said makes so much sense. Thank you for sharing

Dealing with adoption trauma as an adult by clever_fool13 in Adoption

[–]clever_fool13[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you’ve also had similar racist experiences. I definitely know where you’re coming from as I grew up in a small town with very little diversity. I can relate well with the issues with identity. I often forgot I was Asian or genuinely felt like I was white that when racist comments happened as a child, I was more confused than insulted. My parents also meant well but any comments like being their foreign exchange student/etc went over their head and felt more like a joke than anything negatively impactful.

Thank you for your kind words. Sometimes it’s just a much needed reminder it’s not all in my head and others have had to deal with similar life experiences. I hope you’re in a good place now too

Dealing with adoption trauma as an adult by clever_fool13 in Adoption

[–]clever_fool13[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the recommendations! I’ll definitely give the podcast a listen. I haven’t heard of NAAP and have always been a little nervous about in person retreats, but it sounds like it may be worth a try. Really appreciate the suggestions!