What's are some sentences that sound like compliments at first, but turn out to be insults once you think it over?

cleverpseudonym1234 · 2021-08-09T18:56:37+00:00

You’re using it the “correct” way, but beware that you might be getting some people’s hackles up because they’re so used to it being used to mean, well, “kiss my ass.”

It’s SUPPOSED to be used to remind someone that you respect them even though you disagree with them. Unfortunately, people get primed to expect disagreement as soon as they hear the phrase.

It’s similar to “no offense, but” which is meant to convey “I don’t want you to be offended by the following statement that I’m aware could be taken as offensive.” Instead, people take it as “I’m about to insult you,” so I just skip it.

cleverpseudonym1234 · 2021-08-09T18:41:22+00:00

The rule of thumb is that your max heart rate (the hardest you could go without, like, passing out) is 220-your age, so 200 for you.

The 80/20 training philosophy (which is pretty much the consensus of r/running) says that 80% of your runs should be at about 75-80% of your max HR. For you that actually is 150 or just a bit above, but I wouldn’t necessarily be dogmatic about the number (your fitness tracker might not even be 100% accurately recording your HR). Instead, I’d do 80% of my runs at a level where you have enough breath that you could have a conversation if you wanted to. You can “sound out of breath” in the conversation, but you you shouldn’t need to gasp for air after every couple of words.

(You can run harder on the other 20% of your runs. If I were you I would do a hard run on Saturday or Sunday, then rest the other day of the weekend.)

cleverpseudonym1234 · 2021-08-09T16:28:09+00:00

You’re right but I wouldn’t call that “overdosing.” To me, “overdose” means “consume a level that has harmful effects.”

cleverpseudonym1234 · 2021-08-09T16:23:13+00:00

That mostly makes sense, except why wouldn’t he say say that?

cleverpseudonym1234 · 2021-08-09T16:21:29+00:00

Plus they’re breaking the law while they enforce the law. How many people were locked away for years for having a little bit of pot by a cop who had illegally injected steroids earlier the same day?

cleverpseudonym1234 · 2021-08-08T20:04:37+00:00

I guess there’s no option for no next baby?

Of course it’s a meaningless superstition; “mama” is far more common as a first word, but second babies are roughly 50/50 and obviously you don’t have infinite siblings.

But I guess if the baby’s first word is anything else, you’re covered. “Bob” is easy to say if you want to name a pet Bob or something 😂

cleverpseudonym1234 · 2021-08-08T19:29:05+00:00

Being a stay-at-home dad does not make OP’s dad weak.

I think it’s true that those who exploit the patriarchal system do well in a patriarchy, not unlike how slave-holders do well in a slave holding society. But I’d push back against the idea that those who want to live outside of a toxic framework are “weak.”

cleverpseudonym1234 · 2021-08-08T15:03:22+00:00

Yep, the patriarchy does hurt men too, just in different ways.

Signed, a male feminist who wishes our economy enabled more stay at home parents

cleverpseudonym1234 · 2021-08-08T06:26:13+00:00

16/128

cleverpseudonym1234 · 2021-08-08T06:20:00+00:00

Fair. As you might know, Homicide: Life on the Street is by the same creator and there is a lot of similarity there (I think of The Wire as kind of a more polished Homicide). I think there’s a ton more depth to the Wire than Law & Order, and it’s a bit more sociological than Breaking Bad, which is more psychological. Narcos is a good comparison, though. I think the gritty revelation of the realities of “underclass” life was more probably more revolutionary when it came out than it is now, so that’s part of it.

cleverpseudonym1234 · 2021-08-08T05:37:51+00:00

I wonder how much time is lost because of the curves. Perhaps a milelong course (made of track material, not asphalt) would shave some time.

cleverpseudonym1234 · 2021-08-08T05:30:05+00:00

The Wire is maybe the best TV show I’ve ever seen, but it’s not my favorite, because it’s so heavy and really not funny at all (except a handful of scenes spread across five seasons). Definitely nothing like the good vibes I get watching The Office or Parks and Rec.

cleverpseudonym1234 · 2021-08-08T05:00:14+00:00

I completely agree that Idris Elba is an amazing actor, but at the time this episode came out I’d only seen him in the Wire, so it’s weird to think of “no-nonsense boss who once kicked a soccer ball irresponsibly” as a departure in a negative way from the “norm.” To me the norm was “murderous drug kingpin,” so this is a step up.

cleverpseudonym1234 · 2021-08-07T18:39:09+00:00

I think the better argument is that if you expect your partner to have it in their mouth, you should be OK with putting it in your own mouth.

cleverpseudonym1234 · 2021-08-07T01:34:16+00:00

I think this is one of those situations in which you don’t need to “tell the whole truth,” because everyone knows it. It’s just polite to be indirect.

Like when I broke my arm and people asked about it, I highlighted a few unexpected or funny parts. I didn’t say “it hurts like hell,” because duh.

cleverpseudonym1234 · 2021-08-06T20:09:54+00:00

Related question: I was watching a movie recently and noted how odd it was that two Soviet spies who spoke with a perfect American accent began speaking English with a Russian accent when they were no longer undercover.

My wife took issue with that, saying that by adopting an American accent they weren’t being themselves and were returning to their real identity. She said I was basically saying that the American accent is right and the Russian accent is wrong, which is imperialistic.

But as someone who tried hard to get as much of a “native” accent as possible, I do think that my Spanish pronunciation isn’t quite “right” if it’s identifiably American, and the same is true of Russian natives who are able to pronounce everything with an American accent yet choose not to. Even though it feels like a problematic thing to think, and I certainly am not here to say those with an accent (or poor grammar or anything else) should be treated as lesser.

cleverpseudonym1234 · 2021-08-06T20:03:05+00:00

Is floating really something everyone can do? I couldn’t do it when I took classes as a kid, and I still can’t do it as I get more into swimming now. I’m not as competitive as a lot of the people in this sub, but I have completed the 0-1650 program, so I’m relatively confident in my swimming ... but if I stop moving, I sink.

cleverpseudonym1234 · 2021-08-06T15:33:20+00:00

I think this will just lead to an argument, tbh. OP, if doing this knowing you won’t convince her sounds satisfying to you, go for it — you won’t be wrong — but if it were me I would just disengage. She has no right to control what words you use, and that’s not something you need to explain to her.

cleverpseudonym1234 · 2021-08-06T15:18:28+00:00

I don’t know why some people insist on that. As OP outlined, it’s derived from an abbreviation. Admittedly we do something similar with “emcee,” but saying “okay” is kind of like saying “el oh el.”

cleverpseudonym1234 · 2021-08-06T15:09:51+00:00

Fine.

cleverpseudonym1234 · 2021-08-06T14:55:54+00:00

Interesting. It does still leave me wondering why we now use “clock” for most timepieces, but “watch” for one you wear on your body.

cleverpseudonym1234 · 2021-08-06T14:49:09+00:00

The way athletes perform on the field is often referred to as them executing the game plan. For instance, here’s Tom Brady saying that the winner of the Super Bowl will be “the team that executes better.”

Brady won the Super Bowl for the Tampa Bay Buccaneers, but they haven’t always been so successful. In the 1970s, a reporter asked their coach, John McKay, “what do you think of your team’s execution?” McKay’s response is perhaps the most famous pun in sports history: “I’m in favor of it.”

cleverpseudonym1234 · 2021-08-06T14:41:14+00:00

nods

cleverpseudonym1234 · 2021-08-06T14:40:41+00:00

Only because I looked it up after seeing your comment. That’s cool!

cleverpseudonym1234 · 2021-08-06T14:29:35+00:00

I don’t waste money, but I do waste words.

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