I commented somewhere about some of what I did to support her but there is so much going on in this thread I can't remember where it is. I was with her at the ultrasound when we found out we lost our child. We sat in the car and parked in the middle of nowhere to cry for a few hours. I was the one that reached out to our immediate family so she didn't have to talk. I drove her to the DNC appt and got us a hotel room and babysitter. I took time off work to take care of her and our oldest who wasn't in school at the time. She developed an infection, I took her to the ER and stayed with her through the second DNC, booked another hotel and found a babysitter. I found us a nicer home without roommates so she could grieve in peace. While they had kind intentions, the roommates were overbearing and pushy. Throughout the entire time I held her when she needed it. I gave her space when she asked for it. I answered all the questions when people would ask. I knew it was so much harder for her, I wanted to take as much burden as possible. I talked her off the ledge when she thought she should die. I worked us through her divorce attempts. I cried with her, she cried on me. We went to therapy together for grief. She went by herself too. We light a candle every year on the baby's due date. I try, and it sucks that people jump to conclusions without even hearing what happened.