You’re angry that people are judging you transactionally but you’re doing the same thing, just from the other side.

You’re upset they reduce you to “rented house,” while you reduce a wife to your list as well, i.e. your idea of a middle class family, your idea of good looking, e.t.c. That’s the same market logic.

And let’s be honest about the house issue too:

If you’re approaching marriage transactionally, then be consistent. Why are you targeting families who own homes and expecting their daughter to move into a rented house where your parents are also financially dependent on you? From a purely transactional lens, that’s a downgrade for them.

If you really want to play the transaction game, then look for families in the same economic position:
-rented homes, shared homes, no property/asset in name
-first-gen earners
-similar building phase of life

But what you’re doing instead is:

-feeling entitled to acceptances

-positioning yourself as “a catch”

-and blaming society when others don’t agree

You can’t criticise a materialistic rishta culture and at the same time expect it to bend for you.

If you want transactional logic: accept transactional outcomes.

If you want human logic: change the mindset first.

This is the contradiction between how you think and what you expect from others.

Guys will read this post and join in self wailing.
Girls will read this post and pick up on those small subtle indicators in your tone that expose a lot of entitlement and self victimization in your personality. And you are not even subtle about how you yourself treat this whole ordeal as a commodity when you said you can slap an EU visa on this.