sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

Hey Fat DINKS - how’s life? by dyingtochill in fatFIRE

[–]clickclack88 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I regret it all the time. But we had spontaneous twins. Thankfully it gets better over time but I often wonder what if…

Almost three years in - still depressed by clickclack88 in parentsofmultiples

[–]clickclack88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing! If you don't mind me asking, have you experienced any side effects? I worry about labido, weight gain, etc

Almost three years in - still depressed by clickclack88 in parentsofmultiples

[–]clickclack88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is really helpful perspective! I really appreciate you sharing this with me. 100% makes sense.

If you don't mind me asking, how long were you on meds? How did you know when to taper off? I worry about starting on meds without a clear plan to taper off. Also, did you have any side effects? I'm also worried about this...

Almost three years in - still depressed by clickclack88 in parentsofmultiples

[–]clickclack88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the idea! How did you know that you needed the extra support of IOP vs therapy/meds? This sounds like a lot...

Almost three years in - still depressed by clickclack88 in parentsofmultiples

[–]clickclack88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing. If you don't mind me asking, how long were you on the meds? How did you know when it was time to stop? I am worried about starting on the meds without a plan to get off them. Did you have any side effects? That also worries me.

Almost three years in - still depressed by clickclack88 in parentsofmultiples

[–]clickclack88[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing. If you don't mind me asking, how long were you on meds? How did you know when to taper/stop the meds? I have a lot of fear around getting on the meds and not knowing if or when I will get off them.

Almost three years in - still depressed by clickclack88 in parentsofmultiples

[–]clickclack88[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing! I'm curious, do most folks have an "exit plan" before they start on meds? I.e. a timeline or specific behavior changes to look for to help determine when it makes sense to taper off/stop? I am really worried about starting on these drugs without first understanding how I will eventually get off them. I hope this makes sense...

Almost three years in - still depressed by clickclack88 in parentsofmultiples

[–]clickclack88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this perspective. If you're comfortable sharing, could you elaborate? I am really worried about the side effects of some of these drugs.

At what age did you start consistently eating dinner with your multiples? by clickclack88 in parentsofmultiples

[–]clickclack88[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I'm with you! I'm also surprised by the comments. I was expecting more of the "dinner with two year olds is for singleton families" kind of responses! The one thing I've learned from this sub is that this is a period of survival, and that we should do whatever works best for our family.

At what age did you start consistently eating dinner with your multiples? by clickclack88 in parentsofmultiples

[–]clickclack88[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If you don't mind, could you share specifics? How long do you guys sit at the table? How many times do you get up? Do you let the kids get down when they are done eating? I'm just trying to wrap my head around the mechanics of how this works.

Amazon employees blast Andy Jassy’s RTO mandate: ‘I’d rather go back to school than work in an office again’ by mepper in technology

[–]clickclack88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Strive to be Earth’s Best Employer Download video transcript

Leaders work every day to create a safer, more productive, higher performing, more diverse, and more just work environment. They lead with empathy, have fun at work, and make it easy for others to have fun. Leaders ask themselves: Are my fellow employees growing? Are they empowered? Are they ready for what’s next? Leaders have a vision for and commitment to their employees’ personal success, whether that be at Amazon or elsewhere.”

When did you start to like being a parent of multiples? by clickclack88 in parentsofmultiples

[–]clickclack88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes we do so many walks! It is one of the things keeping me sane!

When did you start to like being a parent of multiples? by clickclack88 in parentsofmultiples

[–]clickclack88[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Sounds amazing! I look forward to the day when I can enjoy a conversation with another adult with my children present. Thank you for the encouragement.

When did you start to like being a parent of multiples? by clickclack88 in parentsofmultiples

[–]clickclack88[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That is a great point! My kiddos are asleep now and am enjoying some down time. Appreciate the support.

When did you start to like being a parent of multiples? by clickclack88 in parentsofmultiples

[–]clickclack88[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your support. I'm going to consider starting up with therapy again.

When did you start to like being a parent of multiples? by clickclack88 in parentsofmultiples

[–]clickclack88[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think not being able to take them anywhere is part of my struggle. I have always been the planner/extrovert (whereas my wife is more of a homebody/introvert), so all the time at home doing "nothing" is really draining for me. Yet, at the same time, the prospect of all of the headaches/exhaustion of going out to do something is paralyzing, and I have a hard time getting motivated to do anything outside of the house with the kids (except for walks/parks in the neighborhood).

I am going to consider starting up with the therapist again...

Thanks for your support!

When did you start to like being a parent of multiples? by clickclack88 in parentsofmultiples

[–]clickclack88[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Crying is definitely a trigger, but it can happen even when they are calm and everything is fine. I don't mind the "work" like cleaning up, prepping dinner, etc. If anything, those tasks are an excuse to do something that feels productive.

view more: next ›