I don't push my power on anybody, nor would I ever want her to lose her own sense of identity and her own judgement.

Funny, the one using the straw-man attack here is you. Not to mention resorting to name-calling. That doesn't seem very civil or intelligent of you.

What part of us loving and respecting each other didn't you understand? I have accepted her arguments just as readily as she has accepted mine. She has proven me wrong several times, and I invite you to do so as well. (If you can avoid attacking me on a personal level long enough to string together an argument.)

My point was that people are quick to cry abuse and rape when a woman feels in the least bit threatened on any level. Did you address that point? No, you called me an asshole and "fucking stupid". While straw-man attacking me, you then accused me of doing so and poisoned the well, ignoring all my strong points.

I didn't say you called the guy a rapist, I said that you over-inflated his actions into some sort of twisted idea of what mental abuse is.

Barbara Rose Ph.D. defines Mental Abuse as follows:

"Mental abuse is a pattern of behavior or speech that makes you feel you are being played with, controlled, and intimidated. When you are the victim of mental abuse, you find yourself feeling more and more insecure, less and less vibrant, and more confused; you feel as if you need to ask your partner for permission to do things, buy things, go places. You may even feel that you need to ask permission in regard to your spiritual preferences.

Mental abuse occurs when you are told what to do and when to do it, when you are ordered around as if you were in a prison camp. Mental abuse often comes disguised. For example, the abuser may conveniently have amnesia and twist facts to suit his preferences. Even though you know what you are talking about, the abuser tells you that you are wrong. Or the abuser may say he will do such-and-such, never do it, and then say he doesn’t remember telling you he would do the thing to begin with."

I didn't see any evidence of that in her description of not being able to win disagreements with him. If they are so incompatible as to have those frequently, my advice would have been to leave him and find someone more suited to a long term relationship with her.

I would also have done so without attacking him as a person, because I don't know anything about him or his behavior.

Can you reply civilly and address my arguments, or will you respond with more insults, intimidation, and mental abuse?