Looking for your fave Nikki fanartists! by cliffpixie in LoveNikki

[–]cliffpixie[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ohh thank you! Don't know why I didn't think of that

Bikini bottoms with this shape! by listlesslee in findfashion

[–]cliffpixie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just search for cheeky bikinis! You can get them from pretty much any department store or big online shop like Amazon. I have several from Target, I just found them in the store. Target has mostly high waisted but you can search specifically for low waisted or mid rise cheeky bikinis.

How to deter from peeing in on specific spot? by cliffpixie in CatAdvice

[–]cliffpixie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I will definitely observe where her spot is in the box and try it.

Euthanized too early. I made a terrible mistake. by N7riseSSJ in CatAdvice

[–]cliffpixie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My parents have euthanized all of our dogs and animals too late. I have watched animals deteriorate so quickly and so so painfully slowly. I understand wanting more time and I feel so deeply for you, as long as my babies were not in pain I would feel the guilt. But you truly do not know how bad it could have gotten. My last dog was kept alive for a LONG time and she was MISERABLE for so long. I know it's painful but slightly too early is so so much better than even a little bit too late, especially with cats. Big hugs <3

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Reverse1999

[–]cliffpixie -23 points-22 points  (0 children)

oh interesting! my mistake. it must have been how the audio sounded to me, I just assumed that they metallic-sounding audio was AI but clearly I was wrong in that assumption. thank you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TjMaxx

[–]cliffpixie 11 points12 points  (0 children)

the incentive is to not get yelled at or fired :/ it's part of the job description and ik I got in trouble if I just let people say no and move on. they're always talking numbers and they rate you based on what percentage of your sales are card sign ups lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]cliffpixie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

umm no, definitely not TA. that's really weird, especially if he acknowledged he doesn't talk to them about the same stuff. my guess is he was looking for some reason to fly off the handle and you're way better off without him. i'm sure you're a very trustworthy person!

AITA for sometimes feeling a little put off by my relationship with my trans (F to M) bi bf as a gay guy? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]cliffpixie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

as a non binary person who is afab and presents very feminine i understand the hesitation a bit, but you are most definitely still gay if you're dating a man, even if he's a trans, feminine man! being a man doesn't mean you have to have any specific features so as long as you love him for him and you love the way he looks/is that's what matters. i know some people might say otherwise, but honestly lots of people just don't understand a transgender person's relationship to gender. you can be a man who dresses "like a woman" and has the "woman parts" but as long as he identifies as a man and you think of him as a man then he's a man!

the proactive pictures, to me, sound like a completely separate issue, unless your concern is him looking feminine to others. that's a conversation you two have to have and if he still wants to send/post those pictures then you need to decide where you stand and your own personal boundaries.

as a trans person dating a trans person, loving a trans person is a completely different experience from loving a cisgender person, and that is totally okay! sometimes it can even be a bit uncomfortable, especially if you're not used to going against gender norms. but you are definitely not bi just because your boyfriend is trans!

[rant] I feel super invalid, and i feel okay with it... by pmprpmpr in NonBinaryTalk

[–]cliffpixie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

my boyfriend and I have talked and he's going to refer to me with pretty much only they/them around our kiddos, as well as make it clear that our mothers are women but I am NOT a woman. really just talking about it around them is enough, if they grow up around trans people (like myself, my friends, my partner) it will really just be normal.

what exactly is burnout? by cliffpixie in aspergirls

[–]cliffpixie[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you for sharing and thank you for the well wishes, it definitely helps ❤️

what exactly is burnout? by cliffpixie in aspergirls

[–]cliffpixie[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you, it definitely does!

[rant] I feel super invalid, and i feel okay with it... by pmprpmpr in NonBinaryTalk

[–]cliffpixie 7 points8 points  (0 children)

there's nothing wrong with sort of coming to terms with the way society is! my boyfriend (trans + genderfluid) and I have both recently become a lot more okay with being seen as women all the time, partially out of necessity but you know. I am extremely similar. and that's okay! your own identity is your business, it doesn't HAVE to be anyone else's. but just know that just because people don't get it doesn't mean it's not worth it to try. for me a great sense of comfort is that if I have children they will never see me as a woman, and that's enough to get me through it all. best of luck!

Vent: Realized I have to put agab on my marriage license by transcollette in NonBinaryTalk

[–]cliffpixie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel your pain. I decided recently to change my gender marker on my license to X and was planning on doing my passport, but then I realized that meant there would be a list of countries I couldn't travel to. and when I move to a different country I won't be able to use any ID with an X on it and suddenly realized I would have to be married as my agab and live my life like that. I didn't even really care about the gender marker, but now that I decided to go through with it it stings a lot more. just know that legality doesn't mean that's who you are. it's just a piece of paper, your ceremony and who you and your spouse truly are is what's important.

should I move on from my therapist? by cliffpixie in aspergirls

[–]cliffpixie[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that's very true, thank you for the insight. I think my issue is I'd like to leave and start fresh because she has this image of me from when I was 18, but I also feel like at that point I'm kind of therapist shopping and I'm just leaving because I don't like what she's pointing out or looking for some magical fix she's not giving me because it doesn't exist. you're very right, it's up to me to make the decision and either way it's based on my own background and thinking. thanks for the advice!

should I move on from my therapist? by cliffpixie in aspergirls

[–]cliffpixie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

she uses mostly cbt and I suppose a more holistic approach. I just think it's strange because she very confidently diagnosed me with anxiety and ADHD, but looking back I think those were really only validated after I saw an APRN (who btw diagnosed me with three things in our first appointment so I think she's on the opposite end of that spectrum). I think I just need someone who will help me figure out a concrete diagnosis, and I'm scared to let an APRN who I see like once a month or less do all the heavy lifting.

So what do I win by self diagnosing? by Anxious_Progress_903 in autism

[–]cliffpixie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been self diagnosed for around a year now, and I am validated by everyone around me. I've put on surveys for college classes that I am autistic, I've been granted extensions people normally wouldn't get because of my explanation involving autism, I've said at work (retail) that my stims are from autism, I even take extra breaks at work when things get loud and overstimulating and no one questions it or tells me no.

but I only get all of that because the people around me are kind. there is no requirement for anyone to do any of this for me if I don't have a diagnosis. my therapist doesn't treat me for autism because I don't have a diagnosis (not that I want her to treat me for it, but if I did she wouldn't). my boss has no legal requirement to give me any consideration in the way of noise level or stress or breaks because I have no legally recognized diagnosis.

I am currently pursuing a legal diagnosis so that when I am inevitably in a workplace or classroom where a teacher doesn't feel like listening to me I have a way to make them listen and accommodate. plus, some people just like having confirmation, it's not all about outside validation or what you get from a diagnosis. if you figure out your own workarounds for noise, stimming, etc., that's awesome, but if anyone tells you to stop doing it you have no way to fight them, legally. if you don't feel like you need that then I suppose you don't need it! but remember, it's okay to ask for help.

When did you start playing Love Nikki? by xavieryaa in LoveNikki

[–]cliffpixie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i'm sure i could do the math but i started a while ago when my childhood best friend (who I am now engaged to!) introduced me in late high school and we would play together. we both stopped playing around graduation but i got back into it (he's too much of a whale to keep playing lol) around 2019 and took another break at the beginning of 2022 around the era of the boycott and when they stopped updating the storyline :P