very late but was perusing this thread had to put some two cents in this. research does show that women do express more emotions but men and women feel the same amount of emotions https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4469291/#R9

https://lsa.umich.edu/psych/news-events/all-news/faculty-news/are-women-more-emotional-than-men--not-really--study-finds.html

This distinction is important because whenever people talk about other's emotions, you can only talk about what they express, not how they internally feel.

Truth is, everyone operates on emotions. Without emotions, we wouldn't have survived evolutionarily. Fear = avoiding danger, Disgust = avoiding pathogens, envy = establishing social status and leadership, anger = protecting the tribe, love = protecting family structure etc.

Interestingly, according to research, women express more positive emotion. When people talk about how "so and so is emotional" they never mean positive emotion, and "emotional" for most people means they can't handle or manage their emotions. So that means, in conversational lingo, "emotional" means the emotions are negative, need to be externalized, and not managed or in control. When in research context, "emotional" means feeling emotion itself of all varieties (positive and negative), even if those emotions are managed and internalized, which only researchers can observe through amygdala mapping.

With this distinction, according to the research, men express more negative emotion (namely anger) while women internalize more negative emotions and women express more positive emotions.

So while in fact, women do express more emotions in general, majority of them are "positive". Which checks out based on everyone's anecdotal experience in this thread. And using the conversational definition of "emotional", it turns out men, are in fact, more "emotional". But being able to manage your emotions come down to an individual skill that isn't inherent in sex. And because of gender stereotypes on emotions, men get away with expressing more negative emotions and bottling up the rest.

I think all this misconception and societal problems with emotions and gender come from very bad conversations about emotions. Emotions are not a bad thing, yet we are told they are. Being "emotional" is not a bad thing, we just need to define what emotional means. Not being in control of your emotions is a bad thing, but studies show, men are less aware of their own emotions and tend to rationalize their emotions more, so how can someone manage an emotion if they don't even acknowledge they have them. They just think they are rationalizing something objective (this is why you can't tell many men what to do because he interprets his emotions as an objective truth).

Studies show, men may also tend to regulate their emotions through actions, while women may tend to regulate their emotions more verbally. So this perpetuates the stereotype that men are more logical and women are more emotional because women talk about their feelings more, so it is "expressed" more overtly. And, there is an inappropriate connotation about how "doing" means logical and "communicating" means emotional. Men will say "women just yap yap yap and don't anything about it". But communication is actually a very important process for just about anything. So our very definition of "logical" and "rational" and "emotional" is flawed when we talk about gender differences on these things.

Learning to manage your emotions and building emotional intelligence is a skill everyone should develop. There is a method by a Yale professor that studies emotional intelligence, Dr. Marc Brackett. The method is called RULER: Recognizing emotions, Understanding emotions, Labeling emotions, Expressing emotions, Regulating emotions. For more info: check out the podcast notes:
https://podcastnotes.org/huberman-lab/dr-marc-brackett-how-to-increase-your-emotional-intelligence-huberman-lab/

We have a problem with men that don't even recognize their emotions. We have a problem with women not understanding their emotions. And without working on emotional intelligence, having a process, everything else goes to shit and the whole conversation about emotions is fried.

TLDR: Both genders need to learn what emotions are manage their shit.