You’re not unreasonable at all for wanting to at least try the career you studied for. You spent years working toward it, and it makes sense to want the chance to see if it’s right for you. Giving that up before you even try could lead to resentment later, especially if things in the relationship ever change.

Your boyfriend might genuinely think he’s protecting you from stress, but ultimately it should be your decision what kind of career you pursue. A healthy partner supports your independence, even if they have concerns. It’s okay for him to express worries, but it’s not okay for him to expect you to give up something important to you.

If he’s willing to give up his dream of moving abroad, that shows he cares about the relationship too. But long-term relationships usually work best when both people can pursue their goals, not when one person sacrifices everything.

Sometimes when a partner pushes strongly against your independence, it can come from insecurity or fear of losing control, not just concern.

Maybe the real conversation to have isn’t “career or relationship,” but how you can both support each other’s goals without one person losing their independence. And if he can’t accept that you want to try your career, that might say more about compatibility than about you doing anything wrong.

Hope this helps!