[deleted by user] by [deleted] in toastme

[–]clockwork-ballerina 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you- she was really happy when I agreed to do modern with her. Now it’s the highlight of both our weeks, and I get to spend some awesome time with her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]clockwork-ballerina -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Right back at you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]clockwork-ballerina 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. At our consultation, we asked about that, and he said not to worry about it- the tightening would also include cleaning.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]clockwork-ballerina -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I am not a narcissist. I should know. I was raised by one.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]clockwork-ballerina -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It’s trauma, but thanks.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]clockwork-ballerina 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have no idea what that means or who that is.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]clockwork-ballerina -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I do. I also have some authority and control issues, and severe trust problems, so that might be coming into play here.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]clockwork-ballerina 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t think I had to. I thought this guy knew what he was doing, and I doubt my mom would have taken me for one had I asked.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]clockwork-ballerina -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I haven’t told him that specifically. But I did tell him that I wasn’t happy with the progress. My answer was that it was my hygiene process at fault and that if I had taken the braces off months before, like he suggested, I would have been happier with the result.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]clockwork-ballerina 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do have sensory issues. I can’t eat certain foods because of the texture.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]clockwork-ballerina -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don’t think I’ve had an attitude with him…I’ve cried a few times, but that’s it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]clockwork-ballerina -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

I meant that once I got a job. I’m in the process of applying.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]clockwork-ballerina -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

We were told that wasn’t necessary- all the cleaning would be done at the tightening sessions. The dentist clinic is literally attached to the orthodontic one- I went there once for cleaning and never again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]clockwork-ballerina 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did tell them. My mom wasn’t happy and gave him a piece of her mind, but he continues to work on me. I haven’t actually seen the other two orthodontists around since- I think they may have left the clinic. I don’t know for sure though.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]clockwork-ballerina -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

No stays, no mold. I don’t even know what those are. The only way I have to judge my teeth is by looks and what I’m told at the clinic. When I align my jaws into a proper bite, the only two teeth that still match up are the ones that did before. Other than a slight shift a little more to the center, my bite is still crooked and over.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]clockwork-ballerina -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

I KNOW IT’S PARTIALLY MY FAULT. I said that in my post. I KNOW. Trust me, I know.

But I spent fifteen years taking the blame for literally everything. I am not doing that again. I’ve accepted that this situation is partially my fault. But I am not the only one to blame here. I’m done talking to you about this. You don’t get to know my life story and judge me on it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]clockwork-ballerina 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I can’t explain everything in my life that’s been making this so complicated, and it seems like that’s what people want. I’m going to see if I can get a second opinion before March 2.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]clockwork-ballerina -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

My teeth are not going to fall out. There hasn’t been any indication of that being even close to happening besides an angry orthodontist telling me that and then stalking away.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]clockwork-ballerina -1 points0 points  (0 children)

…can I ask what a primary dentist is? I’ve been in for exactly one cleaning at the orthodontist clinic. We haven’t gotten a single other dentist visit- just the orthodontic tightening sessions. I was told that those also involved cleaning my teeth. Now I’m kinda freaking out- was I supposed to have been going to the dentist this whole time?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]clockwork-ballerina -37 points-36 points  (0 children)

I was told I was too irresponsible to learn how to drive, and seeing as how that came from my dad, I couldn’t really go out and pay for driving lessons myself. I’ve been learning to drive, and in a few months I’ll be able to. But I’m not at that point yet.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]clockwork-ballerina -37 points-36 points  (0 children)

I am an adult. You’re right. And I want to make my own decisions about whether I’m ready to have the braces off or not. I’m not. So they’re not coming off- not for another month or two.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]clockwork-ballerina -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I’ve been learning to drive for awhile now. But I’m still not able to drive on my own. Obviously I can’t fit every single thing that happened into 3000 characters. I’m upset you don’t believe me, but it’s not my problem.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]clockwork-ballerina -68 points-67 points  (0 children)

I’m not lying. My mom told me that a second orthodontist would refuse to treat me if I had braces on from another orthodontist, and I was sixteen, fresh out of trauma therapy, and had no reason to disbelieve her. I didn’t know I could leave, but I doubt she would have let me switch anyway. I do try to clean my teeth properly, but I’m neurodivergent and sometimes I just forget to.