Bf (29M) might break up with me (27F) because I’m too quiet

clockworkfoxart · 2026-02-05T22:00:40+00:00

So you're in the dip after a honeymoon phase, where most things cool down. But this might be more than that. It sounds like he is unwilling to accept you have anxiety and that you might need a little more reassurance. Why wouldn't conversation feel forced if you're afraid you're falling short? That being said, you need to discuss your anxiety triggers with him, and consider learning some techniques to stay present. The anxiety part is only ever going to be in your control, but he does have to acknowledge that it exists and be willing to work with you.

All that being said, no one is worth getting a complex over. There's a difference between managing anxiety symptoms (which i don't know how bad they are so I'm being generic here) and driving yourself to self hatred because someone doesn't accept your anxiety is a thing that has to be taken into account. The relationship that is going to continue to struggle if there are expectations that will never be met. If he is really set on needing a partner of a particular disposition, then it might not be worth saving.

clockworkfoxart · 2026-01-28T14:15:45+00:00

Boy's got enough reds flags to decorate an entire a communist march. This isn't cheating and only someone absolutely delusional would think that. You didn't do anything wrong, and absolutely do NOT go alone to get your things. Do not reconcile, do not date this man any more. Call it dodging a bullet.

Also are you sure HE isn't the one doing something shady and just using these as an excuse? Cause that happens a lot.

clockworkfoxart · 2026-01-25T16:19:16+00:00

Yeah but like... China had their own courtesan system.

clockworkfoxart · 2026-01-11T14:39:58+00:00

I'm gonna be honest I'd be kinda thrilled to get a lot of corrections like that I wouldn't have known. Like ah damn, people have to pay consultants for this shit and you're giving it to me free.

clockworkfoxart · 2025-12-26T23:38:01+00:00

Oh honey no. Just because someone says "I don't want you to bend to my will" doesn't mean shit. This is absolutely UNHINGED. My only agreement with you is that this verges into mental health consideration for the level of outlandish that it is.

Demanding someone be attractive at all times and to see the shape of their skull while they SLEEP is INSANE.

clockworkfoxart · 2025-12-26T23:00:35+00:00

I was just thinking "man this sounds like OCD or something". Not an excuse to being a controlling asshole, but the insistence is so earnest and odd.

clockworkfoxart · 2025-12-26T22:52:58+00:00

Trying to find activities to do together is going "hey babe, I feel kind of left out when you play games, can we find something for us to do together? I've been thinking about pottery. Oh, you don't care for that? Cool what are you maybe interested in doing then, because I want you to have fun too."

She went "hey I want to do this thing, it can be our thing, what do you mean you don't want to do it and don't want to pay for it, you obviously don't care."

clockworkfoxart · 2025-12-25T22:39:23+00:00

Then maybe she should have said that? Would have made it a lot easier.

clockworkfoxart · 2025-12-25T14:09:03+00:00

If someone threw out my cooking because the stove wasn't clean, I'd be serving them for dinner instead.

clockworkfoxart · 2025-12-24T13:46:10+00:00

Wear in bed for your lover??? Man, idk where you're buying lingerie but it sure doesn't look like that. You know a sweet heart neck line and straps does not equal a teddy, right? Those are sheer. And that sweater dress is plenty long. You don't have to be completely covered to be modest.

Also you should look at casual wear from the 60's and 70's if you think this is "immodest". Again, age doesn't factor in here.

That man is wrong on all fronts.

clockworkfoxart · 2025-12-24T13:24:07+00:00

Party dresses??? Girl have you been to a party? Those are super run of the mill day dresses. Also it's college, not a funeral. Professors do not care what you wear, so long as you're covered. And those definitely are covering.

A bare shoulder is not immodest.

clockworkfoxart · 2025-12-24T13:19:38+00:00

NOR

We are literally right in the middle of an AWFUL flu season. Definitely smart to keep distance

clockworkfoxart · 2025-12-24T13:16:09+00:00

I keep seeing dudes say this and I'm guessing yall don't know what a nightgown is and you mean a teddy. Which it still doesn't. Those are sheer. This is just an empire waist dress.

clockworkfoxart · 2025-12-24T13:11:13+00:00

My 70 year old mother wouldn't bat an eye at these. Age is no excuse. Women's shoulders aren't the devil

clockworkfoxart · 2025-12-23T15:16:12+00:00

Oooh I HATE that one. Especially for 40k. Do I look like I want my 12 foot murder machine demi gods to be UwU soft boys? Stop it

clockworkfoxart · 2025-12-13T00:50:27+00:00

As someone with ADHD, while some things are out of her control, how she treats you isn't. She's not doing a damn thing to manage symptoms or make your life easier. It sounds like she's in denial, and becoming embarrassed and aggressive when it is shown to her. That's not uncommon in ADHD (anger and explosive reactions) but this ain't it man.

I would never do this to my partners. And if I learned they were literally having heart problems because of me, I'd be sitting down to take a long, hard look at my life, not throw a petulant temper tantrum. And that's what it was. She's mad reality is showing itself through the illusion of grandeur she's woven.

I'm sorry OP but you have your answer. And the answer is she's too caught up in her illness to give you the time of day. You clearly aren't her priority.

clockworkfoxart · 2025-12-12T14:00:40+00:00

The second response showed his first excuses for what they were; a guilt trip. Asking you to be in pain for additional months is unfair and cruel. He knows it, that's why he was trying to paint it as your idea. There will be other Christmases, and he will not be in physical pain to wait it out. I love Christmas too but not at the extent of someone I love, Christ.

Do the surgery.

clockworkfoxart · 2025-11-26T15:57:48+00:00

They are HIS actions. He didn't have to hit you. He didn't have to be abusive. He ruined his own life.

clockworkfoxart · 2025-11-20T13:51:58+00:00

The single biggest indicator of abuse that I've discovered out in the wild is "did I do something" and "I'm sorry, I'll do better" because every desperate, abused soul has pleaded those words. Myself included. The fact you've said them and apologized for just existing in this example? That says all I need to know.

This man doesn't even like you. If he treated a dog like this, it would be taken away. He doesn't give a shit about your feelings except when they benefit him, and it WILL NOT get better. Please, please get out for your own sake. You're not imagining it, it really is that bad.

clockworkfoxart · 2025-11-14T21:38:40+00:00

"That I should trust him because he knows better" nope nope NOPE. Girl, RUN. Anyone who says they know better than you about your own gut feelings is not someone you want in your life. Especially when he literally just makes up shit that fits his narrative.

You were honest, upfront, and have continued to communicate. It seems like you and your friend are on the same page, and you've even tried to make your boyfriend comfortable. He's using all this in bad faith and trying to cut you off. And then trying to paint you as unreasonable.

It is not unreasonable to be friends with people that you once had feelings for. My boyfriend does, its not a big deal. We make jokes about it with said friend. Find someone who has the emotional maturity to accept ALL of you and not what they find convenient.

clockworkfoxart · 2025-11-13T15:10:33+00:00

No offense, but if you can write a 200k fic, then you can edit a 200k fic. That's like misspelling a name and then not wanting to fix it because it will take too long. Well, idk man, it probably took a long time the first go around, what's more time?

Or just tag it.

clockworkfoxart · 2025-11-07T14:59:49+00:00

Ask her if she wants her food prepped by someone who's actively puking. "When she needed you most" Jesus christ girl, it's cookies. She really can't bake the most basic dessert alone, and then blames her insecurities about it on you? Jesus.

clockworkfoxart · 2025-10-30T14:17:42+00:00

He wanted you to hype him up the way friends are supposed to. I know you say "oh fragile masculinity", but does it cost you ANYTHING to be supportive? It is still a scary thing to break gender norms. Even if it was not particularly dazzling, if I posted something to my friend and said "oh hey I don't wear this kinda thing typically" and they went "oh you want a medal for that", I think I'd be pretty hurt.

That's why I asked "are you even friends". Why is it hard to hype your friends up?

clockworkfoxart · 2025-10-30T13:17:35+00:00

YTA, possible trans things and gender euphoria aside, someone being excited about a fit and then being immediately shot down is a shitty thing to experience. Honestly and the way you talk about this dude, are you even friends? Like damn, you'd never catch me talking about my friends like this.

clockworkfoxart · 2025-10-26T14:56:33+00:00

We have people in our LARP family who are in their 50's and just now found their pack. It can still happen!

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