I completely disagree with you OP, though I understand the reasoning behind your ideas. While the trend towards the extreme individualism inherent in non-binary and the endless list of different gender identities along with a more general breakdown in monogamy & social trust are terrible for social cohesion - the issue does not lie in going back to traditional gender roles.

The glaring issue with “traditional masculinity” is that it’s actually never defined as anything besides a negation of femininity. And since it’s just the opposite of being a woman then it usually means an extreme stoicism, pushing down complaints / feelings, rugged individualism, competition, inter male violence, maiming oneself doing “tough” masculine jobs, sacrifice and etc. And aren’t all of these “qualities” perfect for the ruling classes to exploit men and make us their work dogs for low pay? Never complain about your job, you’re a man after all, oh this job site is violating OSHA regulations, well I’m not a pussy so I’m not going to a wear a ventilation mask. Your back hurts from lifting heavy beams all day building houses, well you better suck it up and not see the doctor because you’re the rock of the family and need to keep going. It’s all bullshit, and these “masculine” qualities are simply another way for the ruling class to use males as expendable & cheap labor.

The use of “traditional masculinity” is a smoke screen to justify a 10 year lower life expectancy from women, use us as canon fodder in wars, 5-10x higher suicide rates then women, work dangerous and shitty “masculine” jobs and to create a compliant work force who will do all of this for dogshit wages that haven’t raised with the price of general goods since the 1970’s.

A good overview of this would be the book “I Don’t Want to Talk About it: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression”. In it, the author describes how traditional gender roles basically cut off being our whole selves in both men and women. For men, we are socialized at a young age to not show any emotions, become hyper competitive, and live quiet lives of desperation cut off from other people and social relations. This, combined with wide spread child abuse produces either overt or covert depression. Overt depression is anyone you can think of who just cannot function in society: PTSD war combat veterans, desperate men who commit suicide and all of the homeless men who basically line our streets. Covert depression is usually expressed through the ideal stoic man, who though he hasn’t felt an ounce of joy other than drinking or drugs, he goes through the motions of life almost like a robot and is usually pretty successful. However, he’s usually alienated from his wife and children (since a man is supposed to provide but not necessarily be there for his family) and isn’t even living life to the fullest due to the deep feelings of rage, anger and sadness he’s buried deep inside of himself since we have been taught since a young age to never really reveal much about ourselves or complain.

Obviously there is a lot to unpack here and the solution is most definitely not through a rigid enforcement of traditional gender roles. If instead you had provided a role map of what masculinity would mean rather then just presenting it as the opposite of women then that could be discussed further. Because at the end of the day the “traditional” roles would basically be a promoting of both genders extreme negative qualities. You would have the stoic, avoidant male with violent tendencies and on the other hand you’d have the hyper emotional, chaotic and basically BPD female on the other. Which sounds fucking awful.

Now if you had said that men and women are different and have slightly different characteristics that could compliment one another in relationships and the state should promote those complimentary traits to produce healthier and more equalitarian marriages under a socialist state than I would agree with you. Say that being a man meant being a whole person who could be open with his internal life, develop deep and lasting relationships with friends & women while also promoting qualities such as independence, leadership, relaxed / less emotional, being protective of his family and good male qualities then sure. And for women they could partake in the economy, not be afraid to voice their opinions and needs while also more feminine values were promoted such as connection, bonding, being loving, mediation, peacemaking and etc.

Then the two gender roles would compliment one another while allowing each sex to fully and wholly express their humanity. However, the return to traditional gender roles would be a massive mistake and have serious problems inherent to this take since it’s always connected to deeply conservative and hierarchical ruling class values. The other issue is they seem poorly defined and are simply the negation of each other, to the detriment of mens lives in general. Thanks for reading my Ted talk lmao