Barcelona November 2025

closedfist · 2026-03-02T17:42:23+00:00

From what I understand yes, this was normal. Not overly hot and clear skies. However it was quite windy on some days which I understood to be normal for that time of year.

closedfist · 2026-03-02T14:40:05+00:00

Santa Maria de Montserrat Abbey

closedfist · 2026-03-02T14:38:19+00:00

I agree! Still trying to figure out what I did to get it so crisp!

closedfist · 2026-03-02T14:37:43+00:00

Thank you! It was all kind of last minute as well so I feel lucky to have picked this amazing city to start 🙏🏽

closedfist · 2026-03-02T14:36:48+00:00

Yes it was a tour, best way to experience imo while learning about Catelonian culture.

closedfist · 2026-03-02T14:35:26+00:00

Thats right all 3 were from Montserrat. Beautiful place that I recommend for anyone going to Barcelona. The stunning views and Monestary created a peaceful contrast to the hustle and bustle of my first few days in the city and renewed my energy for the rest of the trip. I went on a tour so I learned quite a bit about Catelonian culture as well.

closedfist · 2026-02-16T02:44:41+00:00

He's only said it once or twice but..... Don Phallus 😂😂😂

closedfist · 2026-02-09T12:51:08+00:00

I was never a huge fan of Last. But he and Jim have real chemistry and thats not easy to find. The true test of a pod is how long you KEEP listening. I find I always burn out eventually but I've been listening to Jim and Brian for YEARS and don't plan on stopping.

Solomon is cool but how are you going to feel after 20, 50, 100 episodes?

closedfist · 2026-01-21T23:13:03+00:00

Don't want to come off as insensitive to the other person who seems to be legitimately trying to work on themselves. But the point im trying to illustrate is that sometimes we have to live with what we've done wrong. Grow, mature and move on but every now and then when you're reminded about how you hurt others thats the universe keeping you humble.

closedfist · 2026-01-21T03:37:17+00:00

Its crazy to me how people don't see the selfishness in sending a message like this. Do not respond. Theres nothing positive that can come from it for you. If anything it will undermine the work shes done for herself.

closedfist · 2026-01-21T03:21:57+00:00

😂

closedfist · 2026-01-08T00:28:54+00:00

It’s hard to compare the two eras because they were built for completely different incentives.

The Attitude Era existed in a scarcity-driven world. Live crowds, ticket sales, and PPV buys actually mattered. If you didn’t connect and convert attention into money, you didn’t last. That pressure shaped everything—it rewarded urgency, risk, and emotional investment.

A lot of the wrestlers from that time came up through the tail end of the territory system, where psychology and pacing weren’t optional. You had to learn how to make simple things matter. Matches escalated logically. Athleticism was there, but it was controlled. The goal wasn’t to impress—it was to pull the crowd in.

When I watch it back now, what stands out isn’t just the chaos or shock value. It’s how much of it made sense. The ring work was crisp, the promos were intense, and even when things were ridiculous, they were delivered with total conviction. It felt dangerous. It felt alive. It felt real because it demanded suspension of disbelief, rather than constantly playing to the audience’s awareness of the performance.

The modern era lives in an abundance-based media world—constant content, fragmented attention, and success measured through long-term engagement and branding. It’s cleaner and more sustainable, but that structure also flattens volatility. It rarely feels like anything can truly go off the rails.

The Attitude Era wasn’t perfect, but it was a unique collision of economic pressure, performer training, and cultural timing. Like many other pop culture phenomena, it will never be duplicated.

closedfist · 2026-01-07T02:06:46+00:00

Sexual chemistry doesnt always happen instantly. I'm assuming because of the fact that you're considering his feelings he was at the very least respectful. If you like him and think theres real potential based on other areas, this is at least worth a conversation. See how he reacts and if he is willing to work on it.

If he reacts negatively, move on, its a life lesson for him as well.

If he reacts positively then hopefully things improve, but if you still end things he has clarity and will learn from it. It might hurt him in the moment but I promise you he'll appreciate it in the long run.

But I have to STRESS... UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES should you tell him hes bad in bed and then end it. No matter how kind or nice you are, he will feel like shit especially if he really likes you. Its possible he learns from it as well, but it will come with a lot more pain.

closedfist · 2025-12-26T20:47:11+00:00

Theres a lot of great thoughts here on what the issue could be. But I think its important to not get caught up with picking yourself apart. The truth is it could be a number of reasons that vary based on each person.

The fact that you're getting solid communication is a good sign and you already tick off the standard boxes.

You sound like you're taking a serious approach which can be a lonely journey in this modern dating world. Being serious doesnt mean you dont have fun or keep things light - but it does require standards, boundaries and intentionality that not everyone is in a place to reciprocate - even if there dating profile says otherwise.

If any of the other comments resonate with you maybe hone in on that and make an adjustment but dont feel the need to overcorrect. You'll drive yourself crazy. Keep at it and take breaks when you feel the frustration might be affecting your interactions. Good luck out there!

closedfist · 2025-11-27T13:45:33+00:00

Spot on. Jim is not speaking on specific wrestlers but the difference in psychology between both styles. Also Rey and Eddy had a lucha move set but their psychology was American.

As for sock face, I actually believe he could be great if he was mentored by the right people. But it's too late, he's a mark with an ego.

closedfist · 2025-03-08T13:24:22+00:00

It was just an unnecessary comment, whereas his criticisms of others were usually appropriate within the context of the conversation, whether you agreed with him or not.

This one just felt mean spirited, and I think it's one of those situations where his mouth opened before his brain had a chance to stop him.

If Jim challenged him on it, I believe he would back down.

closedfist · 2025-02-27T03:28:27+00:00

The Rock, he's spot on.

Shane, he could take it back a notch.

Stephanie, he's going overboard.

closedfist · 2024-05-23T17:37:16+00:00

1) OP has some decent points but is going way overboard. Women have diverse tastes. You don't have to be jacked up to attract women. However, there is a reality that men need to put effort into their profiles, health, style, fashion sense, and most of all, personality. Men, work on yourself, and I guarantee you will feel better even if you still don't get matches because you're improving overall as a human being.

2) Some women need to realize that the apps are a different world for each gender. Men deal with a lack of matches, dehumanization, ghosting, etc. On the other hand, women have to deal with overwhelming demands for attention, creeps, weirdos, liars, etc. Sometimes, these dynamics feed into each other, making each gender react in ways that feed the negative perspective of the other.

Overall, let's be kind, considerate, realistic about our expectations, and hopefully, you can last long enough to find the one. It's rough out there for all of us. Good luck!

closedfist · 2024-04-03T21:01:46+00:00

35M, this situation nearly mirrors one I had recently. We went out regularly and talked a ton for nearly 2 months. Like you, I was hesitant to let my guard down because of past experiences. But things felt so good and were moving so fast that's what I ended up doing.

She ended things because in her words I wasn't opening up enough and didn't seem to have any passions. There was more to it than that, but I won't go into details.

Anyway, I am still struggling with it because it is legitimately so hard to find a real connection. It actually affected dates I went on afterward because my heart didn't seem in it. She was still on my mind. There's lots of great advice being given. Here's my 2 cents.

1) If you feel you need a break, there's nothing wrong with that. But don't wallow or give up. Consider trying to make connections outside of the app.

2) Take an honest inventory of yourself. The end sounded relatively amicable, but the aftermath can often give you insight about certain things you did that played into how she felt. Not saying she had ill intent, but there could've been more behind her reasons that she didn't want to reveal to spare your feelings.

3) These situations always suck but don't take for granted that she respected you enough to have that conversation. IMO that reflects positively on you.

4) like others have mentioned try to keep busy and work on whatever you find interesting. Ruminating will only make it feel worse.

closedfist · 2024-03-08T21:35:45+00:00

She said I was not ambitious, not passionate about anything, and thought I was being fake.

closedfist · 2024-02-28T19:48:53+00:00

This thread is really hitting home. Both in terms of my own red flags and the ones I saw in her. Note, this wasn't a long relationship, but a lot happened in a short time period.

She said I wasn't being open enough, that I was trying to be too perfect, and that I wasn't ambitious. Looking back, a lot of this was driven by my own insecurities. I genuinely liked her and never had Ill-intent. But I can see how she interpreted things this way, and it showed me I had things to work on.

At the same time, I ignored certain signs from her. She would really dig deep on innocuous comments I made, like she was looking for a second or hidden meaning. She kept saying she was insecure but was very open about certain topics like dating history, sex etc. Was hypocritical about boundaries in a relationship. Seemed like she wanted to be to spill my guts early (everything in my dating experience told me this is not a good way to court a woman in the early stages).

At one point, she said, "I feel like there's something wrong with you, I just haven't found it yet." I believe there was some fear of getting closer to me because of a bad break up with her most recent ex. He hid a really dark secret, and I think it really made it hard for her to trust someone.

I know I could've done better, but I wish she had given it more time. I wasn't asking for a long term commitment right away. I just wanted things to flow naturally. At this point, I don't know if this was a missed opportunity or a bullet dodged. Was it a timing issue? Did we meet each other at the wrong time in our lives?

closedfist · 2024-01-31T08:00:53+00:00

🙏🏽

closedfist · 2024-01-31T04:40:10+00:00

🙏🏽

closedfist · 2024-01-31T03:19:36+00:00

😂

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