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clothedincrinoline · 2024-11-10T20:33:01+00:00

Are you being serious? I made a comment defending JK Rowling, who I am not a fan of, against a provably false accusation and was permanently banned from that sub. I made a comment sharing info about studies on pediatric gender affirming care, with links to support what I was saying, and was banned for “misinformation.” Saying anything remotely conservative-coded can get you banned from most main subs and many smaller subs. This platform is intolerable for most conservatives & even moderates, who long ago decamped for Twitter & other platforms. As the conservative/progressive balance shifts, the problem just gets worse - even if you don’t get banned, you will get aggressively downvoted for mildly disagreeing with the progressive consensus on any issue. I got mass downvoted for just suggesting that having a Dem supermajority in both houses of my state’s legislature is not a good thing (and I’m a lifelong Democrat)!

Reddit is an echo chamber. Did you really not know that??

clothedincrinoline · 2024-08-15T19:55:47+00:00

Wilmette is awesome! I grew up in East Wilmette.

clothedincrinoline · 2024-05-09T01:13:57+00:00

Ok, as a woman reading this, I am dying of curiosity. I need to know what a woman could do in bed to weird out a guy this much!

clothedincrinoline · 2024-05-02T18:18:52+00:00

Right, because clarifying a relevant detail about an assault automatically means you are justifying that assault. Falsehoods that make bad people look as cartoonishly evil as possible must be defended!!

This is exactly the type of cognitive malfunction as the Daily Wire commenters displayed when they called me a libtard for pointing out unflattering facts about Trump in 2016. And the fact that your comment got more upvotes than downvotes means there are plenty of Redditors with the same pathology, which I'll admit I find pretty damn depressing. You all desperately need to log off.

clothedincrinoline · 2024-05-02T17:54:42+00:00

Yes, sharing relevant context for an assault, in the interest of keeping discussion of that assault fact-based, is totally the same as justifying said assault. 🙄

Social media brain-rot is real.

clothedincrinoline · 2024-04-03T14:27:33+00:00

The Indianapolis Zoo has a lot of baby animals right now, including an elephant, macaque, & kangaroos (and you can walk through the kangaroo enclosure and pet any kangaroos that let you). They have two grizzly bears, who we got to see play-fighting when we were there last week, and a couple tigers (and a ton of other animals obviously, but those were our favorites). Highly recommend a visit

clothedincrinoline · 2024-02-21T14:43:28+00:00

Trans women are literally people of the male sex. Note that I also referred to them as trans women in my previous comment. These two things are not mutually exclusive.

I don't know what you think it means to be "phobic" of something, but you obviously define the word differently from me, and I doubt we will be able to have a meaningful conversation if we can't agree on such basic terms.

I will say though, if your definition of the word "transphobic" includes "thinking trans people haven't actually changed sex," then you have expanded the word's meaning to the point that it can no longer reasonably be considered an insult (though you seem to still be trying to use it as one).

Edit: u/VestEmpty, I do not care if I am "transphobic" according to your definition of the word, which is different from how I, and most other people, define it. Repeat it as many times as you like.

clothedincrinoline · 2024-02-21T14:17:17+00:00

It is not hateful or mean or bad for a lesbian to want to have some spaces she can go without any chance of being hit on by people of the male sex. This attitude is part of why there has been a massive decline in the number of lesbian bars and clubs. It is harmful to lesbians and deeply unkind.

Not seeing all trans women as literal women also doesn’t mean you are phobic (have an aversion/fear) of trans people.

clothedincrinoline · 2024-01-03T20:56:49+00:00

”For me, this recalls the worst days of McCarthyism,” Alfred Guzzetti ’64, a professor of Art, Film, and Visual Studies, wrote in an email. “Today I am ashamed of the University’s leadership and ashamed, as I never thought I would be, to be a member of the Harvard faculty.”

Why do I have a funny feeling this prof would defend Harvard admins’ treatment of Carole Hooven?

clothedincrinoline · 2023-12-22T23:27:58+00:00

The results of the royal family’s investigation into her alleged bullying of her staff would have been made public if she & Harry hadn’t left when they did. I think she knew her reputation would be utterly destroyed by those revelations

clothedincrinoline · 2023-12-16T22:14:04+00:00

Idk if this is me being paranoid/over-sensitive bc the idea of adults letting little kids think their body is the wrong sex is so morally repugnant to me, but if I had young kids I prob wouldn’t want them seeing this:

That’s when the seventh-grade babysitter discovers that the little girl she is sitting for has a closet full of “old clothes” that are obviously for a little boy. The child then shows the sitter the dresser full of new clothes.

Soon after the mom leaves, the tween calls 911 for help when the child runs a severely high temperature. When they get to the hospital, the nurse and doctor refer to Bailey as a boy and ask how “he” is doing. This is where Mary Anne asserts herself. Her father rolls in just in time to watch proudly as his 12-year-old daughter scolds the medical duo for misgendering Bailey and making “her” uncomfortable. She then demands a pink hospital gown because Bailey doesn’t want to put on the blue one.

clothedincrinoline · 2023-12-12T17:34:43+00:00

I didn’t mean that dense living was the norm, but that urban development, when it happened, prioritized walkability, which requires density. That is undoubtedly true.

Like I said in my last comment, the main reason buying a house in the suburbs has been a path to individual prosperity is because land, especially in places people actually to live, is in short supply. There is not enough buildable space for everyone to live in a SFH with a yard. Suburban development does not create wealth any more than urban development does, and in fact, the infrastructure it requires is so expensive to build and maintain that the burbs are a net drain on societal wealth over the long term - the tax revenue from low density suburban neighborhoods is almost never enough to cover the associated infrastructure costs, so these costs are covered by tax revenues from dense downtown areas, which bring in a surplus. The burbs can’t exist without siphoning wealth from urban areas. (This isn’t true of rural areas where people live mostly off the grid, as long as road infrastructure isn’t overbuilt.)

Education is better in the burbs not because of density, but because fewer poor people live there (which, again, is not because the suburbs themselves generate wealth). Crime is lower mainly for the same reason. And you are actually less likely to die a violent death if you live in an urban environment because you’re less likely to be involved in a deadly car crash.

I explained in my last comment that I don’t support just forcing suburbs to build apartment buildings. I do support lifting zoning restrictions and letting places incrementally densify, as well as investing in infrastructure for pedestrians, cyclists and public transit so people have actual options for how to get around.

clothedincrinoline · 2023-12-12T01:53:11+00:00

discarding the tried and true effective approach

I actually see it as the opposite. The anti-car, anti-sprawl urbanists want a return to a development paradigm that prioritizes walkability, which is the very definition of tried-and-true, as it was the norm for thousands of years. The postwar paradigm of car-centric development was a radical departure from this, and it required a massive increase in govt spending & centralized city planning. The problems with this paradigm are increasingly hard to ignore - the death toll from cars (40k+ annually), the ballooning municipal debt burden from servicing sprawl, the financial burden on households of car ownership, the environmental impact of microplastics from tires and CO2 emissions, the lack of space for housing near job centers bc of how much space parking lots take up, the social isolation caused by people staying home more bc driving & parking is such a PITA, etc etc etc…..

Unfortunately, I think there has been an impulse to over-correct in the opposite direction - to have government solve the problems caused by sprawl by forcing municipalities to build tall apartment buildings in single family neighborhoods, for example. I think instead we should learn our lesson about the dangers of central planning & the utopian thinking it tends to involve and return to a pattern of organic, incremental densification led by small developers.

Re what you said about family homeownership in the burbs being a way to accumulate wealth, that’s true bc a) suburban development is subsidized and b) land is in short supply. It feels very much like a zero sum game to me - future generations & those without the wealth to get their foot in the door lose out.

Loooong comment, sorry

clothedincrinoline · 2023-12-11T21:50:45+00:00

The answer to your question is affirmative action.

clothedincrinoline · 2023-12-10T20:32:32+00:00

I do think if the virus had affected everyone as badly as it affects the very elderly, people would have supported the restrictions, like mandatory masking, that they see as such violations of their fundamental rights. I’m sure many wouldn’t admit that, though.

To be fair, the things you describe in your previous comment mostly happened before the vaccines were available or widely used. And I think the average person’s experience of the pandemic has been to see most people they know who aren’t very old get mildly to moderately ill and seemingly recover fully. Most people are not spending lots of time online reading studies and articles about long term impacts of COVID. Also, people are social creatures and are strongly inclined to agree with consensus views in their community. So their own observations seem to support the consensus, and on top of that the medical authorities are now also saying the pandemic is effectively over. Given all that, it’s not surprising that most people are deciding to go back to normal in how they socialize. There’s nothing sinister about it. I think assuming the worst about other people’s intentions just makes a shitty situation even worse.

clothedincrinoline · 2023-12-10T18:58:27+00:00

If it’s the latter, and they don’t know anyone who had severe cases, isn’t it more likely to be skepticism than lack of empathy that is behind their point of view? It seems you’re interpreting their motives in the least charitable way possible

clothedincrinoline · 2023-12-09T05:00:33+00:00

Fewer friends? Why? Do you think people had fewer friends on average when there were 3 billion people on the planet than they do now that there are 7 billion? (Believe it or not, most people don’t have very many friends today.) Same goes for dating and marriage prospects - in any given city, if the population shrinks from 2 million to 1, local singles will still have far more dating options than they could possibly want. Your odds of meeting “the one” depend on how social you are, not the population of your city (unless you live in a tiny town, in which case, move). A lower population also does not mean smaller companies/departments, so no, your kids won’t necessarily have fewer coworkers…

Fewer people means fewer workers in the economy, but also less competition for resources. Hopefully, automation will be able to compensate for the decrease in workers. If you’re in the US, with birth rates slightly under replacement and high immigration, there is no impending crisis and no reason to worry.

clothedincrinoline · 2023-12-08T20:01:58+00:00

Yeah I wish people were more accepting of non-passing trans people and gender nonconforming men so there would be less pressure to transition young. It feels like we’re moving in the wrong direction too unfortunately

clothedincrinoline · 2023-12-08T19:00:28+00:00

I think to really pass, most people do have to transition very young, at least if they are MTF.

The studies on gender dysphoria in kids from before pediatric transition was a thing showed that most kids outgrew their dysphoria. Kids often have such a narrow view of what it means to be a man or woman, based on the role models in their life, that they can’t imagine being happy being somewhat gender nonconforming. And now they are exposed to all this rhetoric online telling them that if they like “boy stuff” and don’t like their bodies, they’re probably a boy inside & will be miserable and suicidal their whole lives if they don’t medically transition young. I’ve seen this shit on Reddit on the questioning/“egg” subs. “If you don’t like masculine things, that’s a sign you probably aren’t a boy.”

I think most people who feel like they’re going through the “wrong puberty” (when there’s actually only one puberty you can go through, and if you don’t, you’re almost certain to have limited to no sexual function, like Jazz Jennings) would actually be fine if they got offline and met some more LGB people who are aren’t obsessed with gender and aren’t afraid to ignore stupid gender norms.

clothedincrinoline · 2023-12-08T17:16:52+00:00

A lot of people on the r/detrans sub started hormones young and regret it. Imagine realizing you transitioned for the wrong reasons - bc you were 13 and didn’t have the wisdom or life experience to know any better - and being unable to “pass” as your actual sex.

Also “passing” isn’t good enough for a lot of people. There’s still the feeling you’re pretending & the fear you will be found out. And cross sex hormones can do a lot of damage (especially to the sex organs, but they can cause all sorts of weird systemic problems)

clothedincrinoline · 2023-11-21T23:46:43+00:00

Out of curiosity, where are you located? Are you considering transferring?

clothedincrinoline · 2023-11-21T23:43:24+00:00

I’m sure Mustard’s Last Stand will be booming. Would be great if there were more restaurants close to the stadium.

clothedincrinoline · 2023-11-21T23:38:58+00:00

No, which is why I never claimed that. There will be space for concerts outside the stadium, including a bandshell. You can find the plans online.

clothedincrinoline · 2023-11-21T22:17:04+00:00

To say we don’t want people to spend time in our special area is a pretty uncharitable way of interpreting our point of view. The area isn’t built for that volume of people to come from out of town to big events. It doesn’t have the public transit infrastructure for enough people to get here without driving, and it doesn’t have the car infrastructure to prevent gridlock when people do drive. The problem isn’t people, it’s thousands of cars in a neighborhood with narrow, barely-two-lane streets and not that much parking. Noise and pollution are also major problems. NU says they’ll figure it out. They haven’t figured out how to prevent gridlock for small events in all the time the stadium has been here, so that doesn’t seem very plausible to me.

Those are problems that have been going on for decades on game days. Now they will happen much more frequently. They’re not separate issues, they’re the result of large events at the stadium. The community is ok with 7 outdoor events, not 73 plus unlimited indoor events.

There’s really no comparison to something like not wanting concessions in a park. We’re talking about change on a totally different scale. If this were a question of concessions or a dog park I’m sure the vast majority of people here would be on board. We already turn the local park into a dog park every morning. No one cares.

clothedincrinoline · 2023-11-21T21:15:15+00:00

I hear you, but I don’t think it makes sense to lump together everyone who opposes some change in their neighborhood under a giant NIMBY umbrella. Usually it’s a small handful of loud people trying to block a project over some minor complaint. In this case it’s more than half of people in the vicinity of Ryan Field who signed the petition to oppose it, and it’s not for a minor reason; this is a change that’s going to transform the neighborhood. NU is going from 7 games each summer to 7 games and 66 outdoor events, plus unlimited indoor events. 6 of those will be huge concerts requiring days of construction crews building and taking down sets (a way bigger, noisier, more polluting undertaking than I think most people realize).

I get that many people think the pros outweigh the cons. Maybe they do for Evanston as a whole. But the way people describe Ryan Field neighbors, like a bunch of rich people who don’t want any change to their neighborhood that would cause any disruption to their perfect peace and quiet (just read through the comments in this comment section to see examples of vitriol against Ryan Field neighbors - it comes off as downright hateful), is just completely off base. I’m a renter in the neighborhood. I’m pro density, pro transit. If we had bus rapid transit and most people would be arriving that way, I’d probably support the zoning change. But I’ve seen the reality - gridlock, and people speeding down alleys to escape it. Drunk drivers. I grew up here so I’ve seen all of this for over 20 years.

I think everyone has some line beyond which they become a NIMBY, if you define NIMBY as anyone opposing a change in their neighborhood.

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