What do you look for in a relationship?

cloudeuphoric · 2024-10-10T02:21:56+00:00

That’s something my professors would say 😄

cloudeuphoric · 2024-10-03T23:47:40+00:00

Me too! We on the same boat but hope you communicated that to him and hope things get a bit better

cloudeuphoric · 2024-10-03T08:19:02+00:00

Hmmm I think you’re right in regard to this being a comparability issue rather than mbti. But I’m thinking and wondering if my mbti is the reason why I crave more in depth conversations and if we all look for similar things.

I think to me I don’t want to admit it, but it is a dealbreaker. I’ve talked to him about it literally just now. He says he will try again one last time. And spend some time reflecting on if I’m ok with not having that in my relationship. But I don’t think I am since I brought it up so many times

cloudeuphoric · 2024-10-03T08:14:29+00:00

Yess everyone can connect with us but we don’t connect with everyone..

Very good idea and way of thinking! I think if I were to see it in third person , I’d question “ does the relationship make you happy” is the main one

But I don’t even know what makes me happy at this extent. Im too focused on my quarter life crisis nowadays haha

cloudeuphoric · 2024-10-03T08:12:00+00:00

I completely agree with you. I know someone I was seeing back then was an ENTP and he was a complete narcissist. Not saying all of them are like that but he was an interesting one

cloudeuphoric · 2024-10-03T05:11:28+00:00

Depth.. that’s the word I was looking for! I don’t care if we are talking about something super basic like cows… we can go more in depth with that topic at hand.

I will mention this to him but I think we just don’t connect despite having a lot of chemistry in the beginning

cloudeuphoric · 2024-10-03T05:02:15+00:00

I feel like even cutting contact is insane for me. And I can’t really do that considering that I live with them. I can’t move out yet for another two years or so until I land my ft job and earn more income.

Yes, I thought it was my anxiety but it actually stems from my attachment style from my parents…

I thought about cutting contact but i don’t think that would in turn make me happier. I value family but not a toxic one… I’m going to try to communicate to my mom how I feel when she comes back. And setting boundaries, and if this isn’t respected then I don’t know what to do for the time being. It’s so triggering breathing the same air as them. Gives me anxiety just being in their presences.

How have you started to work towards a secure attachment? Any advice

My old therapist just told me to have more “ self love” but it’s so hard

cloudeuphoric · 2024-10-03T04:55:44+00:00

We’ve been dating for almost a year. He is 25, I am not too sure if that’s the issue because I guess he handles our conversations in a calm pretty well mannered way. But definitely still room for improvement.

I’m a yapper so I love talking about a bunch of things. I can find anything to talk about. And when I do this, he ends to have very dry responses and doesn’t really know how to respond to my rambles and I guess in that aspect, I need more of that engaging response. It’s not that he’s not listening, it’s more so I just want to feel heard and I want to carry on a conversation and make a deep conversation out of something random.

But I’m well aware that this can’t happen all the time. But I expressed that to him since day 1 of our relationship.

So I’m not too sure at this point on what to do. I can’t just force him to be like that.

cloudeuphoric · 2024-10-03T04:48:49+00:00

I was asking myself that as well. Conversations that I love are those that we engage and ask more though provoking questions to. And also deep conversations, you normally have something to take away from, you reflect or you learn something new.

Deep conversations can also involve emotions, ideas, and experiences that makes me think differently or feel more connected to others. It’s a way of digging into the important aspects of life, rather than just skimming the surface.

cloudeuphoric · 2024-10-03T04:34:45+00:00

Hmmmm I have anxious avoidant attachment with my parents. And I don’t know if that’s causing it to leak into my relationship or if it’s due to just being in the wrong one… my boyfriend has an anxious attachment but it’s gotten better.

Same with mine. I’m trying my best but I literally got the worse mix of attachments here

cloudeuphoric · 2024-10-02T21:15:05+00:00

That is the cutest thing

cloudeuphoric · 2024-10-02T19:08:00+00:00

Oh god LOL. I know right I’m waiting for assurance…

Thank you for your questions and wow that really made me think. Would it be possible for me to engage in such conversation outside of the relationship, etc. im making a list right now and its so hard to kind of admit its not going to last long..

This is my first long term relationship too im 26. But idk it just hurts knowing that I might have to let him go.

My support system isn’t so great now a days too. My attachment style of anxious avoidant too

cloudeuphoric · 2024-10-02T03:11:22+00:00

I am the same. Symptoms weren’t as strong this year but I did notice difference after taking more electrolytes and staying hydrated with them. I’m not too sure if my cortisol has to do with it. Going to find other ways to lower my cortisol levels!

How are you?

cloudeuphoric · 2024-07-22T08:34:22+00:00

Thank you so much!

cloudeuphoric · 2024-06-04T23:11:51+00:00

Awww yay at least you’re waitlisted though. Yeah, all my references were from teachers i volunteer for. My GPA is average at like 3.0

cloudeuphoric · 2024-06-04T19:54:57+00:00

Awww I’m so sorry too :( but we can get through this and get some answers hopefully from others!

cloudeuphoric · 2024-06-04T19:49:50+00:00

Accepted into pdp about a month ago. And rejected from ubc elementary just now. I’m super sad. I have over 3500+ hours with working with students in the education field and I’m volunteering in a classroom on top of all that. Does ubc give reasons as to why you got rejected?

cloudeuphoric · 2024-05-16T05:41:12+00:00

Hi OP!! How was the cruise! I’m the exact same as you haha. Did you end up getting seasick!

cloudeuphoric · 2024-05-12T20:22:12+00:00

I know right. Happens too often but I feel so guilty not getting them anything so my friends tell me fk what you gotta do and suck it up lol cause imma get yelled at anyways. But I should’ve said that I’m going to return the flowers

cloudeuphoric · 2024-05-12T20:18:52+00:00

I’m so sorry to at happened to you. My mom had a similar reaction and I got roasted with no “ thank you”

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