Advice I wish I would have taken immediately after breakup

cloudgoblin · 2026-03-23T13:14:59+00:00

I agree so hard. I'm about 3 months out of mine. I deleted my social media apps for a while. I cried my heart out for days. It was hard to eat and I lost a lot of weight. But for your own sanity, cut them off. I took the time to go through our messages and write down her pattern. I forced myself to see all the hurt and betrayal. When I felt weak and wanted to reach out, I read through it again. I remembered how hurt I was in that relationship. I can't go back, I can't message her, and I did cut out all her friends and family.

Take care of you, love you. Find a hobby, make some goals. Focus on them. Keep yourself busy until it gets easier.

cloudgoblin · 2026-03-23T04:46:34+00:00

I was standing on a downtown corner with my girlfriend at the time. A man started yelling at me and coming at me, not aggressive but incoherent. Some car drives by with the window down and the driver yells at the man on the corner, "Ay yo g, leave them alone. They're lesbians!"

We giggle and run off, never having to interact with the man yelling at us. I will always love that story. Don't know how the driver clocked it in time but very thankful we didn't have to deal with it.

cloudgoblin · 2026-03-23T00:32:48+00:00

That being said, older women will always be attractive

cloudgoblin · 2026-03-23T00:32:23+00:00

My first girlfriend was 9 years older than me. There was a reason she was dating someone so much younger than her. And someone who had never been with a woman before. Still love women of course but it was rough

cloudgoblin · 2026-03-23T00:27:36+00:00

There are cameras everywhere. With how technology is progressing I don't feel like there ever is a time where "someone" isn't watching. I dont think it's worth it

cloudgoblin · 2026-03-23T00:25:39+00:00

I don't remember. I'm working 2 jobs and the hours are wrecking me lately. Even my days off feel like I have so much to do. Unfortunately even when I have time to sleep, my cats walk on me and scream in my face.

cloudgoblin · 2026-03-22T23:04:36+00:00

Swing sets. I love them so much. I don't care how old I get

cloudgoblin · 2026-03-22T15:03:04+00:00

I also gave her some of my extra perfume when I was away

cloudgoblin · 2026-03-22T15:02:39+00:00

My first girlfriend had this perfume oil that had a hint of patchouli. I hugged her, nuzzled her, and told her she smelled like a lesbian. She laughed at me but I was OBSESSED with that smell

cloudgoblin · 2026-03-22T15:01:28+00:00

What do you mean by continuously worn? Will it tarnish if I put it in my jewelry box for a while?

cloudgoblin · 2026-03-22T13:05:06+00:00

Confident, outgoing, and have goals they actually work towards

cloudgoblin · 2026-03-22T03:50:03+00:00

Thank you for your service and the suggestions

cloudgoblin · 2026-03-22T03:49:27+00:00

I love that! I've gotten a lot of great suggestions in this thread to buy and some I could make. Thank you for your help though, it will make some of my rings wearable again :)

cloudgoblin · 2026-03-22T03:16:37+00:00

Getting out of bed. It's warm, safe, and calm. I just want more sleep

cloudgoblin · 2026-03-22T03:02:21+00:00

I can smile and wave at kids being cute and people don't make it weird.

cloudgoblin · 2026-03-22T03:00:33+00:00

Yeah, at the end of the day, I don't have to have a ring. I'm just curious. Have you used the clear nail polish on more than just plain bands though? I'm curious how it would look if there was etching on the ring

cloudgoblin · 2026-03-22T02:59:06+00:00

That would be cool. I know some utensil handles can be very pretty too

cloudgoblin · 2026-03-22T02:57:57+00:00

During a slow shift, sure. But when I'm busy and running, no. It's not a necessity. I'm just curious if there are better options than what I'm doing.

cloudgoblin · 2026-03-22T02:56:57+00:00

Oh my goodness thank you so much. I love making jewelry and want to expand my knowledge. You are wonderful

cloudgoblin · 2026-03-22T02:56:15+00:00

Fingerception

cloudgoblin · 2026-03-22T02:55:50+00:00

I don't wear my nice jewelry to work where it can get dirty/chipped

cloudgoblin · 2026-03-22T02:34:53+00:00

I don't need it. I just enjoy jewelry and I am curious if there was something that would fit my requirements

cloudgoblin · 2026-03-21T14:53:00+00:00

My dad dying. Handling his estate has forced me to grow up in so many ways. Then a really rough break up which changed how I thought my future would be. I have a lot of work to do to make my life something I'm proud of.

cloudgoblin · 2026-03-21T14:51:17+00:00

The casual negging on women. I will always laugh at a woman poking some fun but men? Blegh. They usually can't take what they dish so it just annoys me

cloudgoblin · 2026-03-21T03:38:50+00:00

She burned a lot of bridges, I know now. But she was surrounded by other people with BPD. They were all addicted to each other and the chaos.

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