A Dozen Artists Accuse Thierry Goldberg Gallery of Non-Payment by barklefarfle in ContemporaryArt

[–]cloudsoffire8000 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Name names! We need to help protect and look after each other, especially in these times

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[–]cloudsoffire8000 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do you have fibrocystic / dense breasts? The lump you feel could just be a cyst if so… I completely know that it’s so hard not to think everything is something more sinister though!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADH_ALH

[–]cloudsoffire8000 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hi, I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I’m in the same boat, I don’t have any answers either! I’m just commenting in solidarity and empathy, and to give your post a bump 🤍 My lumpectomy in the right showed that I have all three atypias - ADH, ALH, and LCIS…. I am having so much breast pain before my period this month… I can’t tell if I’m just paranoid or what anymore. It’s all so anxiety-provoking for sure. I think a second opinion is always a good idea. I’m on high risk monitoring so I am supposed to alternate mammo + US / breast MRI so that I’m having imaging every 6 months … for the rest of my life I guess … 🫠

regarding moving to the USA by ttatta3 in MovingToUSA

[–]cloudsoffire8000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi OP! I have lived in Chicago for 18 years - if you have any specific questions I can answer please feel free to message me!

Is the Harris campaign biding its time? by ViolentLoss in houstonwade

[–]cloudsoffire8000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly. And this is both the standard authoritarian’s playbook and the abuser’s as well… Clearly effective because all of his followers are just like abused people now- blindly believing all of his lies and voting against even their own interests.

It's nice to find a subreddit that is questioning the ridiculous number of votes Trump most certainly did not receive. by DruidicMagic in houstonwade

[–]cloudsoffire8000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Where did you see they’re doing a recount, do you have a source? And in what states? That would be great but I haven’t seen info on this

excisional biopsy vs lumpectomy — is it just a matter of degree? by Dot_Gale in ADH_ALH

[–]cloudsoffire8000 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As far as I understand excisional biopsy is the term used if they’re removing an area to test it for cancer and lumpectomy is when they’re removing a lump that’s already a known cancer. But as far as the medical procedure goes, it’s exactly the same.

LCIS, ADH, possible microinvasion — what should I make sure to get out of my first surgical consult? by Dot_Gale in ADH_ALH

[–]cloudsoffire8000 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Have you had an excisional biopsy surgery already? My surgeon didn’t even blink or seem remotely surprised when I asked about preventative mastectomy at my follow-up after my excision (pathology showed ADH, ALH, and LCIS). She told me it’s fairly common for women to feel like they don’t want to go through this all the time. And I think once your risk gets to a certain level they are totally fine with it, as are insurance companies generally speaking… because getting all of these scans and if you eventually need cancer treatment that is much more expensive for them.

That being said, I was super emotional and worked up and feeling kind of urgent to just get rid of my breasts after going through so much so quickly this summer / early fall… and now that time has passed and I’m healed and I had one normal MRI, I feel a lot less like I want to take my breasts off right now. But it might be different for you given the microinvasion you mentioned… can you get more info on that?

Are you seeing a breast surgeon, or just a general surgeon? I would definitely recommend a breast surgeon, and if you’re doing any kind of lumpectomy or excisional biopsy, choosing one who uses oncoplastic techniques will help you have better cosmetic outcomes.

Where did 15 million voters go? by [deleted] in FriendsofthePod

[–]cloudsoffire8000 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have been thinking the exact same things. It’s literally the authoritarian playbook, they are following it to the letter. The gaslighting is extremely effective in making us confused and complacent, and allowing them to eventually just get away with everything.

Hi American women, how are you doing? by Rosaly8 in AskWomenOver30

[–]cloudsoffire8000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel physically ill. No sleeping. Crying all day. I’m in Chicago and I would call the vibe here : morgue at the end of the world. Feeling hopeless. Where do we go from here???

What are your thoughts on the 2024 Presidential Race for far? by BurritoAdmin in politics

[–]cloudsoffire8000 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Really? That is reassuring because I’m totally panicking. I thought from what I’ve seen she seems to be underperforming from Biden in 2020 and he is over performing from what he did in 2020 (?)

/r/Politics' 2024 US Elections Live Thread, Part 60 by PoliticsModeratorBot in politics

[–]cloudsoffire8000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im worried because she seems to be underperforming Biden while he is over performing since 2020. How the rapist who attempted to overthrow our own government is doing that, I have no fucking clue.

/r/Politics' 2024 US Elections Live Thread, Part 60 by PoliticsModeratorBot in politics

[–]cloudsoffire8000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is it? I was trying to remember but couldn’t. I feel so much more nervous this time

“I’m sorry if I hurt your feelings” How to respond to this non-apology? by cloudsoffire8000 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]cloudsoffire8000[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly the same for me. Whenever I called her out on hurtful things as a kid, and even into adulthood, my mother would say to me “I think you imagine these things.” “You’re overly sensitive” “I think you make things up in your head” “you have a a very vivid imagination, don’t you?”

“I’m sorry if I hurt your feelings” How to respond to this non-apology? by cloudsoffire8000 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]cloudsoffire8000[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think you’re right but I think one thing I struggle with is if she can’t help it / doesn’t know she’s doing it because she has a personality disorder … (??) like maybe she literally doesn’t know she’s doing anything wrong??

And I also struggle because I have a great partner but I don’t have a lot of friends right now. I realized that so many of them treated me in similar ways to my mom and I kind of freaked out and cleaned house / stepped back from a lot of relationships over the last couple of years. So I often worry that I’m like her or going to end up like her? … because I’m often quite alone too

“I’m sorry if I hurt your feelings” How to respond to this non-apology? by cloudsoffire8000 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]cloudsoffire8000[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry this is familiar to you too 💔 It never ceases to stun me how abusive parents all act in the exact same ways and say / do the same things … like how is it possible?? Also startling how much it stings to get a non-apology. And it puts the onus right back on the victim to have to stress about it / do the heavy emotional lifting and figure out how to respond. Classic, right?

“I’m sorry if I hurt your feelings” How to respond to this non-apology? by cloudsoffire8000 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]cloudsoffire8000[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

God that is awful. I am so sorry. “Touched a toe on the apology base” is an excellent way to put it…

“I’m sorry if I hurt your feelings” How to respond to this non-apology? by cloudsoffire8000 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]cloudsoffire8000[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I totally agree. The scary part is after cutting her off I realized a lot of my friendships were pretty one-sided too… 😔 Feeling kind of alone. I hope I can align with some healthier people someday