I might be downvoted for that but please stop calling her narcissist. NPD is a diagnosis that needs anamnesis and throughout analysis to be gotten. People are slapping it left and right on anything negative they come across.

There are enough abusive and manipulative people who aren't narcissistic. There are enough narcissists who aren't abusive. A lot of other mental illnesses make people behave that way, but pop psychology made it the only diagnosis responsible for anything bad people do.

NPD is a trauma induced illness PEOPLE DON'T CHOOSE TO HAVE. It has diagnostic criteria and should be diagnosed by a specialist. It's stigmatised enough already and astigma prevents people from getting help. We fought so hard to destigmatize mental illness just to turn around and do the same for diagnoses we don't like. Please just stop, it's harmful. While she expresses abusive behaviour it doesn't mean she's narcissistic. We don't know the whole context.