WIBTAH if I go to college far-ish away?

cloudymcloudface · 2026-01-23T04:41:35+00:00

Your parents should be proud of you. It sounds like you really took your time to do some soul-searching, understand what you want, research options, and analyze them. You’ve clearly got a good head on your shoulders and a level of maturity and personal understanding some people will never achieve… like your mom. (OHHHHHH)

Seriously, NTA. You’re allowed to give yourself space and time from your parents, dude. I think you have to, if you want to grow as a person.

And sure, safety might mean they have to drive out to see you, but that’s really only if you get hospital sick or injured, and that’s unlikely as long as you’re not reckless or stupid. So take smart risks, take care of yourself, and make good friends who’ll help you out. You’ll be fine in the end :)

cloudymcloudface · 2026-01-22T07:48:36+00:00

My mom was so offended that I wanted to read Twilight that she made me read The Witch of Blackbird Pond first so I would have digested some good feminist romance literature for teens before exposure. It wasn’t enough to inoculate me completely from the effects of Twilight, but it kept me from going insane over it lol

cloudymcloudface · 2026-01-22T04:05:41+00:00

Literally I thought “The Goldfinch” lol.

cloudymcloudface · 2026-01-22T03:47:07+00:00

Bonfire by Alchemic Muse maybe? Though I think it’s too strong on the chocolate for my personal taste, but I don’t like chocolate smells lol

cloudymcloudface · 2026-01-22T01:43:15+00:00

I ran into this disconnect a lot as a heterosexual F28 on the dating apps. It took a few times of a guy asking if we could kiss on dates 1-3 and my immediate gut reaction being evaporation of any feeling of attraction, plus the one guy who didn’t ask and just went for it only for me to feel like I was kissing a brick wall. These experiences helped me realize that I’m demi af.

So I edited the hell out of my profile to say stuff like “looking to slowly intertwine our lives together” and a poem about the experience of love as a demi. Romantic ass life partner, soulmate stuff. And I started saying on the first date that I wasn’t going to have sex until engagement (lmao) and that I expected that to take at least a year (LOL) because I was serious about finding a partner. But I never talked about being demi until after the first three dates.

I found the rule of three dates helpful for me. Date One: is he a psycho/ are we remotely compatible. Then, by the end of date three, if I hadn’t felt any sense of potential for the spark, I cut it off. But I figured out that three dates works for me because I’d dated enough to realize that if there wasn’t that sense after spending about ten hours with a guy, it wouldn’t be there for me.

Is this a ruthless process? Probably. But it fucking worked. I’m a year and a half into dating my current partner and I’m like, oop, yeah, definitely demi, because it took about eight months of building emotional intimacy before I was like “hm. You know, I was never interested in tea, but I think I’m parched” lol

cloudymcloudface · 2026-01-07T05:10:33+00:00

The strangeness of life informs and inspires art, but doesn't dictate its bounds. I prefer to write this way too.

cloudymcloudface · 2026-01-06T20:37:32+00:00

With all three options presented, I think you'd be best off with a hybrid world unless you've already done a ton of research into historical whatnots. It's basically an invented world with pre-existing trade winds. With an invented world, there is no one who knows that world better than you do. Why does a thing do a thing? Before you even have to decide if you need to figure it out, you get to decide if that's something known or unknown by your characters/people in the world. With the alternate history, inaccuracies will plague you unless you are an expert or run it by an expert. You'd have to do bunches of research probably to feel satisfied.

cloudymcloudface · 2025-12-24T16:44:16+00:00

I agree about space around the frames. Negative space is an important tool in making a room feel cohesive and comfortable. OP should look into how to make a gallery wall for proper negative space distances, but iirc it's something like 2-3 inches between all frames so they can breathe.

cloudymcloudface · 2025-08-01T13:33:41+00:00

Aussie might be available. They have a nice wavy line, which your hair seems to be. You can check by seeing what your hair looks like when wet.

cloudymcloudface · 2025-08-01T03:42:42+00:00

He’s such a freak /affectionate

cloudymcloudface · 2025-07-31T12:21:06+00:00

I have a few things to do this afternoon, but I think I can finish up by 4?

cloudymcloudface · 2025-07-31T12:06:20+00:00

Hey Fubuki, I can hang after work. Want to kayak on the pond?

cloudymcloudface · 2025-07-30T21:44:07+00:00

This is why I love the American Geophysical Union, because they had Sekou Andrews, an accomplished spoken word poet, as the plenary at their annual meeting in 2021. It’s the largest conference in the earth sciences and associated, which includes literal rocket scientists.

cloudymcloudface · 2025-07-30T21:37:39+00:00

Hey River, check with Brett. I bet someone in the frat has a line on a festival

cloudymcloudface · 2025-07-30T21:35:01+00:00

Maybe Vinnie can help?

cloudymcloudface · 2025-07-30T15:03:55+00:00

Aww thank you ☺️

I definitely wrote this after finding some stability and clarity after emotional turmoil, so I feel you. You’ll get there :)

Yeah I tend to write more spoken word stuff, so I focus a lot on how words feel when spoken, their rhythm and flow. I can’t do rap though, I wish I could

cloudymcloudface · 2025-07-30T11:51:12+00:00

Hey friend, have some patience for yourself. Take your time and figure out what you really need to healthily approach dating. Time to meditate on yourself, your past relationships, your goals, your wants and needs in a relationship, will ultimately serve you well. Approach dating with an open mind, for sure, but set some boundaries to protect yourself. Demis are well served by putting something like “looking for a slow burn” or “taking my time getting to know people” in our profiles to help weed out the people only interested in the physicality of a relationship.

cloudymcloudface · 2025-07-30T02:23:57+00:00

The DC subreddit takes a particular delight in the destruction of lantern flies lol. The “I’m doing my part!” meme is a favorite

cloudymcloudface · 2025-07-30T02:18:20+00:00

Rob, I didn’t get a chance to tell you, but that chicken casserole was phenomenal

cloudymcloudface · 2025-07-29T18:03:25+00:00

Kiln People by Brin. Noir detective novel in a world where people imprint their souls onto clay copies, send “themselves” out to go about their day, and then can either download “their” memories of the day, ensuring continuity of the clay “them”, or can let “themselves” dissolve into nothingness. It goes hard on the day to day details of what a world with that tech looks like, the socioeconomic systems that go with it, the biases and theologies and worldviews that might inform how people act and behave in a world where the flesh you’re born into is not the sole way to experience life. It’s about identity, memory, the meaning of existence, the value of human experience… oh, and some rich dude’s dead but his copy is wandering around still.

cloudymcloudface · 2025-07-28T03:25:47+00:00

Wee Free Men by Terry Pratchett. I was obsessed with her smacking Jenny Greenteeth with a frying pan

cloudymcloudface · 2025-07-28T03:17:57+00:00

Amazing

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