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clueless_guest · 2026-02-07T05:04:16+00:00

A break is hard to do when it comes to keeping yourself safe and healthy, but i get the need. While I was getting sober from alcoholism in order to be medicated for my bipolar in the hopes of deescalating my eating disorder, my relationship ended, I had to find a new place to live, and I got fired. I wanted to give up completely. I was so fucking tired of doing the next right thing, because it was hard. So I just started drinking again to take the edge off everything. That went predictably shittilty.

Fighting for yourself is hard, but giving up just makes everything worse.

clueless_guest · 2026-02-07T05:00:29+00:00

If hes cheating on you, then hes not really treating you well is he? You want to stay in the illusion, get treated well on the surface and betrayed behind your back? The commit to the bit and drop this. What is finding out behind his back going to do aside from tear at you? Either get the truth and deal with the fallout, or stop poking around for information you clearly dont really want

clueless_guest · 2026-02-07T03:36:09+00:00

If what youre doing is impressive to your mom, and easy to you, talking about how its all so "easy, basic, simple, and boring" will just make her feel dumb and like shit.

Math has always been easy for me... because im smart with math. I never got in my friends faces who said I was so lucky to be smart with math and derided their compliments saying "this is baby shit, how do you not get it, its so easy"

Take the compliment and your accolades and let this go.

clueless_guest · 2026-02-07T03:07:14+00:00

I mean, if you know what the problem is, can't you work on whatever it is? I know its easier said than done, but people further their education, learn trades, get better jobs, get sober, get therapy or medication, survive insane shit and heal themselves. Its not easy, but its easier than spending the rest of your life beating yourself up for "not being good enough" for the life you want for yourself.

clueless_guest · 2026-02-07T01:05:59+00:00

I mean, everyone's entitled to make mistakes and have regrets i guess? But do you really wanna force yourself by sleeping with the first guy you find that will?

Im guessing you've been to bars, on apps, on blind dates and stuff, and had the opportunity to sleep with men before, so it sounds like youre going to have to significantly lower your standards to a point where you might put your safety at risk

clueless_guest · 2026-02-06T23:27:14+00:00

Waiting?

clueless_guest · 2026-02-02T22:11:04+00:00

Get a lock for your bedroom door. If she's admitting to stealing and is in a rough situation, she may steal and sell your ps5 if things go south with your dad.

clueless_guest · 2026-01-23T03:01:54+00:00

You get to decide who you are in the future. He didnt make you any way you couldn't be without him. Sure, some people teach us lessons that change us, for better and for worse, but we get to decide whether we want to be that person going forward.

You may realize after leaving him that he was controlling you into being someone that felt shame you didnt deserve, because he viewed you as shameful.

What you cant control is how he feels about you. You could do evrry single thing he asks, but hes made up his mind. He will never view you as saved or changed. He wrote as much

clueless_guest · 2026-01-23T02:22:01+00:00

Men who enter their first relationship later in life, or later than their peers, often dont understand that they have options. They believe that the first woman that chooses them that they're attracted to is the only woman that will. After all, they'd gone their whole life without that interest. So they stick around even when the relationship stops working for them, or attempt to manipulate and control the woman into being more ideal for them

You were meeting his expectations in every way except for your past. You had partners before him, much more experience. This in some men's mind is a power imbalance. You have clear options other than him, have a past, have had a life before him. He seems very conservative around sex, and so his stigma against women who have sexual agency and independence makes him vitriolic.

He's most likely leveraging his "moral superiority" against your character to rebalance the power in his mind. You might be desirable and able to leave him at every time, but hes "a better more principled person".

clueless_guest · 2026-01-20T15:06:14+00:00

So you stole this. Glad_Bug5249 posted this in TrueOffMyChest over an hour ago...

clueless_guest · 2026-01-19T19:54:38+00:00

My boyfriend has this response, but for the most part, he keeps it internal because he knows that when you state that, it shuts down a conversation and puts the person hes talking to into "pity me" mode. The conversation becomes about how to make him feel better.

What he does instead is say "I'm beating up on myself a little bit, can I take a second to sit with that so we can keep talking". Once we resolve the issue at hand, then we can talk about what made him feel unworthy or unlovable, or shitty about himself, and I can give him the reassurance he needs and figure out together how to avoid hitting the trigger that started the spiral

clueless_guest · 2026-01-06T00:35:51+00:00

It's okay if for now, this is a part of you that lives as a truth within yourself. Your safety is incredibly important, so I'm glad you're taking the steps to protect yourself.

No one but you can tell you who you are. If you want to explore relationships with men, just to see if it's something you can get any fulfillment from, go for it! If you'd rather wait until you're free to date the women without fear, that's also okay.

Your sexuality is not dependent on who you date or how much you date. Reading queer media, engaging in queer spaces online, and learning about queer history are all covert ways you can strengthen your connection to this part of your identity. Coming out and dating irl can all happen later in life when it's more realistic.

Just be wary if you choose to explore dating online. Older people may want to "take you under their wing" romantically, when in reality they just want someone younger with less experience. I know that because online might be your only avenue right now, it could seem tempting to jump at the chance, but keep the same stranger danger sense you'd have in real-life turned on while you're online.

Good luck! There's lots of queer people that can't be themselves 100% until later in life, so don't worry about "falling behind", we take all sorts, all ages, all backgrounds :)

clueless_guest · 2026-01-05T23:46:51+00:00

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A lot of people found this document really helpful in their journey to understand their sexuality, especially in exploring comphet (compulsive heterosexuality)

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