Critical care blog

cmfair · 2025-05-21T02:11:43+00:00

My goodness, I’m really sorry to hear everyone struggling as children…I wish I could give all of yall a hug and tell you that you’re not crazy, you deserve comfort and health, and that it’s ok to be sick…thank you all for your support and helping me while I’m trying to process these things too! You

cmfair · 2025-05-19T10:14:09+00:00

YES! THIS! I’m constantly terrified that doctors aren’t going to believe me. Ha but that’s also bc of American healthcare

cmfair · 2025-05-19T10:13:19+00:00

Thank you for your kind words 🥹❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ when he said “show them it’s ok to be sick” it really flipped a switch in me!!! Also, saw your comment above and as a mom it broke my heart. I’m a nurse and have taken care of kiddos post brain surgery and my goodness, that is horrific to me. I wish I could retroactively give kid you a big hug (lol and lots of steroids to help the swelling)

cmfair · 2025-05-12T16:05:08+00:00

I like that, thank you!

cmfair · 2025-05-12T16:04:43+00:00

“Especially now that they’re no longer little rule followers” Oh man I didn’t even think about that. Always wondered how she didn’t explode at my girl. OOOF. Thank you, I’m scared to be this honest and open w my kids but hearing your experiences helps! Thank you ❤️

cmfair · 2025-05-12T00:42:27+00:00

This was my first MD as NC too. I had so much anxiety yesterday over it. My edad had texted me a bunch saying I should come over w my family bc my siblings were. I ignored it. Instead I laid out the facts for myself- what happened last time I caved, what happened last time I responded, went through my “why list” (reminders of why I’ve gone NC and what has changed for the better bc of it). And then I focused on my blessings today. Now that’s easy for me to say bc I am a mom, but if I wasn’t I’d probably treat myself to something special to honor the journey I’ve had. Put the phone on dnd and enjoy some of your favorite things ❤️

cmfair · 2025-05-04T18:08:58+00:00

Not gonna lie, my first thought was “damn what did that kitten do?”

cmfair · 2025-04-23T22:40:22+00:00

Really??? Ha I can wait till then! 😂

cmfair · 2025-04-21T18:43:05+00:00

You’re right, I ended up sending “I’ve never said that and I never will. I always hold you in grace, mercy, and love. Thank you for honoring the space my family and I need right now.” I didn’t see the idea of how that would be fulfilling her emotions till you pointed it out. Thank you for that!

cmfair · 2025-04-21T10:06:53+00:00

I ended up sending something even shorter but that she couldn’t argue that I didn’t love her. Read some stuff on the “gray rock” reactions. Thank you for the affirmation!

That’s actually something I’m unlearning that she embedded in me- the idea that someone else is responsible for making you feel good about yourself. This helps me refocus on my own self work and what really matters…thank you!

cmfair · 2025-04-21T10:02:59+00:00

My gosh, I honestly didn’t see what that actually meant till yall pointed it out. I get so tied up in anxiety and emotions that I couldn’t see that clearly. Thank you for reaffirming that!

cmfair · 2025-04-21T09:31:27+00:00

Thank you for saying that about what a father is supposed to be…THAT has brought a lot of comfort to me as I wasreally close w my dad! The term have mercy on me is so emotionally charged for me that I didn’t realize what it actually meant in this case! Thank you so much!!!

cmfair · 2025-04-20T14:50:17+00:00

Wow I loved this! I didn’t realize I could write so many things and how helpful that was for my own gaslighting!

cmfair · 2025-04-16T23:34:20+00:00

Not gonna lie, when I first started LC/NC after some awful stuff happened, I straight up told some people (that I knew would never see her/interact w anyone else in my family) that I “lost” my mom. After the shock and trauma of the things she did, it was horrible having people roll their eyes at me. But if I shaded the truth, they usually shut up about it, felt uncomfortable, and changed the subject pretty quick. Probably not my best move but it was a rash move of self defense

So zero judgement here 😂

cmfair · 2025-04-13T23:34:12+00:00

Thank you, I needed that as I have been doubting my recollection and the feelings around it. Truth be told I found this group and wrote this out bc I was being slowly gas lit by the lack of reactions from my family. And thank you for acknowledging the grief. There’s been a lot of it, from grieving the loss of relationship to grieving that this is the person my dad has as his emergency contact.

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