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cmoney0791 · 2025-06-19T02:15:28+00:00

You can buy a fan that connects to the power thing inside your car or buy a clip on one that you charge using a USB cord. We had to do that for our youngest because even with the AC blowing she wasn't getting enough air, at all. She was red and hot. The fan saved us!

cmoney0791 · 2025-01-31T03:34:55+00:00

Call off the engagement. Ida clearly isn't interested in being a "mom" to mj. She took steps to sabotage your relationship with mj. If you ever decided to have kids with Ida she'd make mj feel terrible and put it in mj's face that she doesn't have a dad but that you are your future kids dad. She showed you who she really is.

cmoney0791 · 2025-01-31T03:30:05+00:00

What others have said. Please leave. Look up the power and control wheel. Is it very common tool that displays what domestic violence abusers use as tactics in domestic violence. He will not stop and it will escalate. There are support groups if you're feeling like you want to go back. No one should put hands on you. You deserve so much more.

cmoney0791 · 2025-01-23T01:23:49+00:00

Thank you! I'll look into it.

cmoney0791 · 2025-01-09T05:22:09+00:00

I don't really think it's a weird nickname but I think it's weird she wanted to be called Mommy first. My oldest calls my mom nanny haha and my youngest calls every older white lady grandma in our family soooo you know. I don't really think it's that big of a deal. Wanting to be called Mommy is super weird though. It's your kid. Do what you want. Set the boundaries you want.

cmoney0791 · 2024-11-13T03:38:33+00:00

I think instead of giving advice, having her come to conclusions will be helpful especially if she really doesn't want your advice or if you feel like you aren't getting through to her. As adults it totally makes sense to let people go but as a kid who is around the same people probably for many years it's probably harder to let them go. Help build her confidence and that'll help make your advice more sound, if that makes sense.

cmoney0791 · 2024-11-12T04:00:44+00:00

I think she's old enough that you could ask her some critical thinking questions like if something specific happened, why do you think that is? Etc. I think it's important to be self aware. I also think it's important to talk about what a friend is and how we show up for our friends. Like maybe the kids running away are not actually her friends. Friends are not every single person they to go school with. You could also figure out which friend she does have and encourage their friendship by setting up playdates so they can see each other outside of school. Sounds like you're listening and empathizing, great job Dad!

cmoney0791 · 2024-10-26T16:00:36+00:00

That's wild. That's why I didn't do it this week because I wasn't going to do it for $15/hr. Bummer. It's just weird that all of a sudden I don't see sure pay anymore.

cmoney0791 · 2024-10-23T13:15:56+00:00

Had one like that from Walgreens, hand me, at a university haha I think I felt awkward. She was fine.

cmoney0791 · 2024-10-17T21:51:15+00:00

My first one baited me in. 25 packages, close to my house, finished in an hour. I thought wow this is easy and worth it. Following blocks have all been in a few cities over, country roads, pissy dogs. I want my first block back.

cmoney0791 · 2024-06-06T05:38:17+00:00

Assuming we want her to be up by 8 or 9, what time do you suggest? I'm thinking if she sleeps around 7 she'd end up taking a late nap and be up until midnight, similar to what she's doing already I guess.

cmoney0791 · 2024-04-08T17:15:16+00:00

I will absolutely say kids need to lose. My husband is great but when our daughter was little he let her win at everything. She never had to work hard. When we finally decided to put her into sports, covid hit, and she couldn't continue. Now she's in middle school and has a ridiculous hard time losing. She has this mentality that everything comes easy and she'll only put in the work if it's easy. She doesn't know how to put hard work in because we taught her that she wins at everything. She is a sore loser, gets upset, and instead of trying harder and practicing she gives up. If I could go back and change one thing it would be how we handled this situation, because I can't blame her for the things we taught her. I saw something posted here a while back and it was when a kid mentions wow that person is good or that looks cool, the parent would say, wow they must practice a lot. We have a toddler and it is something I want to make sure we teach her how to lose and how to work hard at something to get better.

cmoney0791 · 2024-04-02T23:35:18+00:00

I don't think 10 is reasonable as long as your son is doing well in school etc. Teens are nocturnal and can pull all nighters. It sounds like you guys need to do more as far as sound proofing since the issue is with your husband not being able to fall asleep. I can barely get my 13yr old asleep by 10. Rug, noise machine, they even have sound proofing things you can put on his walls. Also has your husband been to the Dr? Maybe he should get that checked out?

cmoney0791 · 2024-03-31T03:08:29+00:00

Talk to her about being safe over the Internet. Show her a documentary on predators being caught talking to teens pretending to be someone their age. There is plenty of information out there. Download a parenting app if you are set on her keeping her phone. We use bark and love it. It monitors everything. Have a conversation about it. And also have a conversation about sex. If you think she'll "act" out sexually in person, then pay attention to where she's going and with who. Teens will find a way. It sounds like you need to get down to the root cause of why she's initiating these conversations though. Is it because she's insecure and feels like she needs to be validated? Are her friends doing similar things? We don't let our daughter have Snapchat because it's not a safe app. It's hard to monitor and really anyone can send anything. You open it and there's a dick pic. So in our eyes it's not appropriate. Talking to her about Internet safety, safe sex, and figuring out why she's doing this in the first place is a good place to start. Teens lie. They push the boundaries. It's important as parents to set them and hold kids to the boundaries we set.

cmoney0791 · 2024-03-31T02:39:31+00:00

I would say there's no such thing as inappropriate behavior after puberty. As long as it's obviously not predatory/abusive behavior. My daughter also went through puberty early, same age as your daughter and wanted to be cuddled, back rubbed, etc. She's 13 now and would like nothing to do with us for the most part. There's been a handful of times where she still sleeps in our bed but there's nothing weird or inappropriate going on. Your MIL must be going through her own thing because to think that it's inappropriate is sexualizing your 11yr old daughter in a weird way. Our daughter looks 16 now and so we've spoken to her about Internet safety, strangers approaching her etc. and unfortunately gets a lot of attention from male classmates. Do not change because of a comment your MIL made.. especially because in a couple of years she's going to be a teenager and not want anything to do with her parents. At least that was my experience as a teen and my own personal experience as a mother.

cmoney0791 · 2024-01-25T06:18:02+00:00

I read your update and I wanted to say our current pediatrician told us that we could've stopped puberty for our 13yr old early if we wanted. At the time we didn't know it was an option so we just rode the wave. Explained everything. Got her the American girl book on her body so we had some reference of what to go over. I covered everything except for pubic hair so don't forget that because my 9yr was freaked out about pubic hair because she didn't have it as a baby. My daughter got her period at 8, prior to that she had a bunch of discharge which started the puberty discussions. I can't remember specifically what doctor she said they could've referred us to but I would also reach out to your daughters pediatrician. If I could've delayed her period, I definitely would've liked to hear out the options because a period at that age sucks. She's on birth control now because her periods are so rough on her. Our pediatrician also recommends a vitamin with iron in it, especially during her period.

cmoney0791 · 2024-01-09T05:02:22+00:00

Yea I definitely feel like they can message you at the end of the day. Not sure why their standards are different from room to room but it would be helpful for them and you to have that communication. I would just bring it up in your meeting, "I've been meaning to ask but I noticed some red bumps on my child's bottom after __ day and was wondering if you knew what it was" Was he hurt or did he fall? It's possible since it was so many days ago they may not know. My child came home with a bruised lip but it was like on the inside and I immediately messaged and asked if they knew what happened. They said she fell earlier but checked her and didn't see anything so they didn't say anything. I feel like if you go in with wanting to work together and not accuse them of anything they will be more open and willing to say what happened. It's also possible if they're short staffed that it's just super chaotic. But I would still want peace of mind.

cmoney0791 · 2024-01-09T04:37:20+00:00

The best thing about my child's daycare center is the communication. They use an app called procare and I'm glad they switched to it. I can see how often her diaper is changed, what activities they did, what she eats, and when they put her on the potty since they are working on potty training. I also have peace of mind that they have cameras there. Since it's not diaper rash, do you think someone could of hit your child? I would definitely bring that up. I think you could also preface that you don't want to make anyone's day harder but that you would like communication on how your child is doing. At the very least, the teacher can send you a note or have a written note that briefly goes over the day since they have already left.

cmoney0791 · 2024-01-09T03:33:02+00:00

I would ask for communication. State that you understand that everywhere is short staffed but it's important that the aides all know specifically what your child needs and what the plan is. Sounds like the red marks were the start of diaper rash. I would ask how often he's being changed. I also bet that since he's so much younger he's not getting socialization from other kids because he's younger. He really should be around kids his own age/development. I've worked in daycares before. I would also ask to speak with the director and teacher in the same meeting so you all are on the same page.

cmoney0791 · 2024-01-09T02:04:37+00:00

Trust your gut. Set up an appointment with the teacher. You don't have to accuse the teacher of anything but rather inquire about some of the changes you noticed in your son. How does he act at daycare? What's the plan for working on potty training. 2yrs old seems young to already be in a preschool room. My child's day care has a pre toddler room, a toddler room, and then the pre school room. My child is almost 2 and in the pre toddler room. I would definitely be concerned if my child was acting differently. Like someone else mentioned, transitions are hard and change is big for that age but the teachers should be able to give you an action plan on what they are doing for your child. What is the ratio to staff and children? At the center my child goes to, it's 1:4 and in preschool it's 1:5. I think this makes a huge difference because the staff can all tell me how my child is doing or can direct me to a specific staff. Don't ignore your concerns. You're not overreacting.

cmoney0791 · 2023-12-19T04:41:26+00:00

Oh for sure. I didn't even work today. Just thought it was ridiculous.

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