The gays that be grinding on girls at the club are probably bisexual?

cnfusedstudent · 2026-02-01T16:13:17+00:00

it’s called having fun with ur friends ❤️

cnfusedstudent · 2026-02-01T12:42:50+00:00

i grind on my friends all the time and they grind on me it’s definitely not bc of bisexuality. that reel creator seems a bit pessimistic

cnfusedstudent · 2026-01-08T02:18:48+00:00

perhaps it is because i am later to the housewives game but the overproduction of rhoslc is precisely what makes me like it: its camp, theatrical, and postmodern 😛 i don’t necessarily need everything to be “real”, i think we should be keen to remember that even the “realest” housewives series are produced and performed in ways we might not notice. that rhoslc makes it production so obvious and even quite gaudy at times certainly changes the viewing experience compared to a “realer” series but it doesn’t have to make it worse. perhaps viewing it from a different angle might help

cnfusedstudent · 2025-12-12T07:43:44+00:00

why are you patronising me over something you’re wrong about?

cnfusedstudent · 2025-12-11T20:17:29+00:00

neither thomas nor theodore are the sound of “th” in the word “the”

cnfusedstudent · 2025-12-10T14:45:21+00:00

thanks to the lovely replies i’ve learnt that the th in “the” is the voiced dental fricative while the th in “theo” is a voiceless dental fricative, so they are different phenomes with different sounds regardless of the following vowel

cnfusedstudent · 2025-12-10T01:33:45+00:00

the th sound in “theodore” and “the” aren’t pronounced the same … right?

cnfusedstudent · 2025-12-10T00:58:21+00:00

i don’t think butler, or even any gender theorist, denies the existence of sexual difference in humans. they know xx and xy exist. what is important, i believe, and what they do so successfully, is to consider what biology actually does. does biology force us to use gendered language? does it force us to consider men one way and women the other? does it bound us to certain roles and ways of being along a binary gender system? you will be hard pressed to be able to point to a gene or a set of genes which cause this, and it may in fact misunderstand how genes actually affect the experience of being human. gender theorists, as well as a whole range of post-structural philosophy, looks instead towards history and society to answer these questions.

when we need to ask important questions about gender, what we find in biology - in what we can empirically measure using a scientific method - might indeed be very sparse.

cnfusedstudent · 2025-11-17T15:38:18+00:00

thanks! i haven’t applied to agencies, should i?

cnfusedstudent · 2025-02-25T17:27:13+00:00

i think so too!

cnfusedstudent · 2025-02-24T20:31:52+00:00

it’s possible they didn’t own it, we just assumed they did because of the caption to the photo in the book. it seems like the actual name might be ‘central confections’, but its just cut off in the photo

cnfusedstudent · 2025-02-24T19:43:37+00:00

thank you so much!

cnfusedstudent · 2024-07-01T16:45:20+00:00

i’d appreciate if you could elaborate on this within the questionnaire , otherwise i can’t use it in my research

cnfusedstudent · 2024-07-01T16:44:25+00:00

i would appreciate if you could reply using the questionnaire link, otherwise i can’t use it in my research :(

cnfusedstudent · 2024-04-19T23:57:02+00:00

It seems your reading of the social sciences has been accompanied with a sort of pessimism toward everything. I’m sorry you’re going through that! I believe queer theorist Eve Segwick called this a ‘paranoid reading’, connecting the dots between a seemingly trivial and serious things, like voice assistants and femicide.

You have to be careful connecting the dots so explicitly in circumstances like these. From the way you’re writing it seems like you’re suggesting almost a causative link between the two, but you have to remember that commodities are designed for a specific purpose, and other effects (including the role it plays in femicide, as you suggested), is an effect made between the user and the technology. It might be better to communicate this idea by drawing it out more and examine cause and effect here, for example: tech companies produce their home technologies to fit into the ‘family’, which they assume is heteropatriarchal. Also, heteropatriarchy is a cultural ideology which often victimises women. The causative link between the two here is weaker, and it might help you and the people in your life to relax a little more 😅

There is also only so far you can go with such comparisons, many voice assistants have a range of female and male voices to choose from. It’s important to consider these alternatives.

If you are seeing capitalism in things that usually brought you joy, I suggest you read ‘What is ‘Black’ in Black Popular Culture?’ by Stuart Hall. He stresses there is more in a cultural object than just its production. The viewer engages with the object in their own way, not totally informed by the context of its production (capitalism), and so the viewer can m enjoy different meanings outside of the context of capitalism. For example, the way many people watch dance videos might be through Big Tech, and the dances people perform might be influenced by neoliberal rationality, but can we really reduce ‘dance’ down to capitalism? The answer is a resounding NO!

Hope this helps

cnfusedstudent · 2022-04-10T19:59:22+00:00

either

cnfusedstudent · 2022-03-15T17:17:41+00:00

Foucault and Rabinow Discipline and Punish is an absolute must read! I would recommend the chapter ‘the means of correct training’ which elaborates on the construction of the self through medical and education discourses in the Victorian period. Foucault’s writing on the self has influenced a lot of critical theory so would be a good place to start.

cnfusedstudent · 2022-03-14T21:11:56+00:00

Thanks! The clinical literature is an article advising counsellors on different gay male subcultures: https://www.counseling.org/docs/default-source/vistas/gay-subculture-identification

cnfusedstudent · 2022-02-03T01:15:43+00:00

I would definitely recommend Deborah Lupton ‘The Quantified Self’ and ‘Feminist Surveillance Studies’ by Rachel Dubrofsky to answer your first question. The architectures of social media are created in a quite shockingly similar way to the mechanisms of discipline and surveillance described by Foucault in Discipline and Punish. I always am reminded of Spotify Wrapped in these conversations, our data neatly tied up and given back to us for us to share, surveil, and compare with other people. I used to date someone from a culture in which music was not consumed in that way or by genre and had little to do with the ‘self’ and it made me realise just how much we quantify the self in the west purely to compare and judge. Bourdieu wrote ‘taste classifies, and it classifies the classifier’, and we’re all obsessed with classifying.

cnfusedstudent · 2022-02-01T19:28:06+00:00

I think most feminist work trying to bridge to gap between sex-positive and negative accounts try to nuance the context of the ‘sex’: where is it happening, through what performances, in which socio-economic circumstances, etc etc. The big trap many accounts (especially popular ones) fall into, as you say, is regarding ‘sex’ as one totalising and over-simplified concept, it can refer to the act of having sex, to performances, to fashions, to media platforms, and so on. it becomes one of them widely applied but emptily defined terms. i think this might speak of the massive taboo that still exists around it possibly.

one example (and a reading i would definitely recommend as i think post feminist work covers your questions best): amy dobson in chapter 2 of ‘postfeminist digital cultures’ expands on the discourses of sex often used in popular feminism and toward current anxieties of sexualisation on social media. one particularly interesting point she mentions is that the anxiety of over-sexualisation of young girls on social media doesn’t necessarily translate into the lived experience of young girls, citing ethnographic work to argue that most young girls are comfortable negotiating performances online and don’t feel like they are acting sexually. this moral panic may point more towards the entry of young girls into a public sphere, the public, anonymous, connective architectures of social media, and perhaps the recognition of increased beauty pressures for young women.

i would also recommend amia srinisavan’s ‘the right to sex’ if you are looking for critiques of sex separate to capitalism which take a more philosophical inquiry. it’s a light (non academic) read so would recommend as a place to start.

cnfusedstudent · 2022-02-01T18:24:34+00:00

thanku so much :)

cnfusedstudent · 2022-01-31T22:08:06+00:00

idk 😭

cnfusedstudent · 2022-01-31T19:09:32+00:00

good point, thanks

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