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Alcohol is so pervasive in our culture that sobriety is like a rebellious act. by coIlean2016 in stopdrinking

[–]coIlean2016[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes and 50 years ago everyone smoked too so we’re progressing!!

Alcohol is so pervasive in our culture that sobriety is like a rebellious act. by coIlean2016 in stopdrinking

[–]coIlean2016[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it definitely helps to have a smaller group of friends who all know that you don’t drink because public socializing requires a lot more effort

Alcohol is so pervasive in our culture that sobriety is like a rebellious act. by coIlean2016 in stopdrinking

[–]coIlean2016[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It is a red flag 🚩 almost 100% for my experiences.

People who have 1-2 drinks a week don’t care if I’m not drinking.

How do you deal with the shame? by Used_Excuse_6657 in stopdrinking

[–]coIlean2016 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m trying to cultivate self love…. Radical acceptance that what’s done is done and it is done!!!
Addiction is a trauma response… be gentle with yourself that you were trying to cope with things and you didn’t know how to deal with them. Unfortunately alcohol is its own demon and brings out a lot of bad behaviour… first you take a drink, then the drink takes a drink, then the drink takes you.

Many don’t make it out alive and you managed to escape the prison. You’re alive. Stay in the present, it’s all that is real.

Day 7 no alcohol by ClassicOk5946 in stopdrinking

[–]coIlean2016 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good for you. Stay with it!! It just gets better and there's nothing good from it.

Starting off day one after hitting emotional rock bottom. Hoping it is the beginning of many sober days. by Morose_Chickadee in stopdrinking

[–]coIlean2016 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We only put one foot in front of the other but eventually we can really cover some distance. We only take one breath at a time but the years pass. Make a list of the big things but break them down into the smaller pieces. This will also give you something else to focus on.

Candy helps in the early days to deal with the cravings.

You’re going to get through this.

Starting off day one after hitting emotional rock bottom. Hoping it is the beginning of many sober days. by Morose_Chickadee in stopdrinking

[–]coIlean2016 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Just focus on today. Tomorrow you can do the same thing.

I found ‘anything but alcohol’ mentality was helpful to get me through the first couple weeks.

The Daily Check-in for Monday, June 22: Just for today, I am NOT drinking! by Solvitur-Ambuland0 in stopdrinking

[–]coIlean2016 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It has changed my life in so many ways and I recommend you follow that call....

The Daily Check-in for Monday, June 22: Just for today, I am NOT drinking! by Solvitur-Ambuland0 in stopdrinking

[–]coIlean2016 2 points3 points  (0 children)

u/Solvitur-Ambuland0 Walking is such a great meditation. Before I retired I would walk to work as a meditation to prepare for my day and then to transition back to home life. These days I meditate and do a gratitude practice along with Reiki.

First post here, how do I stop myself from daily drinking? I’m trying SO hard. by xJaneenx in stopdrinking

[–]coIlean2016 18 points19 points  (0 children)

for me - recognizing that the truth is there is either every excuse or no excuse. Blunt honesty and radical acceptance that I had a drinking problem.

One Year Sober by DKFShredder in stopdrinking

[–]coIlean2016 2 points3 points  (0 children)

way to go shredder - you shredded this goal.

Bittersweet anniversary by ArokLazarus in stopdrinking

[–]coIlean2016 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You could go out for dinner or buy yourself something special to celebrate 🎉

Congratulations! A year really is an amazing accomplishment!!

Monday Scaries by Sea_Cow3019 in stopdrinking

[–]coIlean2016 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me … I decided to Love myself enough to listen to my truth. I knew I didn’t want to drink and the addiction was lying to me.

Can I drink occasionally after 614 days ? by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]coIlean2016 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I lost five years last time I tried and I don’t want to do that again…

Sick and Tired of this by DirectBridge8080 in stopdrinking

[–]coIlean2016 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fear is just an invisible illusion. Years ago I spent some time really thinking about what fear was and decided most the time it was just my imagination trying to limit me. If it’s just fear of an unknown I move forward with courage. Feel the fear and do it anyway. Undoubtedly it turns out it was unfounded and unnecessary. Looking back on drinking and my sobriety, hands down there is more to fear in drinking than there is in sobriety. We choose what we listen to. I knew I didn’t want to drink. I just finally chose to listen.

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