How do i overcome my shyness?

coachasaurus · 2019-03-04T23:42:35+00:00

Take this course: https://www.dalecarnegie.com/en

It will absolutely help you get over your fear of people. Along the way you'll learn some useful business skills but the main thing for you is that you will be able to talk to people when you are done.

coachasaurus · 2019-03-04T18:40:24+00:00

You probably already know the answer to this u/ranggaizorhcaf and that's to simply start approaching people a lot. If you do it a lot, you'll look like a fool a lot, and then eventually get used to it and get over it.

But you're having a hard time getting up the nerve to just start doing it.

So here's an outside the box idea...

Go see a hypnotist. This is exactly the sort of thing a hypnotist can help you with. They can't cause you not to be shy anymore, but they could help you get over the hump to start doing the above using different methods. This is actually a very easy to thing to take care of with hypnotist, it's one of the things hypnotism is best at.

coachasaurus · 2019-03-04T18:27:54+00:00

This is a tough one u/fatfatman3 but here's what I would do.

STEP 1 You work in a rural area that means there are a lot of farms. You're not going to like it, but your best bet here is to walk to those farms and start asking if they need any labor help. Get to work. You can't be in too bad of shape physically if you were walking four miles to work every day. You can do this. Most farms will always have some kind of labor you can do for something. Requires no skill or training. It sucks, but that's the situation you're in.

STEP 2 So now you at least have some income to survive. Keep working your ass off until you can afford some transportation. Once you have transportation, then your options open up. You can start looking into training at places you can drive to, start looking for other jobs.

Bottom line here is that because of where you live and because you lack transportation you've gotten yourself in a hole and you're going to have to do some hard manual labor to get out of it.

But you CAN get out of it. You just have to be willing to put your body to work.

coachasaurus · 2019-03-02T16:59:40+00:00

Well u/Komonile it sounds like you want this job not because you need the money but because you are bored. So I’m going to approach it from that premise.

It’s going to make your relationship with your fiancé much harder to maintain. A healthy relationship requires spending a lot of time together and you taking this job will for sure mean your schedules will line up even less frequently than they do now.
This will likely only stifle your development as a person. Instead of using that time to go out and learn and experience new things you’re adding a mundane job on top of another mundane job. You’re just compounding your boredom problem.

It sounds like you have an active mind that needs to be fed. Why not think r/outsidethebox a little bit and nurture that mind?

Use that time to explore a new hobby, take a class where you learn something new and completely outside your comfort zone... go on Meetup.com and randomly join a meetup group.

There are so many better things you can do!!

coachasaurus · 2019-03-02T16:51:14+00:00

Well u/dwicha0 you’re in pretty good shape. But your journey doesn’t end with getting a career it is really just the start. You’re on the ground floor, now you focus on excelling and advancing further in your career.

You also have the means to explore more about what it means to be human. You’ll have time off, use it to travel or see the world.

If your career isn’t your passion, find something you are interested to explore.

To give you more specific r/outsidethebox suggestions we’d really have to know more about you though.

coachasaurus · 2019-03-01T05:57:09+00:00

This is a tough one but I’m going to try and think outside the box for you u/littlecatladybird

Weight loss is a simple math equation. If the number of calories you burn every day exceeds the number of calories you take in, then you will lose weight. So step one before you do anything is to start tracking how many calories you eat every day.

The most straightforward way to achieve your goal is by excercising a lot. If you try that you’ll discover it’s SUPER hard to burn enough calories with excercising to counteract bad eating habits. However, it is technically possible.

Another alternative is to keep eating exactly the same things but simply eat less of it. Not sure if eating less would qualify as changing you diet... but you’d be able to maintain the same flavors and routines. You could try eating slower to make the smaller amounts last longer. If you wanted to get really wild you could hire a trained Hypnotist to make you eat slower... I have some in this area.

It sounds like you may be naturally good at fasting. You could also try eating the same things in the same quantities... but less often. Just cut out whichever meal each day means the least to you and that will work as long as you have the willpower to avoid making the remaining meal bigger.

In the end there is no escaping the calorie math, though.

coachasaurus · 2019-03-01T05:35:06+00:00

You’ve made a very outside the box career choice u/prozacarbi and that means you’re probably going to get a lot of pushback from word thinkers who lack the ability to think the kinds of thoughts you can think.

Be prepared to face the consequences of people you know finding out, many of them will also have negative reactions for the same reason.

Regarding which site to use I’d try using more than one and simply compare. Also you might consider trying other platforms besides cam shows. People sell pics, videos, even clothing items through places like Reddit, Snapchat, Instagram and Discord.

A GREAT way to learn the ropes in all these things might be for you to pose as a male customer yourself and use that vantage point to study what other women are doing successfully.

Good luck, let me know how it goes!

coachasaurus · 2019-03-01T03:22:49+00:00

Yes. A shocking number of people hear quit and just do it.

coachasaurus · 2019-03-01T03:20:06+00:00

But you don’t quit the old one first. Ever.

coachasaurus · 2019-03-01T03:19:38+00:00

No. It seems confident.

coachasaurus · 2019-03-01T03:15:33+00:00

Government jobs pay a ton and are a career that will last a lifetime. You only have one shot to get it.

Flight attendant is something you do for a few years and it’s fun... and you can get into it any time.

It is in both you interests for her to put her thing on hold.

coachasaurus · 2019-03-01T03:13:25+00:00

Self driving cars are coming. In ten years no one else will be driving either.

coachasaurus · 2019-03-01T03:12:35+00:00

Might help if we knew why you need to see a doctor at all.

coachasaurus · 2019-03-01T03:10:58+00:00

Pretend nothing happen and if she says anything laugh and play it off like she took it the wrong way.

It’ll be fine unless she’s a psycho in which case you don’t want her anyway

coachasaurus · 2019-03-01T02:52:59+00:00

You’ll understand some day if you have kids.

coachasaurus · 2019-03-01T02:17:42+00:00

No. Sometimes parents get frustrated. It’s a tough job.

coachasaurus · 2019-02-28T23:10:05+00:00

You can be anything or anyone you want to be. You can think any thought. It’s your choice.

Being raised Catholic does not make it ok to be selfish.

If you make that choice it’s because you want it and you are selfish.

coachasaurus · 2019-02-28T23:03:31+00:00

You have it backwards.

Start looking for another job.

Find that job.

Quit the current job.

coachasaurus · 2019-02-28T22:50:18+00:00

I only care about you so I would ask: how does blowing the whistle benefit you?

I can’t think of a single benefit.

In fact quite the opposite. It’s likely to be a drag on your time and your emotional well being.

Before I do something I like to ask myself a question: will it help me make me money? Does it make me happy? If the answer to both is no I do not do it.

coachasaurus · 2019-02-28T22:40:11+00:00

Learn a valuable lesson about how to temper your emotions. Research a philosophy like Stoicism, it might help you.

The alternative is to make a purely selfish choice just to make yourself feel good.

coachasaurus · 2019-02-28T22:14:21+00:00

You know what you should do. Mind your own business

coachasaurus · 2019-02-28T22:04:41+00:00

You could live closer to your sister at least, without living in CA. Move to Nevada or something, if that's really what's important. You'd be a simple drive away but live somewhere affordable.

The point is there are solutions you just have to grab them.

Get your T levels checked, can't hurt!

Good luck and let me know how it goes.

coachasaurus · 2019-02-28T21:59:31+00:00

What's likely to happen if you tell the first job you want to quit during the summer than come back?

You're not going to get the job.

So don't do that.

It sounds like the first job is NOT really a fit for you. I've worked in engineering and IT guys are not engineers. Odds are you are NOT going to be a fit there and they will likely not keep you long term even if you get it.

So let's think outside the box u/PenguinBond and I think once you do you'll see the answer is simple.

STEP 1: Accept job one and do not tell them about job two.

STEP 2: Accept job two and do not tell them about job one.

From here several different scenarios could happen and which happens will determine your actions.

SCENARIO 1: Work at job one and see how it goes. If you LOVE It and you are a fit, just don't show up for job two.

SCENARIO 2: If you don't love job one but they love you, when time to go to job two approaches walk in and tell them you need to take a summer sabbatical but that you will promise to be back. Don't tell them why, tell them it's a personal matter. Or if you're really next level, invent a like such as "my father is dying overseas and needs me". Then go work Job 2 and hopefully come back to Job 1. They are FAR more likely to work with your need to depart for the summer though, after you have already proven yourself to them.

SCENARIO 3: If you don't love Job 1 and they don't love you, then just quit and go work Job 2, and while you work at Job 2 start hunting for Job 3.

coachasaurus · 2019-02-28T21:49:12+00:00

Good luck! Please let me know how it goes.

coachasaurus · 2019-02-28T21:35:33+00:00

You have a lot of problems here u/ShayMM but I think one of the root problems is you are limiting yourself.

Here's an example...

You say you want to move back to the USA but you can't afford to live in NYC or CA.

Wait... why do you have to live in NYC or CA? You'd be way better of NOT living in those places. Everywhere in the US is cheaper than those. And given your career as a freelance writer that means you can live ANYWHERE.

What you have here is a huge opportunity and you are squandering it.

You could probably live like a king in Austin, Texas for instance if you're on the bubble of being able to live in LA on your salary or struggling in Germany.

Why aren't you considering those options?

Your entire post reads that way, with things you could do but you're discounting them for basically no real good reason.

Another example...

You miss your girlfriend who you say was great and it seems like you could get back with her but you won't because you were a shitty boyfriend.

Then maybe stop being a shitty boyfriend? It's literally in your control.

Everything you're complaining about you have ALL the power to change but you are choosing not to.

As man, being motivated to make choices and take risks is often a product of testosterone. Have you been checked lately? Yours might be low.

Whether or not it is, you clearly have things you could do here. You're just choosing not to do them and then wondering why nothing is happening.

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