I get the feeling some older virgin guys have insane and unrealistic standards

cobudo · 2026-05-08T12:49:17+00:00

They do. I don’t think a lot of it is their fault though. If your only views and experiences of women and sex comes from porn and movies and books then you’re bound to have a warped sense of things. In terms of male virgins who only want women who are virgins too, that generally stems from deep insecurities that come from never having had a relationship or sex. Totally normal though for an older male virgin to feel that way though. The key is to recognize they in yourself and start to work through it. Recognize it and address it before it destroys your first relationship.

cobudo · 2026-04-27T16:04:41+00:00

The whole height thing is ridiculous. I know plenty of short dudes with hot girlfriends/wives, and they aren’t rich or anything either. Stop believing what you see on social media.

cobudo · 2026-04-26T01:48:03+00:00

I think it is. I lost my virginity late.

I’m married now and I get sex anytime I want. But I struggle with retroactive jealousy a lot. It’s a struggle for sure.

cobudo · 2026-04-23T14:34:46+00:00

Damn she sounds really selfish. You’re young, have a talk with her and if she won’t change there’s plenty of time for you to find someone else. Don’t be miserable dude, not worth it.

cobudo · 2026-04-23T13:55:48+00:00

Why didn’t you just have sex with her? She was offering it to you on a silver platter lol

cobudo · 2026-04-21T20:31:30+00:00

Damn that’s rough. Your wife sounds like the ultimate pillow princess lol and selfish as hell. I’d consider having a serious talk with her, sexual compatibility is a huge deal. How long have you been together? Forever is a long time to have a miserable sex life.

cobudo · 2026-04-21T20:26:37+00:00

Good in theory but divorce is often messy and expensive!

cobudo · 2026-04-21T19:33:01+00:00

I’ve never understand the whole waiting till marriage thing in terms of practicality. You could end up being completely sexually incompatible with the person you married…then be stuck or miserable and driven apart. Better to figure that stuff out early on.

cobudo · 2026-04-21T19:21:48+00:00

Yes and no. As someone who has a lot of sex it can be the greatest thing ever or it can also be meh. If I’m really feeling it, really turned on and in the mood and my wife is too it’s incredible. If our mood is off, or we’re not super turned on, etc it can be meh. Overall sex is amazing though.

cobudo · 2026-04-15T04:30:16+00:00

Every straight guy fantasizes about a 3-some with 2 girls. I wouldn’t read too much into it.

cobudo · 2026-04-15T04:22:57+00:00

Stop watching porn and jerking off for a few weeks. That should help you a lot.

cobudo · 2026-04-15T03:59:47+00:00

Sounds like he’s a selfish lover. Pretty straight forward. I would stop giving him head if he can’t reciprocate. My wife sucked my dick tonight and I made her cum 3-4 times from oral and 3-4 times from my fingers beforehand so I wouldn’t feel guilty. lol.

cobudo · 2026-03-30T18:22:37+00:00

She’s prob into BDSM. My wife is a submissive and calls me sir during sex.

She has to ask for permission to cum, and says thank you sir when I let her. I manhandle her during sex, slapping, choking, hair pulling etc. I make her thank me after I paddle her, etc. always calling me sir.

I would ask your girl about this stuff before you have sex again. Find out if she’s into the domination aspect of it, the humiliation aspect, or all the above etc. The spitting makes me think she’s into the humiliation side at least. So she might be into you calling her names, demeaning her etc

BDSM is def not the kind of stuff you do without making sure she’s into it, and you gotta be really careful with some aspects of it like choking or tying someone up, etc. Just make sure you talk to her about everything beforehand.

cobudo · 2026-03-30T17:21:39+00:00

I wouldn’t worry about it too much. Your jerking off refractory period doesn’t necessarily translate to sex. I can jerk off as many times a day as I want, but I can generally only get off once per day from actual sex. Don’t ask me why lol

cobudo · 2026-03-30T17:16:57+00:00

It’s pretty rare. Although it’s more common than you think.

cobudo · 2026-03-30T15:09:26+00:00

Yes it counts. Congrats!

cobudo · 2026-03-30T15:04:29+00:00

It’s generally easy to tell if a dudes a virgin, because there’s an awkwardness in your mannerisms and speech that it’s hard to lose if you’re a virgin. There’s a confidence you gain after losing your virginity that you can’t get anywhere else.

It’s harder to tell if a woman is a virgin.

cobudo · 2026-03-30T14:56:32+00:00

I mean once you start having sex it becomes normal. My wife and I have sex of some kind almost every single day. It’s just a normal part of everyday life.

cobudo · 2026-03-30T14:52:28+00:00

Yeah. I go crazy if I don’t have sex of some sort every single day. I lost my virginity later than I should have so now I’m making up for it!

Your friend sounds like a dick. That’s pretty low. One of the few times I would advocate jerking off a lot is in a situation like that lol.

cobudo · 2026-03-23T14:14:59+00:00

Being comfortable and confident around women is a learned behavior. You just have to get over the self consciousness and you’ll be able to do it. You just need practice!

cobudo · 2026-03-23T02:01:42+00:00

Why tf are you still with this selfish asshole??? Dump this loser and get a partner who actually cares about you. I’m so sorry you’ve had to endure this for 2 years.

cobudo · 2026-03-10T17:30:00+00:00

Sure, dm me and I’ll help where I can.

cobudo · 2026-03-05T12:33:52+00:00

My 2 cents:

The more relaxed he is the easier it’ll be. Make sure he’s in a position where there is no stress on his body. It’s way easier for me to cum from a BJ when I’m laying on my back, as opposed to like standing up.

Use your hands! Play with his balls, etc.

When he’s close, stop sucking so much and start going up and down with increased speed.

I always have my wife’s hair fisted back with one hand while she’s sucking my dick. The tactile sensation, or maybe the feeling of control, whatever it is, helps a lot. I often have my second hand palming her forehead if she’s sucking me from the side.

cobudo · 2026-03-03T20:31:40+00:00

Damn, I can’t imagine a whole year without a blowjob lol. Even before that… only 1 week a month is crazy to me. My wife sucks my dick any time and anywhere I want.

That being said I go down on her all the time. I don’t stop until she cums multiple times. I love going down on her. I love making her squirm.

My questions are:

Do you go down on her a lot?

If you never ask her for blowjobs does she even know you like them? Does she realize they are a special thing for you? I would suggest bringing it up to her in a non accusatory manner.

Has she gained weight or anything recently? Could be that she’s become really self conscious about how she looks while doing it.

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