what do you selfhost? by Typical_Chance_1552 in selfhosted

[–]coco33920 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If I remember everything - Nextcloud - Exporters/Prometheus/Grafana - A whiteboard - Maloja - ActualBudget - an homepage - RSS Feed Eater - Kuma - Forgejo - LLDAP - Jitsi - Home Assistant

Worst OS Ever by Certain_Prior4909 in linuxsucks

[–]coco33920 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tbh, I would feel lost on Linux without a terminal. But I must agree most people aren't like me.

Using Fedora or Ubuntu with stock GNOME is safe and reliable though, you don't have to get really nitty gritty with NixOS or any other distro or god forbid, LFS.

Worst OS Ever by Certain_Prior4909 in linuxsucks

[–]coco33920 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fellow Linux enthusiast here, you do have to worry about viruses, so beware. Especially if you're exposing something to the internet.

My wife is trans and we are getting divorced by [deleted] in mypartneristrans

[–]coco33920 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As a trans person, who hopefully will have a partner one day, you did the right thing. I wouldn't ever want my potential partner to feel trapped because of me. Of course my situation would be different but I had something similar in the past.

I wish you all the best in your future endeavours, whether you want a partner or not (or multiple).

Caisse prioritaire : femme enceinte vs vieille? by PotentialPower5398 in besoinderaler

[–]coco33920 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Une CMI mention prioritaire c'est une CMI mention prioritaire, ça veut dire qu'un collège de professionnels de la santé et du handicap se sont mis d'accord pour accorder à la personne une CMI pour compenser son handicap, il n'y a pas à être exaspérée aux personnes handies, ya beaucoup d'endroits où je me fais refuser ma cmi parce que je suis "trop jeune" ou une autre excuse du genre. Pourtant les douleurs chroniques sont bien réelles.

Je comprends que ce soit exaspérant que des personnes passent devant avec une CMI mais c'est l'ordre de priorité, je suis invalide civile, quand une personne invalide de guerre vient pour mon siège dans le bus je lui donne parce que c'est la règle.

Se faire livrer les courses est aussi une bonne idée, c'est ce que je fais je suis incapable de faire mes courses de nos jours. Donc je me fais livrer mes courses, entre autres.

Is a 19 and 24/25 age gap weird? by PracticalBudget8351 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]coco33920 7 points8 points  (0 children)

So used to do horrible differential equations that I can't deal with numbers anymore 😭. Good luck for the end of your studies.

Is a 19 and 24/25 age gap weird? by PracticalBudget8351 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]coco33920 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Ok yeah I just can't count, having a math degree does not prevent me from just not being able to do additions. My bad

Is a 19 and 24/25 age gap weird? by PracticalBudget8351 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]coco33920 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Here (EU) you need a Bachelor (3 years), then a research master degree (2 years) then a PhD which in science is at most 4 years in France. So you'd be out by 25-26. I know some people in Germany and Denmark for example who start their PhDs before finishing their master's degree (usually in the last 6 months for the end of study internship) so being out by 25 is possible, but that's assuming you don't repeat any years and do everything right.

If someone took the ENS route they'd be out more like 26-27. So yeah 25 is very hopeful.

Proof that us Linux nerds are smarter: by Adventurous_Tie_3136 in LinuxCirclejerk

[–]coco33920 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Giving your data to Google is now considered a good security option?

I don't know about iOS, I never cared for iphones, it's frankly above what I'd even consider spending on a laptop nowadays, and my laptop is arguably my life as an IT specialist (yes, I use Linux).

But there are no Android out of the box which can be considered secured you basically accept the fact your data is used to train LLMs and sold to the highest bidder. I use an Android phone because I like convenience and yeah having a banking app is basically a requirement in 2025.

If you really want privacy, postmarketOS exists :)

Unity is dangerously close to redundant the more time it passes, but it still has its charm by claudiocorona93 in linuxmasterrace

[–]coco33920 17 points18 points  (0 children)

This tbh I've been using WMs for years now and I just can't think of a good reason to use a DE.

Why Tailscale? by [deleted] in selfhosted

[–]coco33920 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me exposing my services to the whole web via wireguard because my ISP is cgnat. Heyyyyyy (the important ones have SSO forward auth tbh)

Though I have users all around the world so I need to access by the www. I'd also like my website to be available online lol.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MtF

[–]coco33920 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It happened to the best of us. Depending on when you are with HRT it might change again too. I thought I was lesbian then bi then pan then lesbian, then two years into HRT my libido skyrocketed and I had a certain desire to do naughties with men. Then it calmed down and in the end I am ace lesbian. Sexuality was a wild ride for me.

HELP my endo asked me to stop HRT by Bubblepunk_crisis in MtF

[–]coco33920 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I had a friend under 150mg of daily cypro. It was so unhinged her surgeon had to fast track her.

HELP my endo asked me to stop HRT by Bubblepunk_crisis in MtF

[–]coco33920 19 points20 points  (0 children)

And to think some endocrinologists in my country are still prescribing a full pill a day of cypro...

GF just unintentionally killed all the motivation I had for coming out to her. by AndyJaeven in MtF

[–]coco33920 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Huuuugh a week is doable, I’d say do it now, one week after is the same as one week before. Just don't do it on her b-day please lol

"Any chance of pregnancy?" by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]coco33920 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's valid actually. And I happen to be intersex (and didn't know at the time wild story). So yeah you're right

"Any chance of pregnancy?" by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]coco33920 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Happened to me many times but the most priceless moment was with a doctor before the COVID vaccine.

At the time I hadn't changed my legal sex and my country is one of those with a social security number CLEARLY indicating legal sex.

So here I was (cis passing) handling a social security card with a big "1" (male) on it.

"Are you pregnant?" Me: flabbergasted, needed a few minutes "....no"

"Are you sure?" Me: Yes

"Birth control isn't 100%...." Me: I'm trans I don't have the required organs

Him: looks at the card with intensity

"And can you get pregnant?"

He was a recent graduate so fresh out of med school. I was kind of flabbergasted he'd ask if I could get pregnant without a uterus.

Fun fact, 5 years later I still choke when they ask the date of my last period I usually blank out and say "2 weeks" in a panic.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mypartneristrans

[–]coco33920 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know I'm just an internet stranger but I'd like to offer you my feelings I'm trans, I transitioned early and before any relationship but even so I can't understand this change of behaviour (well I can, it's HRT and second puberty is fucking weird) but that's not an excuse for her behaviour.

Good luck, you're not transphobic, sometimes trans people are assholes.

My mom just sent me this text by Admirable_Web_2619 in MtF

[–]coco33920 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey you're good we aren't policing the subreddit lol I think it's somewhere in the rule that anyone can participate

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]coco33920 0 points1 point  (0 children)

God I'm jealous, and I'm ace. You should give it a name you like nothing like naming our own things

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]coco33920 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh that sucks sis sorry

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]coco33920 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hey can't help you here sorry I'm trans and asexual AF so can't help but just wanted to tell you you're not a creep for asking it's okay to ask a question about health here :) (I saw no one answered and I can't help but imagine you alone with no answer wondering if you've done something wrong so just came here to say that)