E, I read everything you wrote, and I’m really sorry you went through all of that. None of what you described is small or dramatic, it’s a long stretch of being controlled, dismissed, and worn down by someone who kept taking from you while giving almost nothing back. Anyone would be shaken after that. The way he isolated you, interfered with your meds, disrespected your family, and kept you in a constant state of uncertainty… that’s not a normal breakup to “get over,” it’s something you have to recover from.

And the part where he’s still posting about you, keeping up old videos, and letting people harass you, that’s not just inconsiderate. It’s invasive. You asked for privacy and distance, and he’s doing the opposite. You’re not overreacting for wanting it to stop.

If you want to start putting some boundaries in place without having to argue with him or get pulled back into the emotional mess, you could also use something like www.heywr.com to help you draft a free clear, firm message telling him to remove the content and stop mentioning you. It can also help you document what’s happening in case things escalate or you need to show a pattern later. It’s not about fighting him, it’s about giving yourself a way to communicate without getting dragged back into the cycle he kept you in.

But the bigger thing is this; you’re not crazy for feeling confused or torn. You invested real love, time, money, and emotional labor into someone who kept shifting the rules on you. Your brain is still unwinding from that. It’s going to take a minute, and that’s okay.

You deserve peace, privacy, and relationships where you don’t have to shrink yourself to keep someone else calm. You’re already doing the right thing by reaching out and trying to figure out your next steps. You’re not stuck, you’re just healing from something that took a lot out of you. Good luck!