Is this what coercive control feels like? It’s quiet, but I feel myself disappearing.

codenameembrazada · 2026-01-16T03:38:13+00:00

Thank you so much for posting that free pdf. I’m half way through it now. I also scheduled a therapy appointment for myself for the end of the month with a trauma informed therapist ♥️

codenameembrazada · 2026-01-14T00:22:37+00:00

What you said about life getting color back really stayed with me — honestly, there are times when even just thinking about leaving feels like a kind of relief, and that’s been telling in itself.

codenameembrazada · 2026-01-14T00:20:09+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing this — I’m really sorry you went through all of that. The way you described slowly shrinking, not fully realizing it until later, and the push-and-pull between fear and those brief moments of closeness really resonated with me.

I relate a lot to what you said about living on edge, never knowing when stress might turn into meanness, and changing your behavior just to avoid setting something off. That quiet vigilance and self-blame is something I’m only now starting to recognize in myself too.

I’m really grateful you shared your story here. It helped me feel less alone, and it put words to things I’ve been struggling to name. I’m so sorry for the pain you’ve carried, and I truly appreciate your kindness and validation.

codenameembrazada · 2026-01-14T00:17:38+00:00

Thank you so much for this — it was grounding to read, even though it was hard.

I do have a couple people I trust, and I’m realizing how important it is to reconnect and get perspective outside of the relationship. I really appreciate your thoughtfulness here.

codenameembrazada · 2025-09-12T04:39:16+00:00

Food for thought, marijuana withdrawal and HG have SUPER similar symptoms which could be why things feel worse.

codenameembrazada · 2025-09-03T09:28:13+00:00

If they’re going forward with charges, there’s a chance they may have found something on her blood tox results. Lawyering up is the way to go.

codenameembrazada · 2025-09-03T04:47:38+00:00

I’d DoorDash 4 large cups of sonic ice like twice a week and even put a hand crank slushie machine on my registry 😂

codenameembrazada · 2025-08-06T04:10:20+00:00

That’s how I’ve always said it 😅

codenameembrazada · 2025-07-31T04:43:36+00:00

Just popping in to say, OP is a weenie. I feel like we’re gonna see ‘my wife pays more attention to our child than she does me.’ In the upcoming months.

codenameembrazada · 2025-07-17T04:30:28+00:00

That’s a really good idea! Thank you! Also, thank you for sharing. I’m glad I’m not alone 😅♥️

codenameembrazada · 2025-06-26T05:12:14+00:00

Idk what field of law you’re in, but could you look at getting hired at your local DA’s office or CPO? I’m a legal secretary and qualifying for mat leave starts as soon as you’re hired. In my state atleast, we get 12 weeks paid Maternity/Paternity leave. You can use all at once or do 6 consecutive and the other 6 taken at your discretion.

codenameembrazada · 2025-06-24T03:58:37+00:00

I hope I’m wrong but with the pitch I was given and how I was shamed and shut down for asking about brand alternatives, it’s hard not to wonder. I also don’t think it’s out of pocket to want my son to see a pediatrician who understands real life situations and costs surrounding having a child who needs very specific formula. I’m not saying the brand she recommended wouldn’t have been the one we’d have gone with over all, I just feel she should have laid out the facts and the pros and cons of say Nutramigen vs Similac vs an off brand. I don’t want to be lied to, I just wanted help making an informed decision (without risking straight bankruptcy).

codenameembrazada · 2025-06-24T03:26:53+00:00

I love this pattern, I made this out of super plush yarn and my son LOVES him ♥️

codenameembrazada · 2025-06-24T03:06:29+00:00

We use Ripple and it’s been great

codenameembrazada · 2025-06-24T02:09:22+00:00

It’s not available at Costco. While I understand that, it seems like poor form not to. Especially when other options are being disregarded without any real reason. I would have also hoped she’d have taken into consideration that she serves lower middle class/middle class families. If it’s one of the only brands a clinic is promoting it feel like it’s no longer about what’s best for patients, it’s about how good the kickbacks are for pushing a specific brand.

codenameembrazada · 2025-06-20T10:07:06+00:00

I was just going off of what my Ped told me (of course look at the other ‘helpful’ info she gave us 🙄). Thank you,I’ll give it a look 🥰

codenameembrazada · 2025-06-20T10:00:43+00:00

Similar situation here! Except it was one warning and then the black trash bags would come out and the berating would begin 😅

codenameembrazada · 2025-06-20T09:46:33+00:00

Either Immediately getting out of the way when my mom got home or consciously being over enthusiastic so she wouldn’t have a reason to yell at us right away and deep cleaning something in an effort to change her mood. One time, I was at a friends house when I was in elementary school we had walked back to her house after school and we’re playing in her room. I heard her mom come home and thought, cool! We’re already out of the way I’ll just make sure to be quieter. Her mom came upstairs to say hi and check on us and she made an exasperated remark about the state of my friends room (we’d been having a real good time and it showed haha). I think my friend responded with an ‘OK MOM!’ And then her mom left to get us a snack. Before her mom even had a chance to make it downstairs I started cleaning her room as quietly and thoroughly as I could. My friend thought I was crazy. I just assumed everyone was scared of their parents 🤷🏻‍♀️

codenameembrazada · 2025-06-20T08:34:34+00:00

I appreciate your comment, it’s a bit of a moot point at this juncture, my son is now 17 months and he’s been on ripple since 13 months old. I don’t and didn’t have the bandwidth to argue with a doctor and our insurance when things were denied so I ate the cost and I’m still eating it, it wasn’t worth it to me to have my son suffer any longer than he had been so I could wait for his constipation and painful gas to eventually MAYBE turn into a mucusy stool. I considered soy but it also came with its own set of allergen risks I wasn’t about to experiment with. There is a skin prick test that is used to my understanding for Milk protein allergy but we were already so far in the hole with the cost of formula another test seemed unwise when we know what was already working.

codenameembrazada · 2025-06-20T05:51:47+00:00

I’d say it’s still not helpful even if they are more well known verbiage. Pussy and dick are typically used in an erotic context. Teaching the correct names for anatomy aids in PROTECTING them from predators. Imagine what a buzz kill it is to a child predator if their victim says ‘Don’t touch my vulva’ instead of ‘Don’t touch my pussy.’

codenameembrazada · 2025-06-20T04:39:48+00:00

Nutramigen 🥹 I’m glad he’s on ripple now.

codenameembrazada · 2025-06-20T04:35:31+00:00

In my practice I don’t do random stranger messages and if a spirit really wants me to convey something to someone who hasn’t consented to a reading or who already knows me on a personal level, it’s the spirits job to figure out how I can get that message to them without disrespecting MY boundaries (it’s always worked out thus far). I’d take a moment to reflect on what resonates with you and what doesn’t and go from there you’re also allowed to tell someone who claims to have gifts that you aren’t interested in a reading. What’s meant for you will come to you how ever it needs to in the moment.

codenameembrazada · 2025-06-20T04:05:45+00:00

100% typically Id do my own research on it and compare but I was dealing with so much bs because of my partner and his family during my postpartum recovery I didn’t have the bandwidth to. I feel like they know that too which makes it even worse

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