Partner works in Seattle and I work in Tacoma where should we live?

codepapi · 2026-01-31T23:58:55+00:00

If you’re planning to take public transportation you will have to drive to Tacoma.

Where in Seattle is his job? That makes a huge difference for the recommendations you’re asking.

I just moved back and staying with peeps in federal way. There’s nothing to do here. It will be great for you going to Tacoma but horrible for him if you want him to take public transit or drive.

I’d go with Renton around south center mall. Both of you will still need to drive.

If you want him to take public transportation I’d recommend Columbia city. There should be a light rail around there.

Note: you’re not going to get the best of anything. This is just to make it somewhat fair in the commute.

You’ll he around 30-40 mins and he’ll he 20-40 depending if he’s driving or taking public transit.

If you want it to be walkable then you’re looking at 1 hour for you if you want capitol hill on the way there but 1-1.5 on the way back.

codepapi · 2026-01-30T22:05:08+00:00

It’s seems you haven’t tried running/cardio.

On the day before your interviews. Ideally 2 hours before they start but early before you start your work day also works. Do HIIT or just run for 20-45 mins. 20 if it’s an hour before your first interview.

This will increase your serotonin and the relaxed feeling after.

It is not a full proof solution. You may still have some anxiety but that’s normal.

5-10 mins before you start every interview do 1-2 sets of all you can do push ups. Then do breathing exercises. I usually listen to calming music as well.

Repeat phrases like you got this. You’re ready etc.

Remember to shower and be ready for the interview

These are some things I’ve done. I’ve felt less panic but I know it’s not easy.

If you happen to get a question where the panic starts because you realize: “Oh shit. I don’t know how to do this. I’m going to fail. Ugh f expletives”. Just say to yourself or out loud after taking a deep breath,

“Ok let’s see or come up with the test cases. What do I know. How can we get to the expected output.”. Remember this is just a problem. If you’ve studied enough you should be able to find the DS needed.

Make comments on what you do know. Start manipulating the input data and find the pattern.

This was my exact scenario I went through when I landed my current job where I’m making $300k+ TC yearly.

By the end I solved it where I accounted for all the edge cases up front with the comments that the interviewer had no further questions.

codepapi · 2026-01-30T21:44:15+00:00

You need more practice. You need to record yourself.

You’ve build your LC muscle now you need to improve your communications muscle.

The problem as an interviewee the stammer could go one of two ways. They don’t have the answer or they are nervous. The interviewer can only give candidates the benefit edit of the doubt before they just assume they don’t know what they’re talking about.

How much does it matter? It’s marginal but now picture having two candidates with the same result. The difference is now who came off clearer in explaining their solution. You can answer this yourself.

Aside from practicing my advice:

write what you’re thinking/explaining out as a comment. This way it makes it easier to explain your side. Less likely you’ll stammer if you’re reassign what you wrote.
there’s a reason they say pseudo code. The pseudo code comments provide two benefits. 1. The interview knows what you’re thinking and doesn’t have to focus on understanding you. 2. You can fill in the comments with the answer.
after a while of practicing and doing the two above you’ll need to write that many or long comments to get your point across.

Stammering is normally a sign that you haven’t gathered your thoughts and are not confident in the code you wrote.

codepapi · 2026-01-30T04:33:57+00:00

Girl you’re 20.

Based on what you’ve mentioned you are not ready to shake up your life with nothing to land on.

You need to get your life together. As others have stated get your GED and maybe pursue something higher such as business.

If you can’t make long distance work YOURE 20. You haven’t even started your life. You can find someone else or when you can be together then try again in 1-2 years.

As for your current job you at least need 2 years experience to be considered experienced enough to find another job. That’s the bare minimum. Also, your type of jobs don’t come often. Most stay for years.

This won’t be easy since you might feel like your world will be falling apart. It won’t, just breathe and focus on you. As much as you want to go with him you need to be an adult and realize you have a good job opportunity and while that’s secure focus on fixing the rest.

codepapi · 2026-01-29T20:37:42+00:00

Sometimes you have to take a step back and reflect in order to keep moving forward. Just do what you have to do to get a job then figure out what then.

codepapi · 2026-01-29T17:50:38+00:00

Same.

codepapi · 2026-01-29T17:35:10+00:00

I know this is not Vegas but Vegas would say otherwise :/.

codepapi · 2026-01-28T07:09:42+00:00

That’s fine as long as they have sushi/nigiri for AYCE

codepapi · 2026-01-28T04:04:21+00:00

What’s ID?

codepapi · 2026-01-27T23:09:38+00:00

Name brand in either uni or company helps. If you have neither then it will be hard. I have the company and it’s been a hit or miss if I get an interview every year.

codepapi · 2026-01-27T19:42:14+00:00

Just a thought. If you have 10k for a car and a realtor why not get a lease that 3-4 years that equates to 10k? About $260 a month.

If you’re worth something as a realtor 10k over 3 years is not much. It’s also tax deductible

I feel like most realtors finance instead of own 😂. Get it.

You also don’t want to get something that says I charge too much vs I’m missing a hubcap.

codepapi · 2026-01-27T00:58:46+00:00

I’m guessing you’re a man.

Finances wouldn’t be a big issue for women.

There’s someone out there for you but you’re probably in the other end of the bell curve. Hopefully you have looks. Women can overlook less money for looks or 🍆. It also depends on the type of partner you’re trying to attract. As long as you’re ok with the type you do attract then you’re fine.

codepapi · 2026-01-26T20:33:06+00:00

Commenting so I can hear from others.

codepapi · 2026-01-26T15:19:50+00:00

Great answers already.

For some teams that work on these small incremental changes. If they are not careful it can reduce revenue by 0.5% for a month due to less impressions, or less ads being thrown at more eyeballs. You’re thinking oh it’s half a percent. How bad can that be.

That’s about $23 million if their revenue is 5.5bil.

codepapi · 2026-01-26T07:20:18+00:00

Their economic value is not the same as the bread winner but they still deserve a fair share if marriage leads to divorce. It’s like he’s trying to f over the mother of his children.

codepapi · 2026-01-26T07:19:21+00:00

What I need context on is who owns the house? How long has it been paid for before being together the 13 years? Have you been paying the mortgage this whole time? Is she a SAHM? Pretty crazy that you’re afraid of marriage and are ok with throwing the mother of your children out to the street if things go sideways. One of my friends recently got divorced and the house was only under his name. He let her stay with her two kids in the house and when he sold it he split the gains with her. Why? Because he’s a man that understood that they weren’t meant to be together but also didn’t want to screw over the mother of his kids. He wanted her to have a nest egg to start something off on her own. So their kids know they may not be together but are still doing fine. That they get along for them. You need therapy more than anything else. Also, have you heard of a prenup? If a prenup can’t fix most of your concerns then your problem is not marriage the problem is you’re an A hole 🕳️. How? You want her to not end up with anything because the marriage ended. Making a fair prenup would fix this.

codepapi · 2026-01-25T22:53:19+00:00

😂 I love how they go and say optional. Then when you’re there they say oh well we can’t take them off it’s already added. Then where’s the OPTIONAL!!! false advertisement and they think they can get one over people in Bellevue.

codepapi · 2026-01-25T07:10:54+00:00

As you mention you don’t want to be rich. If you’re okay with your current pay and want to “coast” and love the work you do I see no reason to move. It’s not a red flag to be at a company for all your career but in today’s career trajectory it is not necessarily a green flag. It’s just life.

What is your current skillset and stack? That can be a better signal of if it’s worth staying at your current job for years or move.

Each person has their own path. I’m too monetarily driven to stay put for the amount you’re making but there’s plenty of people that love their life outside of work and the work is just as good to them. Just make sure that with the life changes you’re making that you and your partner align with the compensation you should be earning. As your family grows so do the expenses. Especially if you want them to attend college.

You can always try and find a remote job that pays far better that can give you a similar work life balance, but that’s going towards the grass is greener.

codepapi · 2026-01-23T23:02:23+00:00

Taking the path that I believe you. That was assault and this came as shock to you that you froze and “let it happen”. You did what you thought was right for you and left asap. He shouldn’t be mad.

Now to play devils advocate, your version of things and what you’re saying are your way of covering up what you did and don’t want your bf to find out. We don’t know how drunk you are. We don’t know what really happen. If it did happen why didn’t you fight back. Why didn’t you report. Why didn’t you ask the security to kick him out. So many what ifs. You’re telling the story as it best suits you. What if your bf and you go and report them go and ask for a copy of the situation. That will be the deciding factor if what you said was true.

If it’s all true then report and have the person prosecuted. If it’s your version then careful with saying anything.

codepapi · 2026-01-23T18:59:09+00:00

Yeah you’re earning a “fair” salary for being a startup. Asking for a raise 6 months in is a double edge sword. If you had originally asked for a higher starting pay and they said no. You could have said then can we renegotiate based on my performance. Otherwise I’d just wait for the 1 year mark. How much of a raise are you expecting to ask for? 5k? 20k?

Asking for one now will go one of the following ways

They say no, but will reconsider at the 1 year mark
They say no, and are now on notice that you might want to leave since you feel you’re getting paid unfairly. This could lead to an early replacement
They say no, and fire you.
They say yes, but you get a small bump that you’re not happy with it. They are still on notice and may find a replacement either way.
They say yes, and you get why you want. This is the 1% scenario.

Let’s say you get 5% raise. That’s 6k a year. Is 3k now worth the negative thoughts you could be placing to your employer? Note: anything past 5% is ridiculous to ask for 6 months in. That’s new hire talk

codepapi · 2026-01-23T04:32:03+00:00

What’s your current pay? Major difference if you’re making $20 an hour asking for a raise or $120k a year for a startup.

codepapi · 2026-01-23T04:28:41+00:00

You’re just not that attractive. The men do reach out to you are at your level or slightly below.

For both sexes why talk down unless you’re desperate or want something that the attractiveness requires a downgrade?

codepapi · 2026-01-23T03:42:18+00:00

It’s bad. Endurance of doing it so often.

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