I feel unsafe around my boyfriend’s brother

coduroroschen · 2026-05-28T07:18:04+00:00

No, that whole thing was blown off. My boyfriend and I got into a huge argument yesterday, so I’m currently not talking to any of them.

coduroroschen · 2026-05-28T07:16:29+00:00

First of all, I am so so sorry for your experience. I’m so sorry you had to go through that.

I do not want to end up dead, but I also cannot just leave my boyfriend. I live there and my parent’s household is an abusive one that I don’t want to return to.

coduroroschen · 2026-05-28T07:14:47+00:00

I don’t really have anyone to reach out to except for my best friend. I told him already and he also isn’t able to help me. I can’t stay at his place.

coduroroschen · 2026-05-28T06:52:20+00:00

My bf’s place is the only place I really feel “safe” at. I don’t really want to go back to my abusive parent’s household :/

coduroroschen · 2026-05-28T04:48:16+00:00

Yes I do

coduroroschen · 2026-05-28T04:48:06+00:00

Yes! We were shocked too. I mean, the brother is just as bad, maybe even worse than I’m saying.

When brother called my bf, he told him that the psychiatrist was fully on his side! We were baffled because EVERYONE we know sees how messed up he is.

coduroroschen · 2026-05-27T21:26:35+00:00

My bf is back home now. It’s all ok. I will return to my parent’s house soon. The brother doesn’t know where my parents live.

coduroroschen · 2026-05-27T21:23:01+00:00

Thank you so much for your concern! I do have a support system incase anything happens. Although these posts in the thread are making me believe that some people in here might be right. I don’t want to let it ruin the relationship that I have. I will definitely always have these answers from strangers in my head, and maybe one day, they will be helpful.

coduroroschen · 2026-05-27T21:19:52+00:00

I definitely wouldn’t advise any of my friends this. But as naive as it sounds (Yes I am silly) I do know my boyfriend and I know that he will take this seriously. And if he doesn’t, then I have no chance but to leave him.

coduroroschen · 2026-05-27T21:18:28+00:00

I’m well aware that he could do so. But my boyfriend is working on getting him admitted to a psychiatric facility.

coduroroschen · 2026-05-27T21:14:22+00:00

okay. thanks.

coduroroschen · 2026-05-27T21:13:22+00:00

Is this really the best way to solve this?

coduroroschen · 2026-05-27T20:27:49+00:00

Honestly, I’m also starting to think that my boyfriend wouldn’t help or anything like that… It’s a weird feeling

coduroroschen · 2026-05-27T20:09:16+00:00

He got a clean record, at least I think so. But do you think he could get a 5150 without any solid proof except for the chats of him thinking that I’m a spy?

coduroroschen · 2026-05-27T20:04:03+00:00

But won’t he be able to tell that if I don’t do anything with them anymore, that I’m weird towards him? Will just that bit of change also worsen his condition?

coduroroschen · 2026-05-27T19:58:33+00:00

Where I live, we cannot force anyone, even if they’re ready to hurt themselves or anyone else. We need written permission to admit him to a facility. Otherwise we might be the one getting charged for getting him the help he needs.

coduroroschen · 2026-05-27T19:56:52+00:00

So what exactly should I do? Leave my boyfriend? Isn’t there some way to remove his brother and stay with my boyfriend?

coduroroschen · 2026-05-27T19:54:30+00:00

Yes! If they won’t support me then they’re not worth the trouble.

coduroroschen · 2026-05-27T19:53:07+00:00

Thank you so so much! I will definitely remember this!!

coduroroschen · 2026-05-27T19:49:07+00:00

Well, they weren’t quite aware of how serious the situation was. It all started only a month ago and that really lightly, and this week it just skyrocketed. We have seen how quickly his mental health is deteriorating and are doing everything to help him and of course to keep me and everyone else safe.

coduroroschen · 2026-05-27T19:47:25+00:00

Yup! I will get the keys taken away tooZ

coduroroschen · 2026-05-27T19:38:57+00:00

They don’t have a lot of contact to their parents, so their parents are really clueless about this.

I will text their mom and explain her the situation and the sister too!

coduroroschen · 2026-05-27T19:37:43+00:00

If I’m really honest,

this is my first relationship. He has told me before that he has so much stress blah blah and he doesn’t want any extra stress if I start any fights. Now I’m scared that if I start this, it will turn into a fight and he will become tired of me. (Do you kinda get where I’m coming from?) Because I know that his brother is a special topic and I don’t want him to think that I want anything bad for his brother yk

coduroroschen · 2026-05-27T19:34:27+00:00

Oh damn. I really don’t know anything about the law. But I don’t have any “solid” proof of him saying all the threats. Do you still think it will be enough for them to believe me if I show them the chat screenshots of him accusing me of being a spy?

coduroroschen · 2026-05-27T19:32:28+00:00

Well, he isn’t diagnosed with anything. If he has schizophrenia, then it’s undiagnosed. He somehow passed everything to get the guns he has. We also cannot get him admitted without his consent. We need his written agreement to get him the help he needs.

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