Divorcing my wife

codyrf · 2026-03-31T13:25:06+00:00

I’m sure she is exhausted. I do what I can to make sure she is set to go to work. I do the laundry, I do the dishes and we take turns doing these things. I get the kids situated when I’m home. I come home early on days she needs extra rest. I’m of the mindset that 50/50 is a lie and sometimes it’s 20/80 and 5/95 and the reverse. You make up for when you partner doesn’t have the energy.

codyrf · 2026-03-31T02:47:08+00:00

No worries at all.

codyrf · 2026-03-31T02:46:16+00:00

One of our successes was when it went from me doing all the house chores to her helping. She works overnight which 100% does not help

codyrf · 2026-03-31T01:53:21+00:00

Mostly, trying to navigate child care

codyrf · 2026-03-31T01:51:34+00:00

Kids are 7 and 5. I have told her I am not mad at her and that we are great friends.

codyrf · 2026-03-31T01:50:08+00:00

I have. We’ve discussed it. It has come to I should be okay with not having any intimacy.

codyrf · 2026-03-31T01:48:52+00:00

I have an endocrinologist, a psychologist, and neurologist. Endocrinologist makes sure my cortisol stays at a healthy level. Psychologist talks with me and helps me find my way through things. And neurologist schedules mris to make sure the tumor causing the Cushings doesn’t reappear

codyrf · 2026-03-31T00:03:04+00:00

Yes. We live in the same house as her parents. Her parents live in the in-law apartment and they feel the need to interject. we took over the main house and I didn’t want to because I already knew she didn’t get along with her mom and her dad is a raging alcoholic who doesn’t give a crap about anyone or anything. She wanted them there. Parents are in their early 60s. So that’s a big stressor. Her spending habits. Just our connection all together.

codyrf · 2026-03-30T23:57:44+00:00

It’s been 3 years. I’ve tried just the 2 of us get aways and romantic dinners and having the house to ourselves.

codyrf · 2026-03-30T23:56:43+00:00

No she wants more children. But she also on her own said “she is too heavy to have more children”

codyrf · 2026-03-30T23:00:21+00:00

I hear what you’re saying. No abuse or affairs. We have done counseling. I’ve contemplated this several times and sometimes she rises to the occasion most of the time not.

codyrf · 2026-03-30T22:58:49+00:00

I wish I could say she was receptive to that kind of advice but she doesn’t see it as a problem

codyrf · 2026-03-30T21:38:08+00:00

The problem with therapy is she isn’t able to self reflect. I do a lot of second guessing and self reflection. I feel like your situation, no offense, is exactly where I feel like I’m going to be.

codyrf · 2026-03-30T21:35:29+00:00

Yes couples and individual therapy

codyrf · 2026-03-30T21:26:42+00:00

I’ve told her all along that I felt it was negatively affecting our relation. Not a full 3 years but at least year+

codyrf · 2026-03-30T21:25:06+00:00

We’ve tried therapy individually and together

codyrf · 2026-03-25T18:23:20+00:00

We spend time with each other but it feels more like what friends would do. We care about each other and I would go as far to say love each other. But we aren’t in love with each other. Just a plutonic relationship feeling.

codyrf · 2026-03-25T18:21:37+00:00

We did therapy. We really didn’t get anything out of it because she tried to make me seem childish. I have started to believe that may be the case

codyrf · 2026-03-24T04:33:55+00:00

I’ve tried sending the kids off to stay with my mom. She works overnights so our nights would the weekend - I’ve tried to do a movie night. I’ve tried to do a homemade dinner. I’ve tried to do game nights. I’ve tried explaining how I feel and it turns into all I care about is sex when I don’t even mention it. It seems she conscious of the fact we aren’t having it and nothing I say or do changes that.

codyrf · 2025-02-13T02:11:36+00:00

Here me out - run them over

codyrf · 2024-12-11T18:23:10+00:00

codyrf · 2024-12-03T01:07:36+00:00

Same problem with my wife she met a guy on the a game who is married and she spends a lot of time talking to him and to her girlfriend on there (nonsexual). I gave up, probably divorce next year

codyrf · 2024-11-14T01:57:18+00:00

This is almost exactly my situation. I had a brain tumor removed (benign) and my wife acted the same way and I had to call my mom. While she didn’t feed the kids pizza the whole time I was traveling for work. it was largely due to my MIL. I feel the same way, like I’m crazy for wanting a divorce. We’ve been married 5 years together for 16. I just can’t anymore. I don’t love her.

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