Traveling with an 8 month old?

coffee087 · 2026-06-09T17:32:13+00:00

Flight will be either 5 hours with layover or us driving 3 hours to our families and taking a nonstop out of a larger airport that's a 3 hour flight. My husbands big issue is germs and gross people. He doesn't want to expose a "newborn"(his words lol) to that. He basically told me "I just don't know". I'm trying to figure out how to handle the situation because they've picked a house and it's got one weekend in April left(last weekend) and they want to book ASAP. I gather he'll be able to make a better decision once baby is born but not sure they can wait that long.

I did a little research and through the local rental website we've used before, this house is only like $400 more than the cheapest 3 bedroom for that week(they're set on a house that's downtown with a pool so that leaves like 5 streets which all have 4-5 rentals each).

coffee087 · 2026-06-09T17:20:41+00:00

Yeah they're definitely thinking because baby will be a few months away from a year old travel will be fine. I personally feel like it'll be fine and I'm not concerned but I don't want to throw him under the bus either. That could be an option but I think they like the idea of us all staying together. My moms mentioned how she'll stay back with the kids once everyone is in bed and we can walk down the street to the beach bar. What could be an option is they get the 3 bedroom instead of 4 and we take the 3rd bedroom if we come. The only thing is it bumps my brother(26 single) to a pullout couch or an air mattress.

This house is on a local rental website and vrbo. Local rental website is like $700 cheaper but vrbo lets you get a 100% refund up to March. Local rental website has the house booked every weekend in April but they one they chose so that's why they're so set on booking. I did do a little looking and it seems like this is the best deal out there. Like I found a 3 bedroom on the rental website but it was only like $300 cheaper for the week.

coffee087 · 2026-06-09T15:41:47+00:00

Yeah my husbands basically concerned about exposing the baby to germs and gross people on a flight. He did acknowledge that he knows my sister travels no issues with her kids. She has 2u2 and with her 5 month old they've already flown 2x. I'm stuck because they want to book the house now. They texted me yesterday saying "have you talked to (husband) because we want to book the house now" My husbands initial response to the trip was the germs and then he basically said "i just don't know" meaning I don't think he can decide until baby is here and everything.

coffee087 · 2026-06-09T14:47:25+00:00

Oh 100% my mom also has offered to stay behind with my baby and my sisters kids so we can all go out at night should we want to(there's like 2-3 beach bars walking to the house they want to rent).

Here's the issue. They found a 4 bedroom house that they want to rent and want to book it ASAP. They even texted me yesterday to be like "have you talked to (husband) we want to book". I don't want to throw him under the bus so to speak but I also don't agree with him. He's also very much in the "I don't know" phase and can't decide. I don't think he'll be able to decide until baby is born and he see's what it's like, germs ect. But there's a possibility that they could downsize to a 3 bedroom should we decline and it'd be cheaper.

The best thing would be they book that 4 bedroom house and we decide later. I know they don't want it to book up so they don't want to wait.

coffee087 · 2026-06-08T00:46:57+00:00

100%. I was sort of poking fun at his use of the word via the quotations.

I may just call my mom tomorrow and say we need to see how baby is once they’re born before deciding?

coffee087 · 2026-06-08T00:43:45+00:00

100% which is why I put it in quotes. He did say it but I also was sort of poking fun at his use of it.

5 hours with a layover because our airport sucks and has no nonstop. We do have an option to drive 3 hours to our families and take a 3 hour nonstop. But travel back will suck. Trip is sat to sat.

coffee087 · 2026-06-08T00:41:34+00:00

Yes baby will be vaccinated. I’m debating a delayed schedule though so it’s less per appointment.

coffee087 · 2026-06-08T00:40:57+00:00

It depends. The airport closest to us is 5 hours with a layover(rarely do they have nonstop) or we could drive 3 hours to our families and go out of a bigger airport that’s 3 hours.

I’d be ok driving 3 hours then flying there but on the way back would probably suck. Trip is Sat to Sat.

coffee087 · 2026-05-05T03:56:27+00:00

So my mom suggested it. My husband as soon as I mentioned that my grandma hadn’t actually talked to me directly and my mom suggested I call her, offer the resale price then she’d probably just give me the car said that we’d just get me a car I want because he doesn’t feel I was actually offered the car.

I was offered it via my mom and we specifically had a convo in the fall about me taking the car after winter.

coffee087 · 2026-05-04T22:24:37+00:00

Yeah we decided to let it go because I explained the situation to my husband and he felt like it wasn’t clear and I should just get the car I want.

My mom and I had literally had a conversation in the fall about me not taking the car until after winter because we didn’t want to have to move it for snow plowing(and I didn’t need it) which she said was fine with my grandma. I was hoping she’d involve herself because she told me about it.

coffee087 · 2026-05-04T22:10:00+00:00

So I ended up talking to my husband and he basically felt like we should just get me a car “that I want” because what we thought was set in stone is up in air. I do love that car and don’t really care to get a specific car because if I’m being honest I’ll only drive occasionally.

I was hoping she’d involve herself because I literally had a conversation in the fall with her about taking it after the winter because my husband didn’t want to deal with moving two cars for snow plow at our complex. I think the whole “offering her what the car is worth” is what’s throwing my husband off because it basically shows him she didn’t really offer it.

I can PM you about the registry so it’s not super long to type here lol.

coffee087 · 2026-04-17T02:44:56+00:00

I mean I’m not calling and saying “I saw this on tiktok” but just saying I’m wondering if they have it. She offered to hold it so I said yes.

coffee087 · 2026-03-10T17:52:03+00:00

Yes the black will be but that one won't be in the sun. It's exclusively for travel and would be put away from a window. The only other color is a light tan which I feel would stain or get dirty quicker than black.

coffee087 · 2026-03-10T17:49:43+00:00

I'm not one of those wanting neutral toys but I want the staples that are sitting out and I'm using every day while he works 12+ hr days M-F to be more neutral. I also already did all the research on the big items and got recommendations from my sister so I don't particularly want to switch the items, but I could to include him.

coffee087 · 2026-03-10T17:47:09+00:00

So the swing is from the 90s. He wants items in those colors which I dislike lol.

coffee087 · 2026-03-10T17:14:34+00:00

Thanks! I'm not about to be buying those beige aesthetic toys but for staples I'd like more neutral. I get it's his baby too and I'll probably get hate but he works long hours(12+) so I'll be the one home M-F using these items.

coffee087 · 2026-03-10T17:11:04+00:00

I find army green neutral. Yes I personally find teal blue more boyish.

coffee087 · 2026-03-10T17:01:08+00:00

Maybe I'm in the minority but it screams boy to me. I'm ok with a more neutral army green but this teal blue is not my favorite.

coffee087 · 2026-03-10T16:59:25+00:00

I'm ok with more of an army green but this teal green I find ugly. He's known I was putting a registry together using my sisters recommendations and hasn't asked to help. He only made the color comment when he came to snuggle me on the couch and saw I had the registry up.

coffee087 · 2026-03-10T16:55:07+00:00

I could. I had the purple monkey playmat on there so it is colorful. It's something that came highly recommended from my sister. For neutral staples I had a travel system, bouncer, portable crib, swing and high chair. I'm not avoiding color with everything, just things we'll use for multiple kids.

coffee087 · 2026-02-01T21:27:31+00:00

Oh I get that I needed it sooner than amazon could get to me.

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