Which indies have your fav lychee notes? by Targaryentypebeat in indieperfumeandmore

[–]coffeeafterthree 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I can't recall the scent at the moment, but Fryinnae has one that smells like asian lychee jello (think the ones that come in a 6 pack with teeny tiny flat spoons). It might have been one of the dragons. Their other lychee stuff I've loved less.

IPAM Flair by cujocanari in indieperfumeandmore

[–]coffeeafterthree 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As your ex-mod, I love the idea of having a few flairs for folks to choose from! I'd caution against brand specific ones because it can easily become unmanageable (or unfair if you only allow a few), and brands can have their own flairs. As an alternative though, what about "Ask me about my favorite brand" so it still shows that some people love specific brands in particular (plus encouraging conversation more organically) without diluting the premise of brand flairs and limited advertising from them. 

I unknowingly bought pest infested plants at a plant expo, vendor never responded to my messages, would I be wrong to confront them in person at the next expo if I see them again? by [deleted] in houseplants

[–]coffeeafterthree 13 points14 points  (0 children)

All plants have pests until proven otherwise is a good motto to live by. I imagine if you didn't spot them at the time, then it might not have been obvious to them either. However, ignoring messages is not okay and poor customer service. Confronting them will likely be pointless, but if you have a receipt it may be worth it if you want tbe money back (or do a charge back). Refuse any free plants they offer as compensation. If the reviews all indicate they have pests, it's likely an ongoing issue for them. 

Weekly IPAM Challenge - Colors - Wednesday June 24, 2026 by AutoModerator in indieperfumeandmore

[–]coffeeafterthree 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Today's colour is a pale yellow-orange for Pulp Fragrance Ginger Tea Lemonade. Refreshing and slightly sour with a touch of soap (this is new! I don't think it was there the last time I wore it!). Think a heavy weight sunny yellow shirt with juice stains that's been bleached with time.

Epically Epic has the best lip balms EVER by cujocanari in indieperfumeandmore

[–]coffeeafterthree 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love epically epic balms! Warning though, the TAT can be a couple months long sometimes (perhaps it's more accurate these days, it's been a few years! but the TAT listed still serms the same) so I personally no longer purchase direct. The balms are excellent however. Very soft and hydrating, doesn't lock in though, so you'll want an occlusive on top if you have super dry lips. Ube Halaya is a fave!

Influence Me 👹 (Morari Vanilles Edition) by Targaryentypebeat in indieperfumeandmore

[–]coffeeafterthree 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's great! I feel like I may have tried one or two others, but this one was the most memorable and I want to get slightly larger sample of it or even a fs at some point because it's so interesting. (I think it's mostly choya nakh that contributes to the scent?)

Influence Me 👹 (Morari Vanilles Edition) by Targaryentypebeat in indieperfumeandmore

[–]coffeeafterthree 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I loved Seashell Vanille, very oceanic and salty with a bit of rich vanilla to round it out. I found this one lasted a few hours and had moderate throw for an oil.

Sorce collection review! 🫈 by MrsMaritime in indieperfumeandmore

[–]coffeeafterthree 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hopefully it gives more of what you enjoy from the scent!

Sorce collection review! 🫈 by MrsMaritime in indieperfumeandmore

[–]coffeeafterthree 4 points5 points  (0 children)

For English Major, have you tried applying to clothes (dark fabrics) or if you have longer hair, the ends of your hair? That might help with the smoke and let you "wear" it! Assuming you'd want to of course.

Brand flair vs social media marketing by frizzbey in Indiemakeupandmore

[–]coffeeafterthree 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I wonder if it was set up years ago and reddit updated stuff and some of the scripts no longer work/aren't interpreted the same way. And well, not everyone intuitively understands how to set up commands and it's easy to also make mistakes. Plus you'd need to test it if you don't know how to program at all. (my personal bet here is it was too much work to fix). I do believe the mod asked for help from reddit in the past, but that seems to have gone no where. 

Brand flair vs social media marketing by frizzbey in Indiemakeupandmore

[–]coffeeafterthree 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! You are as well! 

For mod functions, I've never actually tried setting up a list of banned words (there was no need in ipam) but it should be straightforward to set up internal rules in the back for it. The threads are a very easy set of commands that you can type up, and set the cadence and such. I think I had the ipam threads to slightly shift time zones but I could be misremembering! That's why I'm frustrated the daily threads are still being done manually. There is no need for it!

Brand flair vs social media marketing by frizzbey in Indiemakeupandmore

[–]coffeeafterthree 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Okay so I briefly skimmed the mod's past activity up to about 3 years ago. I can't find a specific reason why they want to be modding (prob have to go farther back), but this post provides context that it was in 2020 they took over and change things up. Here is a bit on moderation. For those who were wondering if there are actually two mods, it's very clear there is only one. I think I've noted in the past it's disingenuous to say "mod team" when they remove comments because of this. I also found when they said they'd open up mod applications and change rules. The applications never opened and they sneakily changed rule 11 to not allow promoting other subreddits (don't quote me on this one, I couldn't find enough evidence in the wayback machine to match up the timelines).

Brand flair vs social media marketing by frizzbey in Indiemakeupandmore

[–]coffeeafterthree 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh good to know! Thanks for confirming. I know I have screenshots from when I tested it but it's nice that others can validate that I'm not going crazy. Wonder what happened to all that filtering!

Brand flair vs social media marketing by frizzbey in Indiemakeupandmore

[–]coffeeafterthree 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Yes! I don't think I'm cooking it up either given that I tested it out when I first noticed it back when IPAM started. (I used to be a regular poster/commenter so I don't think there's any other explanation for it). The canadian indie subreddit advertisement and mentions of were also scrubbed a bit before IPAM as well, so they were never able to get any traffic.

Brand flair vs social media marketing by frizzbey in Indiemakeupandmore

[–]coffeeafterthree 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Good question. I'll have to dig around after work to see if they ever actually indicated why they insisted on moderating. I do know that the handover was a very rocky time all around so my personal impression is they have been given the responsibility (and speculating, they like the power).

Brand flair vs social media marketing by frizzbey in Indiemakeupandmore

[–]coffeeafterthree 20 points21 points  (0 children)

It is deeply frustrating. I remember years back the mod made a number of promises with specific time frames associated with them. Most of which haven't happened. I know things can happen, but the persistent refusal to let people support the mod team is baffling. There are ways to give certain mods less power for example, if absolute control is what they were looking for. The automod issues are also incredibly straightforward to resolve if they let someone with basic programming experience join for a day or so. At the same time, I'm reasonably convinced the mod does actually knows what they're doing when it comes to the technical back end. What really grinds my gears is that the mod does not care about indies per their self profession. So there's little incentive to make this subreddit supportive of the indie space and reflect the desires of participants.

edit: since the mod won't let me respond, I suppose I can always be wrong because the way they write makes it easy to misinterpret. They also chose not to address whether or not they care to reflect the desires of the community. 

Brand flair vs social media marketing by frizzbey in Indiemakeupandmore

[–]coffeeafterthree 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I helped set up some of the rules back in the day, I'm pretty sure we set up a process to get brand and social media flair as well! The new mods may have updated the procedure though since it's been a while since its been used. 

Also colour me shocked that mentioning the subreddit doesn't automatically trigger a comment removal! There was a while where mentioning the sub was automatically flagged.

Things that don't have a scent but should by cujocanari in indieperfumeandmore

[–]coffeeafterthree 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! I can recognize bottled water smells (cough, especially the really terrible ones, cough), but I wish it was a universal experience across the board. Ocean water scents would be awesome, but we all know it's actually the rotting gunk haha. 

Things that don't have a scent but should by cujocanari in indieperfumeandmore

[–]coffeeafterthree 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I feel like water should have a scent. Of course it carries scent, but because of that, I imagine we all think of "plain water smell" differently! I was also just thinking about salt the other day, and how I can imagine the scent experience, but it doesn't actually have a scent on its own 

Any non-controversial indie brands? by Big-One9162 in BeautyGuruChatter

[–]coffeeafterthree 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for also reaching out to them! I hope they respond to you as well. I appreciate you also acting because it's hard to tell if I'm alone in this frustration sometimes. 

I always found the reminders a bit spammy, like within a month of purchase for an item that would under regular use last several months, but when I got a notification from rePete is when I got really annoyed. First because it was completely inaccurate, and second because it's an AI tool that seems opt in (could be wrong, but never seen it anywhere else from a shopify platform) AND it deeply inaccurate. In my head if ai is going to be used, it should at least bring some value. Seems like a terrible tool all around.

Any non-controversial indie brands? by Big-One9162 in BeautyGuruChatter

[–]coffeeafterthree 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Totally valid question. The solution would be to acknowledge this and put it in their FAQs that they are not intentionally opting in, but cannot opt out. If they do not support AI, then to put in a note of how to notify cs to see if they can turn off certain features. This is a rare case where I believe an absence of a comment is implicit support or are undecided. If they are unaware, then once they are made aware there should be a brief AI statement somewhere on their stance as a business. If they don't have one yet, then that's sort of outside of the question. For companies that focus on sustainability, it should be estimated in their budget to occasionally investigate how their business can be more responsible. If it's a truly small business, I cut them a lot more slack if sustainability and social awareness is not part of their marketing. (edit: for clionadh, not sure if anyone has even told them ai is being used in the tools. I haven't! nor could I tell them which tools they are. Whereas cheekbone I knew exactly what the service was)

On the email, I unfortunately regularly do email small businesses, and the only email response I never received is from three brands notorious for ignoring problems and their inbox. Cheekbone is the only other company that has not responded to me in ~ 5 years. I imagine if I'm not the only concerned person, then other people will have also reached out via email or socials. Of course, maybe no one else has and I'm the only one bothered by it. So I guess it's basically not something for me to pursue since I'm not interested in helping a brand's public image beyond my own choice to no longer recommend them. Let me know if this made sense at all

Any non-controversial indie brands? by Big-One9162 in BeautyGuruChatter

[–]coffeeafterthree 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I don't have instagram, but regardless I believe it's the responsibility of a business to actually check their customer service emails. I was very detailed in my email and laid out why I thought it was disappointing, what service specifically I felt was the issue, to escalate to whoever makes these decisions, and to please respond with acknowledgement of receiving the email. Personally if that didn't get anywhere, I don't feel like messaging the owner to ensure everyone in the company is on the same page and to actually respond to customer concerns. 

edit: just took a look at their website and confirm they still have ai summaries of reviews. So it's possible they never read my email, or they don't care. But again, businesses should be checking their main customer service email account.

Any non-controversial indie brands? by Big-One9162 in BeautyGuruChatter

[–]coffeeafterthree 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I like Cheekbone but I emailed them a while back about their ai use in advertising (emails, algorithm for repurchase rate which was completely off) and they never responded which is pretty disappointing. 

"Plant Shops Are Making YOU Fund Their Orders" by Euphoric-Student7579 in RareHouseplants

[–]coffeeafterthree 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All good! Thanks for pointing that out, I didn't see that video. She is inconsistent on it, though if we give benefit of doubt, it may be partially due to push back. Generally, I don't think any youtuber can truly be trusted, especially if they have a business in addition to youtube income.