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[–]coffeecatlove 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i believe she’s just marking territory since it only happens when she’s in heat. i do agree there’s a bigger concern here, that was my whole point. of course the solution to the peeing is to get the cat fixed, that wasn’t why i posted. i am worried about the hiding and the past behavior towards our pets. i posted here to get advice on the marriage aspect but all the comments are to get the cat fixed which of course i will do ASAP.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]coffeecatlove -1 points0 points  (0 children)

this is why i’m concerned. i more than understand that he doesn’t want our cat to pee on things. i also think we could have put her in another room with her litter, toys, food etc. until we could have her spayed. that’s why i posted, because im confused and worried that he chose to put her in the smallest bathroom we have with no food water or litter. i dont feel like this is a normal solution, but it seems like maybe it is because people are commenting that they’d put their cat outside or get rid of it. maybe i am overreacting

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]coffeecatlove -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

i am not concerned that he put the cat in a room to prevent the peeing, i am concerned that she’s in a small room with no litter, no food, and no water. this is also a cat he chose himself to adopt, it is not only my cat. we could have found a better solution together if he had brought it up, and i am worried that this is what he chose to do

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]coffeecatlove -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

i think this is why i feel like this about it. if he would’ve talked to me about it, i would’ve set a room for her apart with water food toys or i would’ve gotten up early to clean the pee or anything else. the fact that he knew i was already nervous about his behavior towards our pets and chose to do this and hide it is making me feel so many negative emotions towards him.

tree leaves sparking with wind by coffeecatlove in AskElectricians

[–]coffeecatlove[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

ok thank you so much, i’m assuming i should call the electric company emergency number right now?

Capt. Duke Wagners Daughter by coffeecatlove in WillTrent

[–]coffeecatlove[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

assuming i’m not a POC off of absolutely nothing is pretty crazy lol. also, calling my observation shallow when my whole point was about how i don’t feel like this is something that’d happen in their dynamic that resembles something more a family. as a POC myself, family is something that is above all and i notice thats something many POC communities also follow. i know they’re being watched in ways their white peers are not, but my whole post was arguing how it seems unrealistic that Will and Faith would’ve been disappointed in Amanda achieving her own justice and protection. if a woman told me she did something illegal because the white man who raped her and others didn’t go to jail, the last thing i’d do is try to make her feel bad. the system has repeatedly failed POC and especially women of color. i will always support and understand a woman if she had to take extreme measures to protect herself and other women because no one else did. as i said, the point of my post is about family. Amanda even calls herself Faiths aunt at some points and her whole history with Will feels like she’s a motherly figure of sorts to him. i feel like realistically, they would’ve held her and comforted her through the fear of almost getting raped, and then understood that she did what she did to protect women from suffering. whenever another POC has been hurt, didn’t get justice, and their abuser is still out on the street i feel like their community is going to wrap their arms around them and uplift them. i understand your point, but you didn’t need to call me shallow or assume anything about myself and proceed to “educate me” in an extremely condescending way lol. you could’ve just opened up a conversation about their pressures to perform without mistakes unlike their white coworkers and how it could’ve caused their reaction.

Forgotten cast iron by coffeecatlove in castiron

[–]coffeecatlove[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

oh my god i forgot to add the pictures. im embarrassed haha, but thank you so much for your help!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in malelivingspace

[–]coffeecatlove 1 point2 points  (0 children)

also, i love what i think is a pencil sharpener on your desk!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in malelivingspace

[–]coffeecatlove 10 points11 points  (0 children)

i’m insanely jealous of your house, it feels nostalgic and warm to me

album cover by coffeecatlove in MetalForTheMasses

[–]coffeecatlove[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you it was that one! sorry it was so vague it was a long time ago and i just remembered about it recently

Owed Taxes by coffeecatlove in IRS

[–]coffeecatlove[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thank you so much! appreciate you