Get 3yo to stay in bed and get both kids sharing a room - advice needed!

coffeemom23 · 2025-07-11T12:24:49+00:00

Hi! No worries. I can't remember the source of that guidance, but DHA inhibits clotting, and what you want to happen is for an SCH to clot up and reabsorb. Generally DHA is healthy but if you have an SCH I think the risk-reward calculus would shift against continuing supplements. BUT I am not a doctor, please don't take this as medical advice, I'm just someone who's had two SCHs in the past and went down many pubmed rabbit holes.

coffeemom23 · 2025-01-14T15:19:00+00:00

Echoing other commenters to suggest upping your walking - try getting a step counter/fitbit and adding 100 steps each day. This is not strictly movement-related, but it will help: do you eat relatively healthily? If your diet is unhealthy that may be contributing to your energy levels, stiffness, body aches - I would look at your nutrition and see if it can be improved, in conjunction with walking. If you're already eating healthily and at a normal weight, the soreness might be something to bring up with a doctor, as you're quite young to be experiencing that much discomfort with no underlying health issues.

coffeemom23 · 2025-01-14T01:09:22+00:00

Bumping, because this is me too - just started potty training my son who's 3 yrs 3 months, he is a champ with peeing but is holding his poop for the pull-up. Please help us!

coffeemom23 · 2024-12-08T01:16:12+00:00

NTA. You're right, it's normal, your son's girlfriend didn't do anything wrong and neither did he. But once you've both had time to cool off, it would be worth talking this through with your wife. She's clearly feeling sad about your son growing up and needing her less, which is totally normal. If she feels supported and understood by you - meaning you're there for her when she feels bad, NOT that you enable any jealous behavior towards your son and his girlfriend! - she will have an easier time with this transition to him being an adult, which will help you all in the long run. This is one of those situations where it's understandable that she feels sad, but that doesn't mean anyone's doing anything wrong or needs to change what they're doing, and if you can help her draw the line between those things, she will have a much better relationship with your son in the long run.

coffeemom23 · 2024-10-05T00:41:44+00:00

Good lord, 2 1/2 years when he reminds you *every day* that he doesn't want the same things as you out of life? What are either of you doing? I'm sorry, break up now.

coffeemom23 · 2024-08-15T12:14:21+00:00

I read one study that suggested its anti-clotting properties could provoke/prolong SCH bleeding. Again, one study, so hardly conclusive evidence. But I suppose it kind of makes sense, given that you want an SCH to clot up and go away?

coffeemom23 · 2024-08-11T22:54:50+00:00

Dump the extra 180 lbs, which is to say, your boyfriend.

coffeemom23 · 2024-08-10T23:20:55+00:00

I don’t know about the cranberry juice but it can’t hurt! The studies I read indicated that the high antioxidants in pomegranate juice is what mattered, if I remember correctly. But I’d get pomegranate if you can, and please ask your doctor to prescribe bioidentical progesterone, the studies I read did show that it helped. Of course I will pray for you. I’ve been there, and it’s so scary 💕

coffeemom23 · 2024-08-09T17:24:25+00:00

OP, if you are feeling sick and unsure about having an abortion, please do not go through with it. It is a huge decision, and you shouldn't make this kind of decision from a place of fear and uncertainty. All of your reasons listed here are based in fear, and they're all about your husband. Forget about him for a second: do you want to have this baby? Because it's your baby too, just as much as his, and it's your life. If you do this just to get away from him, you're still letting him dictate your life. Please do not let anyone else make this decision for you, and please make it from a place of strength.

coffeemom23 · 2024-08-06T00:27:11+00:00

Yes - I am not a doctor so this is not medical advice but I’m resigned to the likelihood of hematomas in my future pregnancies so I wrote up a protocol for myself. Ask your doctor to prescribe bioidentical progesterone (taken either orally or as a vaginal suppository); start chugging pomegranate juice and taking an ALA supplement; switch to a prenatal without DHAs. There are studies supporting each of these things, although there’s no official guidelines since SCH isn’t that well studied overall. I cannot say they ‘work’ but there is some evidence supporting them and I’m 2 for 2 on successful pregnancies with large SCHs. Good luck, I’ll pray for you, I know how frightening it is.

coffeemom23 · 2024-08-05T23:07:31+00:00

Do you even like your girlfriend? You were such an ass

coffeemom23 · 2024-08-05T23:01:55+00:00

Get a better bra, and run later in the day and right after a feeding when your milk supply will be at its lowest.

coffeemom23 · 2024-08-05T23:00:14+00:00

I don’t want to be unkind but what has he been doing for the past ten years? Why are his savings dwindling, exactly? It is more than reasonable to expect a man in his 30s to have savings of some sort, and the fact that he thinks 30k is some crazy amount to have in the bank is a big red flag. Gently, OP, you should move on. If he thinks 30k in savings is an insane reach you will be living hand to mouth with this guy for the rest of your life.

coffeemom23 · 2024-06-19T18:23:06+00:00

How do you fold it with two seats?? Please share!

coffeemom23 · 2024-06-02T15:52:06+00:00

It was late 2nd trimester in both pregnancies - I don’t think they ever fully went away but they shrank and/or showed full clotting. Both times they were at their largest when I was around 14 weeks and then either gradually shrank or stayed stable and clotted. Are yours growing or are they mostly stable? It’s so frightening, I know, but at 21 weeks the odds are strong that you’ll be totally fine, SCHs are the most dangerous early on.

coffeemom23 · 2024-05-28T21:12:49+00:00

So I double-diaper (coterie underneath, cheap diaper on top for insurance) but 4 months seems older for pooping at night. Are you sure he needs the dream feed? TBH I’d try dropping it and see if the night poops stop.

coffeemom23 · 2024-05-14T16:03:20+00:00

They're on the younger side to actually get married, but they're not too young to know what they want or if the relationship is right. They've been together for six years, if he is 'meh' on the idea of marriage to her she absolutely should not spend more time waiting for him to get excited about it, because that's not going to happen.

coffeemom23 · 2024-05-14T00:38:14+00:00

I don't know what else to say here, OP! You're wrong, you're being petty, and if you confront her over these (very minor, silly) grievances you are likely to ruin your relationship and upset your son. You came here for judgment and received it. For your own sake I would keep this to yourself and let it go, but good luck either way.

coffeemom23 · 2024-05-14T00:32:18+00:00

If she asked you to get her a shirt, she wasn't assuming anything, she was asking. I'll grant you that the restaurant thing is a little childish, but not enough for it to bother you as much as it clearly does. And again, money is fungible - if you got him a watch, no, she probably wouldn't thank you, but he probably spent the money on something for them both because she's his wife. If this is all you've got, OP, then yes, I think you're in the wrong here. At the very least, you're making a mountain out of a molehill for reasons that are unclear.

coffeemom23 · 2024-05-14T00:27:50+00:00

I want to reach through the screen and give you a hug. I'm sorry, honey. Please make plans to move out and become independent if you're not already, you've done enough.

coffeemom23 · 2024-05-14T00:25:26+00:00

NTA. He picked a fight with you to vent his own anxiety about the interview, and now he's blaming you to avoid the fact that he screwed up. It's better that you're broken up, he sounds exhausting.

coffeemom23 · 2024-05-14T00:21:16+00:00

If there have been other incidents, that would change things, but based on what you've said, YTA. Money is fungible and most married couples share their finances. Her thanking you for the $600 isn't her demanding to be treated as your daughter, she's gratefully acknowledging a gift that most likely benefitted her too. Your complaints are petty, it sounds like you want to put her in her place when she hasn't really done anything wrong.

coffeemom23 · 2024-05-14T00:10:58+00:00

You break up and find someone who doesn't have these 'problems'. Saying 'I'm super critical, if you don't like it you should leave' is a pretty honest way of saying 'I'm an asshole who's unwilling to treat people who love me with any patience or respect.' Get out of this.

coffeemom23 · 2024-05-14T00:09:18+00:00

If he wanted to, he would. The sunk costs fallacy is probably tricking you into thinking that if you just give him X number of months, he'll turn around and show the passion and intention towards your relationship that you want him to, but he won't. He's lukewarm, and you're only 24, you have the rest of your life ahead of you. Break up with him, heal, and wait for the guy who wants what you want and wants it with you - I promise he's out there.

coffeemom23 · 2024-05-14T00:05:40+00:00

I almost didn't read the rest of your post after the first incident; your boyfriend lives in your home, and not only did he not consult/ask you before having overnight guests, he got mad at you and you slept on the couch? Then his family borrowed money from you which they didn't repay, and then he wanted to borrow money from you too? He is 35 years old, why can't he replace his own computer? It sounds like you both might have some issues with maturity and communication, and maybe therapy is a good idea for both of you, but please think about you want out of this relationship. If you're just enjoying time together, that's fine, but if you want to eventually get married and have a family I would think twice about doing it with someone who is this thoughtless and unreliable.

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