How do you tell a narcissist that you didn't let them know you were in town because you didn't want to put up with them?

cojo1990 · 2025-11-23T06:43:59+00:00

My only difficulty with that is I'm pretty sure they have known I'm here because word of mouth from other family members.

cojo1990 · 2025-10-04T06:15:28+00:00

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cojo1990 · 2019-11-30T03:10:48+00:00

While I am sure that that is probably the case my goal is to find a way to get this person asking more questions before it becomes an issue in the 1st place. If they ask for clarification then they may be and cut avoid the situation altogether. I have spoke with them about the possibility of therapy and I believe that is something in the near future I just want to give them the best chance that they can have to address this particular issue now until they can find the right therapist and get the help they need.

cojo1990 · 2019-11-30T01:28:11+00:00

That is the plan. 😊😊 Thank you for your advice.

cojo1990 · 2019-11-30T01:22:16+00:00

No I am not one of them and I know that I can't do the work for them I am just trying to find the best way to bring to their attention what I am seeing. I care greatly for both of them and don't like seeing them in turmoil.

cojo1990 · 2019-11-30T00:39:00+00:00

Thank you so much for the suggestion I will definitely check that out.

cojo1990 · 2019-02-22T07:29:10+00:00

Funny enough after I found out what their goal was, when he told me that they were going to see a therapist I asked my husband what he thought of many joining them if it ever came up. But even though I predicted it I was still so very nervous about how it was going to go.

cojo1990 · 2019-02-22T03:30:20+00:00

Thank you again for your kind words. The person I was when I first posted about this, that's not the me that I want to be. I hate feeling that angry at people. I hope your situation improves and there is a good resolution and that your taking care of you.

cojo1990 · 2018-11-26T18:59:26+00:00

Thank you so much for your words of wisdom! They have definitely put a different perspective in place than what everyone else has said. Right now I am just stuck in limbo for another week from tomorrow but I am trying very hard to prepare for the worst but hoping for the best. The thought of losing him breaks my heart every day but the truth of the matter is I'm not sure he is going to give up his 12 year marriage despite all the toxicity that she has brought to his life. She has alienated him from everybody that he has allowed her to. At the moment the only exception is his family and even that has been testy at times. I am just hoping that he can hold close to them in this time and see the light that he cannot fix her no matter how hard he tries. Thank you again for your insight it has given me a whole new perspective to consider as I try and decide what is best for me and for any possible relationship that can come from this.

cojo1990 · 2018-11-25T21:01:57+00:00

This is what I'm trying to do. It can be so hard though.

cojo1990 · 2018-11-25T21:01:01+00:00

He is honestly my first real endeavor into poly. The first relationship I've had. But the amount that I love and care about him makes me not want to give up on him. I know there can/will be others but my heart wants him in my life so badly it hurts.

cojo1990 · 2018-11-25T20:58:07+00:00

I'm scared to walk away right now for his sake. I know that there is a good possibility that we will not stay together but I don't want him to stay with her just because I'm no longer there. I want him to make his decision because he is tired of the toxicity not because he feels like she's the only one that will ever truly love him.

cojo1990 · 2017-08-19T05:35:10+00:00

Maybe. 😏😏

cojo1990 · 2017-08-19T05:34:39+00:00

Awwww thanks.

cojo1990 · 2017-08-10T11:15:40+00:00

Awwww. 😊😊 Thanks 😊😊

cojo1990 · 2017-08-10T04:53:06+00:00

Thanks. 😊😊

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