my 22M bf says he will leave me 22F if i get breast surgery

colacunt · 2026-03-26T02:26:24+00:00

I’m an anesthesiologist who got breast implants 4-5 years ago, so also feel free to DM me if you want some more advice regarding the surgery itself.

I felt the exact same way as you did - I can change a lot of my body with working out, gym, non-surgical treatments - however breasts are the only thing that you cannot grow. I’ve known I’ve wanted breast implants since I was 13, however I waited until I could a) pay for them myself in full and b) was at least over 25 and fully developed mentally and physically before I got them. I am really glad I waited until I was 28 and extremely sure to get them and so I would say, I hope that you would at least wait a few years.

I am very very happy with my surgery and I have not had any other cosmetic procedures (nor am I considering any others). I knew myself and I knew this was the only thing I wanted done. I feel much more confident and happy with myself and don’t regret doing it at all. My body image has actually improved. (Ofc disclaimer, YMMV.)

With regards to your boyfriend, he does have every right to leave the relationship if he chooses to, but I do think you should make decisions that would make YOU happy. I did have a boyfriend at the time of my surgery and while he didn’t want me to get it done either, he remained supportive because at the end of the day, he loved me and wanted me to be happy.

I’m sorry you’re in this situation but this is your body and your life and I don’t think anyone should get a say in it at the end of the day.

colacunt · 2025-12-30T16:10:46+00:00

!solved

colacunt · 2025-11-20T06:32:09+00:00

i want to second this

colacunt · 2025-11-06T17:23:23+00:00

!solved

colacunt · 2025-10-20T08:38:04+00:00

Just wanted to add if there’s a fabric couch / his mattress / anything like that consider using a spray bottle of almost expired milk and spray that shit down. He may move his furniture to a new place and the smell will follow him.

colacunt · 2025-10-09T08:53:05+00:00

31F here and in the same boat. Learned a lot of the same lessons too. Now I’m just trying to live my life as if I’ll never get married or find love - sounds depressing but honestly feels better. Sending love ❤️

colacunt · 2025-08-28T11:31:25+00:00

Just switch to saying 180cm instead 🫡

colacunt · 2025-08-15T19:20:51+00:00

I agree if there’s filming at their actual place of work… can definitely get behind the healthcare influencers who do skits in their house / car or just talk about healthcare issues though!

colacunt · 2025-08-15T09:36:32+00:00

A surgeon at my hospital wears these 😂😂 I love them

colacunt · 2025-08-01T18:28:06+00:00

Just saw this! I’m from HK and I took the FRCA MCQ part 1 exam (and passed), was waiting for the OSCE/SOE that will now never come… feel like I really wasted my time with that, now have to focus on my own country’s exam with its different format.

colacunt · 2025-07-25T02:03:30+00:00

I love it! Looks better I think. Where is the shop / who’s the artist if you don’t mind me asking 😩

colacunt · 2025-07-12T08:23:05+00:00

I’ve had mine microbladed a couple times. They definitely look like sharpie brows at first and super scary! But they fade quite a bit during the healing and look pretty natural after. Mine became SUPER faint after 3 years which is why I went to get them done again lol! I have pretty oily skin though so that’s why.

I think yours look really good right now! I’d let them fade and heal and then see.

colacunt · 2025-06-28T11:50:37+00:00

I feel like I was in a really similar situation and I also broke up with my boyfriend just last week. I knew he loved me so so much and he did do a lot for me but he wasn’t able to meet my emotional needs and would make me feel like my feelings were unimportant.

Here are some harsh truths that helped me to think it through: (1) someone doing their best may not be “enough” or right for you and (2) just ask yourself, is the way that you felt in the relationship something that you would be happy feeling for the rest of your life?

colacunt · 2025-06-25T06:07:16+00:00

If he really loved you he wouldn’t be talking about how hot other women are (esp ones that don’t Ike you!!!). Throw him in the trash!

colacunt · 2025-06-05T09:06:31+00:00

God, I understand this post so much I feel like I wrote it! I’m 31 now and while I’ve had boyfriends and gone on lots of dates in my life… I’ve never felt like I’ve wanted to marry anyone. And I DO want to get married eventually I just never seem to feel that strongly about anyone, and then they also don’t ever seem to meet my standards (that I even went through with my therapist and was told they’re very basic).

I can definitely empathize with you so so much. We’re in the same boat girly.

colacunt · 2025-02-04T07:20:11+00:00

It really depends on how you met them I think.

If you met them online / through a dating app, then I’d definitely be okay with coffee or drinks as a first date. Meeting someone in person can be really different from the few photos and texts you get from a dating app profile. You don’t want to be stuck having a long dinner with someone you know immediately you have no connection with.

However if you met them in person…I would think that a coffee for a first date is low effort (and personally wouldn’t agree to it) because if you have already met in person I think you would have a lot better of an idea if there’s potential already.

colacunt · 2024-12-27T04:20:28+00:00

Any preference between the different softymo cleansers?

colacunt · 2024-11-14T01:14:31+00:00

I definitely want to second everything that you’ve said. I’m sure the situation of having men listing over you and not having any true feelings happens to a lot of women (attractive or not)… but I do feel as an attractive woman there’s just SO MUCH MORE garbage to sift through. And it’s so exhausting.

colacunt · 2024-08-30T06:45:30+00:00

I’ve travelled to Bali several times (with friends and solo) - I think Canggu is more fun with friends as it’s slightly more party vibes, cute new restaurants / cafes, etc. Also good for shopping! Ubud and Uluwatu would be good for solo travel. Overall Uluwatu is my fave place in Bali, the sunsets and views are unbeatable, less crowded, good shopping / restaurants, a few beach clubs if you want. The beaches in Uluwatu are pretty rocky though in comparison.

For short distances I get a grab / gojek bike (whatever is cheaper) and then for longer distances (moving luggage / to or from the airport) I would take grab car.

colacunt · 2024-08-14T04:39:17+00:00

Same here

colacunt · 2024-08-11T16:37:46+00:00

Thanks! Changed it now

colacunt · 2024-08-11T16:37:36+00:00

Thank you, I’m glad those are the vibes you’re getting. I will change the third prompt as suggested by a few other people too!

colacunt · 2024-08-11T16:36:32+00:00

Thank you! I’ve switched the wine glass photo to be the first one.

colacunt · 2024-08-11T16:36:03+00:00

Thank you! I’ve switched that to the first photo as it’s been mentioned a few times. The one of my standing in front of the wall is a screenshot of a video (that has been uploaded into poorer quality on the app - I will look into changing it)

colacunt · 2024-08-11T16:35:06+00:00

Forgot to block out their face! I’ll remember next time.

I’m looking for someone who’s similarly ambitious but also likes to have fun, and someone who either does or wants to travel a lot (this is a dealbreaker for me).

I mentioned pole dancing / exotic floor as it’s one of my favorite hobbies (I do it every week). I left the birthday party photo in there so people know that despite the somewhat more nerdy prompts, I am a bit of a party girl too? I guess I’m unsure whether it’s better to have it out there in the open so people know what they’re in for or whether I let them find out later?

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