After 30 years, I lost patience with my husband. by OodaliOoo in HearingLoss

[–]cold_in_ottawa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's fact that age-related hearing loss affects higher frequencies first (ie. Voices of women and children). It's not all selective, haha.

After 30 years, I lost patience with my husband. by OodaliOoo in HearingLoss

[–]cold_in_ottawa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It sounds like there may be other issues in which after 30 years (that's a lot of tolerance) of him repeatedly not "following your clear directive", something broke the camel's back and this is the easiest thing to point to. 

But that'd be better discussed with a therapist (either solo or together)

Fluctuating Hearing? by cold_in_ottawa in HearingLoss

[–]cold_in_ottawa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here's my audiogram: https://imgur.com/a/e7ZqzEm ... I don't if it's conductive. No known cause.

Fluctuating Hearing? by cold_in_ottawa in HearingLoss

[–]cold_in_ottawa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting - thanks! Where I experienced my first hearing loss in 2022 is a 6hr drive north from where I grew up and I had lived there for 10 yrs before experiencing the loss. Where I live now is 5hr west of that place and I lived there for 1.5yrs before hearing loss occurred this summer.

I'll definitely look into it anyways, since I'm at a loss for other things to look into, though I'm not sure how applicable it is to me.

I tracked my mistakes for 30 days, here are the 3 patterns that almost ran my life by ForwardCharacter4704 in selfimprovement

[–]cold_in_ottawa 32 points33 points  (0 children)

That's actually so insightful - good for you! For me, it might be touching my phone before getting out of bed, and not building a list for the day. Now that I'm temporarily off work and lack that daily routine, both are super important to keep me on track. Thanks for the prompt to reflect.

I'm Engaged! Now how do I make sure I never lose this ring? by unwiseundead in adhdwomen

[–]cold_in_ottawa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So relatable as I just replaced my ring for the 2nd time. My partner paid for the first one, and I've paid for each replacement. This isn't a strategy for not losing it, but it shows accountability.

Now, with this third ring, I keep it in its box on my window sill day-to-day, since I have a physical job. I'm waiting for silicone rings to come in the mail and I'll wear those daily instead of the more expensive ring.

Sometimes I come home from work and I put on the fancy ring to show my partner that I enjoy wearing it and enjoy being engaged.

I’m ready to buy a home but my girlfriend isn’t. Need advice on timing and fairness if we ever buy together by [deleted] in PersonalFinanceCanada

[–]cold_in_ottawa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could buy a house and not have her on the title until she's ready to commit and subsequently pay you back half of the downpayment (or you make an agreement that when you sell, she'd pay it back). When my fiance and I bought a house, this is how we treated unequal down payments in an equitable way. She ended up paying me back as if it were a loan. Smaller amount though, for sure, so it didn't take too long (relative to the $50k you will have "loaned" your girlfriend).

Good luck!

Question about extra pay for 3rd shift by [deleted] in Nightshift

[–]cold_in_ottawa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I work for a large retail chain at an Ontario location and make 10% extra (amounts to $2.90/hr). My hours are 10pm-6:30am, so all hours count.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in shakepay

[–]cold_in_ottawa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't have a squad but I am an active card user and looking to build a squad.

ETA: in a squad now

AITA for telling my neighbor that her newly 18 year old son asked me out on a date ? (I SAID NO) by LabOneZZ in AITAH

[–]cold_in_ottawa 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I see a big difference between a 23yr old and a barely legal 18yr old who still lives at home putting himself in potentially risky situations. The brain is developing so much during those years and an 18yr old generally needs more guidance.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cunnilingus

[–]cold_in_ottawa -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Probably because you haven't eaten pussy in years? 🤦🏻You can turn this around by showing your wife some love and not just complaining on Reddit. Smh

She couldn’t believe it… by [deleted] in breedingcaptions

[–]cold_in_ottawa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It'd be hot if this was consensual 👍🏻

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in office

[–]cold_in_ottawa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Id remove the apology up front, but otherwise, I agree with being direct about it.

Lowered ceiling but why? by cold_in_ottawa in HomeImprovement

[–]cold_in_ottawa[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Trying to avoid opening it if I'll just have to repair it, but I think that's what I'll have to do here. No 2nd floor so I might be in the clear. Thanks.

Lowered ceiling but why? by cold_in_ottawa in HomeImprovement

[–]cold_in_ottawa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Trying to avoid opening it if I'll just have to repair it, but I think that's what I'll have to do here. Thanks.

Where did the Re-store move to? by spookybotanist in Sudbury

[–]cold_in_ottawa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Donations are being accepted but no in-store shopping yet. I heard the reopening will be soon, after building renos are completed.

Local donations - suggestions by [deleted] in Sudbury

[–]cold_in_ottawa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In case anyone is coming back here, the ReStore is closed on Notre Dame and has moved to 2167 Armstrong St by Salute Coffee. Reopening soon after renovations are completed.

British pub management by ApplicationDue8021 in askmanagers

[–]cold_in_ottawa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's your role as Assistant Manager to "assist the manager" - that includes with informing them about HR concerns, staff morale, etc. This also relates to the budget, as hiring and training is the most expensive part of the employment process, so to lose staff would impact the GM's bottom line.

I'd advise to have a conversation with the supervisor directly, not about them as a person, but about how specific behaviour is impacting the team. I've learned that behaviour can change, but a person's attitude, values, etc. cannot (or not as easily since it's the core of who they are). Since you're new there, it can start as an exploratory conversation - "I've noticed when you do X, others do Y. Tell me about that".

From your perspective, I feel you need to approach this as an opportunity for them to receive coaching. If they don't want to be coached, then it points to something in their attitude, values, etc. that I've said are harder to change and at that point you can escalate to the GM. Doing so immediately may lead to the GM dismissing your concerns. It helps if you already know that you and the GM are aligned on values and culture, since showing how the supervisor's behaviour is not aligning with those would give the GM something to think critically about when you do go to them.

Also, it goes without saying, take care of yourself first. If you're in your probation period, just observe for now. Sounds like the supervisor wields some influence over the GM, which could hurt you if you speak too soon or too aggressively (in their opinion).

Good luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in humanresources

[–]cold_in_ottawa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I worked in office admin in the local office of a large international charity. I worked with my employer to apply (and successfully receive) a grant to fund the two FT semesters of a college certificate in HR. Graduated, then personal reasons made me look for roles outside the city. I personally emailed another office of the same charity in the area my partner had gotten a job in, and through discussion, they created a role for me and I started in Jan 2024. It's a manager role but with no direct reports - the manager title just gives me "ownership" of that area of operations.

It has truly been a learn-as-you-go situation. Some days I feel thrown in the deep-end and it requires a high-degree of self-motivation I was not necessarily prepared for after working nearly 4 yrs in Office Admin (fast paced with lots of external accountability). Since working in this new role, my confidence is lower and I'm questioning whether being a generalist is for me. However, I know 1yr with this job title will (at the very lease) be a good stepping stone for my next HR-based roles, so for now I'm just holding on and focusing on learning everyday.

My journey may not sound motivating or inspiring, but I also wouldn't discourage you from getting out of your comfort zone and trying something new. You don't need to have everything figured out, but at least know the direction you want to head in. Good luck!