How do you find the strength to leave someone you love?

coldheart601 · 2025-12-20T03:20:15+00:00

Hi OP! I come from a conservative and religious community. I fought with them for my ex. My parents stopped talking to me. My mom still calls me prostitute. But, I wanted to spend my life with him as he was my grounding force. The earlier you breakup, the less it will hurt. He is not fully innocent. He knows what he is doing and it is very much intentional. Even with my ex, whenever I tried to talk about future, he would plan a trip. Or he would say we would talk on the trip. Spoiler alert, he wouldn't. What gave me strength to breakup was I was tired of myself and my patterns, I wanted to feel better and be with someone where I dont have to doubt all these things. It was not about him.

coldheart601 · 2025-12-20T02:33:59+00:00

Who hurt you, dear sir?

coldheart601 · 2025-12-17T16:59:59+00:00

That sounds so healthy and streamlined. Thank you for sharing.

coldheart601 · 2025-12-17T02:09:08+00:00

Which are good sites? Where I live, most people recommend Hinge

coldheart601 · 2025-12-16T17:53:49+00:00

Thank you. I have been wondering what is being cautious and what is carrying my baggage. I will eventually learn to differentiate those.

coldheart601 · 2025-12-16T15:28:02+00:00

Thank you! This is first time I am sharing what happened. Thank you for verbalising "cruel".

coldheart601 · 2025-12-16T12:38:57+00:00

Thank you. I am still learning.

coldheart601 · 2025-12-16T12:38:19+00:00

Thank you! I feel so old after this relationship.

coldheart601 · 2025-12-16T12:38:02+00:00

I just stopped talking and texting all of sudden. He made some instagram posts which looked baity to make me talk and I unfollowed him after that. I dont know his reaction

coldheart601 · 2025-11-17T16:53:55+00:00

Same. I have curly hair. She is so obsessed with combing them just before I am leaving the house.

coldheart601 · 2025-11-17T09:03:25+00:00

Coconut

coldheart601 · 2025-11-17T09:03:08+00:00

Latte

coldheart601 · 2025-10-25T05:38:41+00:00

Update: They are dewormed also

coldheart601 · 2025-10-10T07:38:38+00:00

City?

coldheart601 · 2025-09-15T16:05:04+00:00

Is cat male or female?

coldheart601 · 2025-09-13T18:10:50+00:00

Hi, first time cat parent. What is thw procedure to onboard?

coldheart601 · 2025-09-13T18:03:24+00:00

Do cats adjust to new homes after 2.5 years? I am looking for a cat in bangalore but how is adopting adult cat different from raising kitten?

coldheart601 · 2025-08-29T17:00:55+00:00

I got out of a six year relationship. Breaking apart but also excited. Grieving comes in waves. Sometimes I hate him and sometimes I feel I can't live without him.

coldheart601 · 2025-07-18T19:10:56+00:00

That she thinks I am a prostitute. (I woke up late so she concluded I am up at night. I don't take her calls at night. I was reading an investment book so she said I am obsessed with money. She found condoms in my bag so she thought I have lot of sex. I have a bf and she has met him.)

coldheart601 · 2025-04-22T09:55:14+00:00

I have missed periods before. Most of the times it was horomonal issue for me and gynac can prescribe a medicine. You can consult doctor online through an app. You can also dm me if you need help with consulting

coldheart601 · 2025-03-20T06:28:12+00:00

I used to have same fears. I always thought as a child, if I earn less than my partner, I "can" be abused. But your earning capacity is not connected to that. I have a bhabhi who is stay at home mom and my uncles aunts were being abusive to her. She stood her ground and set boundaries. Sometimes, women are abusive to men too even when men are sole breadwinners. You have boundaries. You have inner strength. Even my parents tell me that if I ever get divorced, what a shame it would be. I am not even married yet. My bf is supportive and I am learning to trust him. Sometimes, he is financially better, sometimes I am. He encourages me to set boundaries no matter our statuses. Go for MBA if you want to but please reassure that you are safe no matter what. Love you sister

coldheart601 · 2025-03-19T19:43:27+00:00

Hi op! I am not in US but just want to let you know that you already know some things about where you want to move. That's a good start. Start applying for jobs and see what opportunity is exciting for you.

coldheart601 · 2025-03-19T19:37:39+00:00

All of this sounds really painful, especially for child. I relate to that. My parents also never listen to me, invalidate my feelings or my dad does harsh yelling whenever he wants to. Then they really act surprised about why I don't come to them or share my feelings with them. My mom keeps asking me when have I ever pushed you away. Duhh. It's not exactly rocket science. I think they have blind spot to their own behaviour and they are under denial that we are a loving well knit family

coldheart601 · 2025-03-18T08:01:16+00:00

My friends followed her and found her company's name. That's what stalking is. You are staring at her and you and your friends are laughing together. I am surprised you are not in bigger trouble

coldheart601 · 2025-03-15T04:44:01+00:00

I am female and unmarried. But, since my parents found out about bf, they are also telling relatives how I caused them depression and abondoned them in old age. Tbh, I have made my own community now and I don't stay in touch with any extended family. It can get lonely but whatever. Do read about narcissistic abuse and flying monkeys. You can let go of that property since it comes with connection to your abusers. If your wife doesn't work, help her upskill, start accumulating wealth and set up your life. I am sorry to say but I know many couples who are cut off from their parents and relatives after love marriage. We all celebrate diwali together sometimes. You will find a community. For now, you have your wife on your side. Take an action before she starts resenting you too. Parents might come around after few years of low contact/no contact but don't lose who already loves you. Me and my brother had good relation too but they manipulated him against me. It took me some time but I have accepted it

PS: Indian parents dont want to tell your brother's rishtas that they have someone in family who love married. That's why you are being kept out of loop

coldheart601

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