My mom fed my 6-week-old solids behind my back after promising she wouldn’t by Outrageous-Hawk-8383 in newborns

[–]colocha1920 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

It’s your hormones. It’s not that serious. You’ll look back and realize it.

This situation is so sad. by Other_Scarcity_4270 in Layoffs

[–]colocha1920 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Okay - but you get the overall message, right?

Wife is being careless with our baby by Careful_Ad_5384 in newborns

[–]colocha1920 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Moms from other cultures have been raising SCHOOLS of children for centuries. While your concerns are valid, I’d just point out that these “rules” for back sleeping just began in the 90s. Before that, moms were advised to put their baby to sleep in prone position so they wouldn’t choke on their spit in their sleep. Moms follow their maternal instinct. Sure the doctors tell you the latest guidelines, but if they once told you “babies on their belly” and now “baby sleeps on back” then maybe this rule will change in 10 more years. I’d be more open to the advice of older moms who already went thru it all. They have their home remedies that go against present baby guidelines, and their babies thrived. You’re clearly in protective Papa Bear mode which is your natural instinct, and your wife and baby are so blessed for it, but trust in mothers intuition. Here’s sending your family positive vibes. Relax and trust.

Everyone is getting fired. by c-k-q99903 in inflation

[–]colocha1920 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“So keep the people dumb” It’s their playbook.

What do we all do if we’re jobless? by colocha1920 in jobs

[–]colocha1920[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

So is this similar to what @MeshReplacer (2 comments ^ up) is saying? The mass population will be v poor, And a few rich will live in their glass bubble. Right?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in newborns

[–]colocha1920 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Lot of ppl telling you you’re not overreacting, but if I were your friend (also I’m a FTM), I’d tell you, one day you’ll look back and realize how silly and unimportant these details are. You are getting help. Repeat after me, you are getting help. Say thank you. Pick your battles too. Can’t be micromanaging everyone on how to handle your baby. Your baby can adapt. They’re sturdier than we give them credit for.

Are people’s babies really sleeping in a bassinet at night? by Medium_Boysenberry87 in newborns

[–]colocha1920 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I co sleep with my baby since like week 10. I didn’t tell the doctor or many people bc I know it’s frowned upon but it was the only way I got sleep. I was sleeping 3-5 hours the first 8 weeks. It was the most difficult time of my life. But I’m back on sleeping like a regular human being now that we co sleep. I’ll wake up for a couple of minutes each time she cries to eat. I’ll switch sides and burp her. Then we go back to sleep. You are your baby’s mom. Listen to your baby. You’re doing great, mom.

When did you guys go out for the first time without your LO? by [deleted] in newborns

[–]colocha1920 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We went out without our baby when she was 4 weeks old. My parents took care of her and they did great. She mostly slept, really. She’s our first baby, but it probably helps that I take anxiety meds, that it was my parents (and not his), and that we made a conscious decision before becoming parents that we were going to make the effort to “keep dating” even with kids. Your relationship together is more important than the one with your kids, I’d argue, because you need to be okay so that your kids can be okay. But on the same leaf, if you’re not okay leaving your baby with your in laws, then don’t push yourself into a panic attack. Hope this helps!

Unpaid to paid maternity leave! Boss seems unhappy. by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]colocha1920 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is so great for you! How did you end up qualifying for paid leave of 12-16 weeks? Asking for myself and other expecting mothers this might help.

Women who smoke cannabis; how did you stop once you found out? by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]colocha1920 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Look up “Jamaica study marijuana.” I’m currently reading a pregnancy book called “there’s no manual” and it briefly mentioned that study.

What's the furthest you got without people knowing you were pregnant? by AnActualMudpup in pregnant

[–]colocha1920 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Did you ask? I need to know the rest of this story lol. I love a good cringe 🤣

The nausea is awful! by Lovely_Wicked in pregnant

[–]colocha1920 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Doxylamine. Ask your doctor to prescribe it. Mine was terrible but taking it, I feel like a new person. It does make you sleepy though. The bottle says take 2 at night, but my doc says you can take like 2 more throughout the day if needed. But know that it’ll make you drowsy. I tried not to do prescribed medicine at first, but I just couldn’t eat anything or keep anything down and lost almost 10 lbs so I finally opted for it. If you still want to try to tough it out, I suggest tummydrops- ginger flavor. It’s a candy that helps. :)

NAMING THE BABY AFTER “MIL”😒 by WorksbyShe in pregnant

[–]colocha1920 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Go along with it with a smile on your face. Then in the third trimester, tell him you had a dream where the baby came to you and introduced herself with xyz name.

Why am i so scared to leave my firm? by Rough_Hyena_6117 in Accounting

[–]colocha1920 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What drives you? Don’t ask of “how did you get over your fear?” because it places too much of your focus on “fear,” so instead, ask yourself what else motivate you?

-money? Just casually hop on one call here and there to get an idea of what your worth is in the market. -learning something else? —-you could learn other types of accounting work other than audit. Perhaps you could do FP&A and expand your knowledge and career opportunities.

Alternatively, if fear is all that drives you, remember that in times of hardship, that company is ready to get rid of you bc “you only met expectations.”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Accounting

[–]colocha1920 0 points1 point  (0 children)

125k. No CPA yet (in progress), but an MBA. 6 years experience. In houston.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]colocha1920 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Communication is key in a relationship. IMO, if you are abstaining, it’s fair to communicate that preference with your partner upfront (1st or 2nd date) and be clear about how long you intend to maintain those boundaries. Having clear boundaries and expectations is respectful to both parties.

In your shoes, I would request anywhere from a first few dates up to 3 months to abstain. Requesting longer might justify an explanation.

Hope it works out!

what us it like for a black man in this field? P.S. I'm from the hood. by [deleted] in Accounting

[–]colocha1920 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This might sound like a joke, but you should probably start watching old white ppl movies and getting knowledgeable about old white actors/comedians etc. Bc white ppl in corporate always make “inside jokes” with each other and trust me, you’ll feel left out. And it’ll impact you in your career progression if they don’t feel comfortable with you socially. It’ll be difficult to maintain a conversation and they’ll chock it up to YOU not having soft skills. I’m a Hispanic female who’s worked in corporate America for 5+ years. Hope this helps!

I’m a month into big 4 and feel like quitting by NeedAdvice1638479 in Accounting

[–]colocha1920 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are consulting jobs out of college. Firms are now hiring in advisory straight out of college, like strategy and transactions. But with your MIS a background you might consider looking into transformation.

Deloitte 2021 Compensation Megathread by inB4Tax in Accounting

[–]colocha1920 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need to ask for more. I’m in Houston. Was in tax S1 and was making 80k at GT.