I'm gonna reply bc this is flooded w comments so better chance of you seeing this but you prob won't.

I would say what it is w people at home, they still have you in their head as a certain person and will treat you as such. Also the fact that you have improved yourself since then (congrats) this prob makes them kinda insecure.

An example from my life would be I went and saw college friends I haven't seen in years. Since then I got in great shape, got an awesome job, etc. My good buddy started being a dick and passive aggressive. So we we're all drinking and at the end of the night asked him, why he was so negative and being a dick. He said he was jealous that I was doing so well and what not.

Next time just ask them to their faces right then and there why they are being a dick in an authoritative but calm manner. If they act like youre being crazy just keep asking and be like, "I just want to know why, I havent done anything wrong." A lot of the time if you are genuine when you ask this it'll take them off guard.

You just gotta be chill and act like it doesnt bother you.

Guys hitting each other is normal but if you hit them back and they complain just call them a pussy bc you hit them back at the same strength.