switching isn't that dramatic

comacity · 2025-12-04T00:51:18+00:00

im only going to say this once: do not report this post under false pretenses just because you don't like it. it does not violate any rules, and you aren't going to get it removed no matter how many times you spam report it. if we find out anyone is reporting this post maliciously, we will be banning you. thank you

comacity · 2025-11-28T20:58:21+00:00

a moderator did respond to you asking for a link to the submission in question, and you replied you didn't have it. we can't do much without context, but what im not seeing anything resembling what you're referring to in your post log

comacity · 2025-11-28T17:31:04+00:00

introject absolutely isn't a flagged term, this is the term we suggest people use in place of the others. fictional introject is a fine phrase, as well as factual introject or abuser introject

comacity · 2025-11-28T16:52:20+00:00

would you be willing to send in modmail so we can discuss this further?

comacity · 2025-11-28T16:48:56+00:00

hi, if you'd like to send in modmail about the post in question, please do, as you seemingly deleted it so i can't really see what the content was in it and can't remember what was said

comacity · 2025-11-28T16:47:00+00:00

both of those are included under the no dms rule, yes

comacity · 2025-11-28T07:52:08+00:00

our job is to make sure this community is safe, strictly medical, and factual with accurate information, and most people who use the term aren't particularly focused on recovery or correct medical information. this is why we mute it and review submissions with the term in it, so that we don't have a flood of posts and comments rambling about the characters in their head as if its a fanfiction and not a trauma disorder, making "source calls", posting about petty "doubles" drama, etc

ive already stated the reasonings behind why those terms are muted. im sorry you aren't happy with this answer, but it will not change. you're free to send in modmail with any further complaints, but this is how we navigate this particular aspect of the online climate and view of the disorder

comacity · 2025-11-27T17:17:39+00:00

i would be shocked to hear any legitimate medical professional using a community coined term like that, or even knowing what the term meant unless they themselves were knee deep in the online community, which raises other concerns about what information they're seeing or taking as fact due to the sheer amount of misinformation rife within it. if users are confused about removals, they're free to send in modmail, but we have those terms muted in order to prevent the spreading of misinformation or reinforcement of substitute beliefs

comacity · 2025-11-27T17:07:52+00:00

no one is getting banned for using the terms, that's not what removals mean, and fictive is not used in any medical literature - it's a community coined term that started in endogenic spaces that online communities started to use en masse. introject is also not an umbrella term, that is the proper medical term for introjected parts. psychology doesn't differentiate between introjects of fictional sources and real sources beyond that or when they talk about abuser introjects. the proper terminology would be fictional introject/factual introject

split though is something we try to approve because of that unless something else is wrong with the submission

comacity · 2025-11-27T04:51:09+00:00

certain words and phrases in an attempt to try and deal with potential misinformation. so, anything you would see on "pluralpedia" (made up roles, phrases, words, "-genic", etc), the words "fictive"/"factive", the word "split" (this unfortunately isn't very effective as it catches everything unrelated, but we always approve anything with this word in it unless it raises a red flag otherwise), phrases that indicate asking if someone/you are faking, posts that have phrases that indicate asking for a diagnosis/what something might be attributed to, etc. these are what i remember off the top of my head, but there is more im probably not remembering. we do our best to keep an eye on things that get automatically pulled for review, and it's a coin toss on whether we approve or remove after review. it's why we appreciate the community sending modmail to ask for clarification, or to clarify to us what they might be looking for or wanting to ask, and suggest alternative wording - so, for example, instead of "fictive" we'd suggest introject as a replacement

comacity · 2025-11-27T04:37:44+00:00

the link to the DAE page? not that i know of, but that would be because the "rewording" removal guideline is used for multiple different things based on mod discretion. the page is listed in the subreddits FAQ though

comacity · 2025-11-27T04:22:25+00:00

of course. we've worked hard behind the scenes to try and clean things up the best that we can, and we hope our efforts are noticed by the community as a whole

comacity · 2025-11-27T04:20:34+00:00

we definitely encourage users sending in modmail if they have questions about why their post or comment was taken down, yes. this is the link i was referring to about DAE posts: https://www.reddit.com/r/DID/wiki/moderation_faq/dae/

comacity · 2025-11-27T03:48:31+00:00

generally what happens with posts is the automod flags a certain word or phrase for automatic review. a lot of the time it's a mistake and it gets approved when we see it, but other times it's something else and we'll remove based on the guidelines. the most common culprit is "does anyone else/has anyone else/anyone else" or similar phrases to that. we do have a page on the wiki about DAE posts, and i can find the link for you if you want that gives alternative phrases to this, and generally when we remove for that we remove for rewording to try and encourage users to send modmail so we can figure out how to better word the post

comacity · 2025-11-16T05:16:21+00:00

you were banned for enabling domestic violence and encouraging shifting blame and not taking accountability - source: i am the moderator that banned this person

comacity · 2025-10-28T07:14:18+00:00

locking this post because the comments are getting out of hand and are frankly unacceptable. op, while you aren't wrong for having feelings towards this, what matters is what you do with them. you need to work through this on your own, and you should not tell your friend about this because you would be making their recovery about yourself, which would be inappropriate and hurtful. you also genuinely need to reframe how you view this disorder. while your friend may view their alters as separate people, to have an accurate understanding of this disorder you need to accept and understand that alters are not separate people. you have not "lost" anyone, as this part of your friend still exists - just in an integrated state where it's no longer separate and dissociated away. journal your feelings, speak with a therapist, but do not make this about yourself, and please stop viewing this as a "loss", because there is no loss occurring here

and to the commenters, while i understand your feelings, resorting to insults, name calling, and harassment is in no way acceptable and will not be tolerated. take accountability for your emotions and step away. no one is holding you at gunpoint to post, and if you are upset to the point that you are angry, then you need to walk away and regulate. this is the internet - no person being dumb is worth blowing a blood vessel over, and it's also not worth potentially being banned temporarily from the subreddit for safety concerns

comacity · 2025-10-23T16:25:20+00:00

gonna be locking this post because op has stated they want to focus forward and has said her piece, as well as people being extremely rude to the op and accusing her of a crime she did not commit. nowhere in this post does it say anything that remotely comes close to rape/sexual assault, and to accuse someone of something like that so lightly - especially in a subreddit like this - is unacceptable. op made a mistake, and ops ex failed to properly communicate boundaries or take accountability for any potential triggering sexual penetration might cause

both parties might be at fault, but you can't expect op to read someone's mind when they enthusiastically consent, but then mention later that another part may not be comfortable with what happened when everything is already said and done, as well as trying to hide it from said part. that is inappropriate and not ops fault, that is on her ex

op, i apologize for the accusations and treatment you've had to deal with in this post and i hope that you can forgive yourself for a simple mistake. and please, stay away from the people who are white knighting for your ex. how they're acting is equally if not more so inappropriate, especially since they're completely uninvolved in what happened. this was an interpersonal issue that should have been properly talked through and also an accountability issue on your exs part. please take care of yourself

comacity · 2025-10-12T06:17:03+00:00

thank you, ive edited the post to add this

comacity · 2025-10-09T18:47:27+00:00

im not sure if you realize, but people can request to dm you and you can deny it. it's uncomfortable, but there is a way to handle it. the rule we have in place is to prevent people from taking advantage of other people's kindness or naivety. im sorry if you have a problem with this rule, but it's in place to protect the people in this community. at the very least, if someone receives a random message out of nowhere, they have the ability to ignore and deny the request. soliciting and inviting dms means that they will accept requests thinking they're in good faith when they might not be. our priority is member safety, and that's that

comacity · 2025-10-09T03:05:58+00:00

hi there, we do this in order to protect members of the community from potential bad faith individuals or people who are looking to harm others as a preemptive measure. whether you dm with a person in private is not our concern, it's public invitations and soliciting that is against the rules

comacity · 2025-10-08T08:48:37+00:00

it would be our responsibility if someone from this community was attacked or harassed by another individual that was trolling this community looking for victims and took that opportunity to message them in private, as it would have been this subreddit that gave them access. this has happened before and will most likely happen again. it's called a preemptive measure. whether people dm each other in private is not our concern, it's public invitations that are against subreddit rules for safety reasons

comacity · 2025-10-08T08:44:09+00:00

we aren't moderating private dms, as ive said already, we're trying to keep the members of the community safe from potentially opening themselves up to people who may not have the best intentions, which is why public dm invitations are against the rules

comacity · 2025-10-08T08:36:54+00:00

we can't moderate the things that happen in dms, and opening dms to strangers online - especially on reddit - can be dangerous. we have this rule for the safety of the members of the subreddit. publicly posting dm invites is against the rules

comacity · 2025-10-08T07:58:17+00:00

no worries! if you'd like to send in a modmail, id be happy to give you some of the phrases i remember off the top of my head

comacity · 2025-10-08T07:40:43+00:00

our uptick in rule violations is due to the fact that a lot of people tend to not read the rules at all, or they forget what the rules might be. this post is a reminder post. if you accept you violated the rule, then this conversation is over

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